Strange Turn of Events Today

@moffittjc (32136)
Gainesville, Florida
September 11, 2017 7:33pm CST
In the midst of everything going on with the hurricane today, we had a tragic event happen at home. Last night, in the middle of the hurricane, my daughter's dog had what we thought was a series of seizures. God bless the University of Florida, because even during the hurricane their emergency vet hospital was still open. We took the dog to the hospital, where they were able to diagnose that she had a stroke. They stabilized her, gave her medication, and sent us home to ride out the storm. Early this morning, the dog had another stroke, and we once again rushed her to the vet hospital. While there, they determined that the dog was not getting enough oxygen to her brain, and her condition was going to continue to worsen. I told my daughter and the vet that I would spare no expense to treat her and try to give her a fighting chance. My 17-year old daughter, who has had this dog since she was 2 years old, made the most adult decision of her life...she told the vet that she wanted to euthanize the dog so she didn't have to suffer anymore. I had known that this was the most humane decision that could be made in this situation, but I wasn't going to suggest that to my daughter, who considered her dog a loving member of the family. But I was proud of her for making the right decision, even though that meant losing a beloved member of our family. After giving my daughter about 15 minutes to spend alone with her dog, they took the dog back into the operating room and euthanized her. My poor daughter cried in my arms for about an hour, then went home and slept the whole rest of the day. I remember as a child losing my first pet, also a dog. I cried for days. I expect my daughter will be grieving for quite a while over losing a family member who has been there for her almost her entire life. I will just be there for her as best I can and help her get through this unexpected tragic situation. Have any of you had to deal with a child losing a beloved pet? And if so, what are some of the things you did to help console them?
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@Happy2BeMe (60112)
• Canada
12 Sep
I am so sorry for the loss of your pet. This will be very difficult for your daughter. There is not a lot you can do but be there for her through this difficult time. She needs time to grieve.
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@moffittjc (32136)
• Gainesville, Florida
12 Sep
The poor girl cried on my shoulder for an hour, and she was hugging me so tight that whole time that I could hardly breathe. But I know that she'll be okay with the passing of time.
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@Happy2BeMe (60112)
• Canada
12 Sep
@moffittjc it is hard as a parent when our children are hurting and there is not much we can do to ease their pain.
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@moffittjc (32136)
• Gainesville, Florida
12 Sep
@Happy2BeMe I know, it breaks my heart. But I also know it is part of life, and part of growing up. All I can do is to be there for her and give her a big hug and tell her how much I love her. Time will heal her.
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@CinnamonGrl (5494)
• Paradise, California
12 Sep
I am so sorry for your family's loss. Our pets definitely are members of the family. I think it's more that I cried alongside my kids rather than was able to console them. It takes some grieving time.
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@moffittjc (32136)
• Gainesville, Florida
12 Sep
The funny thing was, I never really liked the dog, but she was a member of the family. At the point yesterday when my daughter made the decision to euthanize the dog, I wanted to cry to. She was a good dog.
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• United States
12 Sep
The only pet I've lost was a small turtle and some beta fish. They weren't too sentimental to me because it was more of my sisters pet (turtle) and fish (dad's pet). Do you think it was because all of the loud storm/rain/win noises in addition to the age of her/your dog that caused the seizures? Or it has happened before? I am sorry to hear this had to happen.. however dog is no longer suffering
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@moffittjc (32136)
• Gainesville, Florida
12 Sep
Well, it ended up being mini-strokes, not seizures, that the dog was having. But we didn't know at the time. It turns out she had an auto-immune disease that caused her body to make too many platelets and white blood cells, which caused her blood to thicken and clot in her arteries and veins. Ultimately, that's what caused the strokes.
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• United States
12 Sep
@moffittjc Oh I see! If that was for humans, (too many platelets) then they'd have to get routined check up and blood withdraws every few months. But I don't know how it works for a dog. :( I am sorry for your family especially daughters pet loss.
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@sallypup (18813)
• Moses Lake, Washington
12 Sep
@moffittjc What was the fur person's name?
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@GardenGerty (87818)
• Marion, Kansas
12 Sep
I am sorry that this happened along with everything else. I am glad you offered to treat the dog and essentially allowed your daughter to have this rite of passage of making an adult decision. You have raised her well and you will be her rock.
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@FourWalls (8443)
• United States
12 Sep
I'm so sorry. Kudos to your daughter for understanding how to not be selfish. I always say that the last act of love we perform for our pets is the one that breaks our hearts. Prayers for you and your daughter....and it would appear to me, based on this story, that you've raised her correctly.
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@moffittjc (32136)
• Gainesville, Florida
12 Sep
Thank you! My daughter is the most caring person in the world. But she is also a very smart person. She did not want her dog to suffer any more. Unfortunately, my daughter was with her dog each of the times she had her strokes (which at the time were seizures), and I'm sure that really rattled my daughter to witness something like that. She knew she didn't want to see her dog go through that suffering anymore. The nice thing was, the dog was doing fine and in good spirits when we put her down, so my daughter will at least have a good memory of her dog in the final moments, instead of one where the dog was suffering.
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@bwjsdems (495)
• New Zealand
12 Sep
Over the years we've lost a few pets, but the one that my daughter remembers the most is the cat that I took to the vet and then decided to euthanaze while there. My daughter still reminds me that I didn't tell her before hand that it was a likely outcome - but at age 4 I didn't think it was an issue as she was my cat and was 14 years old and quite ill. Since then, I've always told her about the seriousness of any illness, and we choose to bury our pets at home. we have a little graveyard by the house with my cat and a few guinea pigs in there. I think she copes a lot better having the chance to say goodbye. She still cries and misses the cat occasionally, but we have photos around of all our pets past and present, and I let her know that they are just as important in our family as the people.
