LOVE AT ANY COST.
By Kandase
@Kandae11 (53679)
September 3, 2017 9:51am CST
I was watching this movie the other night about an upper- middle class suburban housewife whose family was being torn apart. The family crisis began when the mother found out that her precious 18 year-old son was sleeping with her best friend - a woman who was 20 odd years his senior.
What was her initial reaction when she found out? - she wanted to call the police! - but was reminded by her husband that their son was an eighteen year old young man with a mind of his own.
Love at any cost :- the son moved out to avoid the arguments with his mother, and his lady love lost a friendship with his mother which dated back to their teenage years - love at what cost?
How would you react if you were the parent of that young man - who by the way - was in his last semester at high school ? And if it happened that you fell in love with your best friend's son - would you weigh the consequences and stop before the relationship evolved?- or would you go right ahead? - love at any cost.
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@vandana7 (98804)
• India
3 Sep 17
I don't give a damn what my son would do, but if it was my daughter, I might have asked her, sweetie, that path does not lead to marriage or even everlasting happiness...are you sure you want to go that way. If she said yes, then the choice is hers. If not, then too the choice is hers. 18 years to me is a good age to be able to decide right and wrong, especially in our times.
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@vandana7 (98804)
• India
3 Sep 17
@Kandae11 .. I ain't agreeable to that. That is her moral. What my son or daughter do, will be in their account book. My duty as a parent is to tell them this is moral, and this is not. They understand. I am not to police them. God gave free will, and I need to respect that.
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
3 Sep 17
That is quite something..I guess the friend would have to make up her mind to give up her friendship.
I have never been in this situation and cannot even fathom what I would do.
I do know that people are going to do what they want to do when it comes to relationships no matter what anyone else thinks or says or does.
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
3 Sep 17
@Kandae11 Well I say it is fine if it is true love..(whatever that is) haha..I know it happens.
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@RasmaSandra (73368)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
3 Sep 17
I would never do such a thing. Best friends are not dime a dozen and to do something like that with a friends son no thank you I don't need the trouble.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
3 Sep 17
First of all no matter how attracted to a "MINOR" you do not act on that attraction, its called eye candy you look but you DO NOT touch! Here in the USA you have to be 19 years old, some thing 21 years old to be considered an adult to make your own decisions. I would have called the police and had her arrested.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
4 Sep 17
I don't think I would go all crazy, this sounds more like a fling than a real love affair. I guess I think, boys will be boys.
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@hostessman (11871)
• Tucson, Arizona
3 Sep 17
i am not sure what i would do until i was confronted with the situation
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
4 Sep 17
I think I have seen that movie or one similar - can't remember the name though. I wouldn't like it but not sure there is anything I would be able to do about it.
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
3 Sep 17
Oh that's a hard question. The boy was 18 - so an adult. If I were the friend - I would consider carefully - did I truly love the young man? Or did I simply desire him? If it was only desire - I would hope that I would move along. If I truly loved him I would talk at length and maybe wait a year or two, be friends, and see if the feelings stayed the same. I think the perversion comes in that the woman and man's mom were friends. Did she know him, growing up - as a little boy? I'm not sure I could romantically be interested in someone I knew when they were a kid and I was older. Ick. I'd always picture them as a kid even if they were adult. However as for an older woman and younger man - as long as both are adults I do not see an issue. Older men date younger women all the time and no one bats an eye.
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@augusta123 (6649)
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3 Sep 17
That's no love to me.I think it is still child abuse.What's a young boy doing with his mother's age mate?
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@JasperTore (1275)
• Philippines
4 Sep 17
This is a complicated love story indeed. But as they say, love conquers all and love knows no boundary.
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@JasperTore (1275)
• Philippines
5 Sep 17
@Kandae11 Yeah. Love is a broad topic to talk about.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
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5 Sep 17
it seems she was at fault from the beginning. The young man was sent by his mother to her home to help her with some packing and the first thing she did was to weep on his shoulder - triggered by a phone call she received just as he entered the home. Right then and there a contact was established.
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@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
4 Sep 17
I would feel betrayed and upset. I am notruly sure I could get past it.
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.@Kandae11 (53679)
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6 Sep 17
@YrNemo Men go out with women half their age - so why can't women do the same?. The problem with this particular scenario is that the young man in question is the son of the woman's best friend who violently disapproves - I say violently because she slapped the errant lady across the face.
@YrNemo (20261)
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5 Sep 17
@Kandae11 We were brought up following the traditional way and feel comfortable with it. Every now and then, one would hear a case in which a female broke out of that boundary and 'in carnal love' with a younger person who was about her own son's or grandson's age group. (I chatted to a 70s YO lady who was proud of her 3 yrs relationship to a 20s young man. He needed free boarding and free whatever else. She needed that whatever else. They both were very contented with that short term relationship.)
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@resukill22 (25052)
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
4 Sep 17
I will talk to my friend that if she want to. Committed with someone I suggest Is not my son. Because she is also a mom to my son. She also give her advice if my son need it. Not for relationship.
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@mildredtabitha (16053)
• Nairobi, Kenya
4 Sep 17
I would weigh the consequences and stop it soon.
On the other hand, if it happened to my son but nothing has happened between them yet, I would warn my friend and ask my husband to talk to my son about effects of such relationships.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
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4 Sep 17
@mildredtabitha I think the pressure from family and friends will eventually get to him.
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@mildredtabitha (16053)
• Nairobi, Kenya
4 Sep 17
@Kandae11 That explains very well the expression "love is blind"
It is sad to know he never considered his parents advice. I think he will regret that decision when he gets a little older.
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