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@moffittjc (32136)
• Gainesville, Florida
12 Sep
We spent the evening telling funny stories about her dog, or things the dog did that made us laugh. So in between crying, my daughter was also laughing. But it's an important part of the grieving and healing process for her.
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@jstory07 (57619)
• Roseburg, Oregon
12 Sep
We have loss four cats and one dog and my kids were very upset over the loss of their pets.
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@moffittjc (32136)
• Gainesville, Florida
12 Sep
Unfortunately, when you have pets, it is an inevitable part of life.
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@rebelann (28296)
• El Paso, Texas
12 Sep
I haven't known a child that went through this kind of sadness but perhaps under the circumstances she could be persuaded to help with some of the surviving pets of the hurricane, it'll ease her heart a little. to her for putting her beloved pets needs before her own.
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@moffittjc (32136)
• Gainesville, Florida
12 Sep
Well, she does volunteer at the local animal shelter, so maybe I should ask if she wants to go there and help out.
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@moffittjc (32136)
• Gainesville, Florida
19 Sep
@rebelann I figure I will give her a little time and then bring up the subject again.
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@rebelann (28296)
• El Paso, Texas
19 Sep
If she's a volunteer at a shelter she might just fall in love with one of the rescues @moffittjc then you won't have to go through all that.
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@Courtlynn (38162)
• United States
12 Sep
I'm so sorry for your families loss. Thats so sad
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@moffittjc (32136)
• Gainesville, Florida
12 Sep
Aww thanks Courtney. It was a sad day in our household yesterday. It was tough dealing with the loss of the dog plus dealing with a hurricane at the same time.
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@Courtlynn (38162)
• United States
12 Sep
@moffittjc oh i bet. Your poor daughter!
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@moffittjc (32136)
• Gainesville, Florida
12 Sep
@Courtlynn at first my son didn't seem too upset or sad about the loss, but eventually he shed a few tears last night alongside my daughter
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• Eugene, Oregon
12 Sep
Sorry to hear that she lost her long-time friend. I know how hard that can be. By the time my daughter's dog that we had adopted when she was 12 was 14 years old and critically ill, Woof had become my dog and my grief was more intense than hers. She was living away as well, so it was easier for her. That was three years ago last August.
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@moffittjc (32136)
• Gainesville, Florida
12 Sep
Isn't it funny how a mere pet can become such a beloved family member?
@YrNemo (4172)
12 Sep
So far, I have been my children's most loved pet, and I am still around! When I lost my first pet, I went searching for it for several years. With the second one, I cried lots and kept dreaming of it for a decade or so... Your daughter made a right decision.
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@Platespinner (16879)
• Winston Salem, North Carolina
12 Sep
My Big People have had to bury several pets over the years...it's never easy. for your daughter.
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@moffittjc (32136)
• Gainesville, Florida
13 Sep
You must have been terrified of those big giant beasts! Did they ever try to use you as a chew toy?
• Winston Salem, North Carolina
13 Sep
@moffittjc so far I've managed to stay out of reach.
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@moffittjc (32136)
• Gainesville, Florida
13 Sep
@Platespinner Good for you! I'm sure you are good at hiding when necessary.
@LadyDuck (109431)
• Switzerland
12 Sep
I am so sorry, I know that pets are family. You can do nothing to console a child, only the time will help.
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@moffittjc (32136)
• Gainesville, Florida
12 Sep
Yes, I don't expect her to be back to normal for a week or more. She needs to grieve, and I'm okay with that. She'll be back to her normal, happy self soon enough.
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@LadyDuck (109431)
• Switzerland
13 Sep
@moffittjc I have cried for hours when the kitten of one of my neighbor has been killed by a car last year and it was not my pet. I can understand.
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@moffittjc (32136)
• Gainesville, Florida
20 Sep
@LadyDuck My first puppy I ever got when I was a little boy got killed by a car. I cried for weeks!
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@bluesa (9868)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
12 Sep
I have had to make the decision to euthanize two of my beloved fur babies and each time broke my heart. I am so sorry this happened to you all, you have raised a strong young lady, Jeff. I am sorry but I can't give advice from a parent point of view, but I am certain knowing you are there for her is already a big help @moffittjc .
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@moffittjc (32136)
• Gainesville, Florida
12 Sep
Thank you! Sometimes a big hug or a shoulder to cry on is all a child needs.
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@bluesa (9868)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
12 Sep
@moffittjc , yes, that is true. I wish I could share missy Daisy with her, but we're too far away. Hugs to you all at this very sad time.
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@moffittjc (32136)
• Gainesville, Florida
13 Sep
@bluesa Thanks for the hugs! They are always welcome and appreciated!
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@CoralLevang (34510)
• United States
12 Sep
I have only one child and she never ever got too attached to the animals we had. She also never showed much of her emotions openly. Me, on the other hand, am a crier. I'm sorry for the loss of the pet. And what a great bit grownup decision that was made. Funny how they can be so grown up, but still our little girls.
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@moffittjc (32136)
• Gainesville, Florida
12 Sep
She's usually the rock-solid one in our family. But this one got to her, and she was crying all night long.
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@CoralLevang (34510)
• United States
12 Sep
@moffittjc Hugs for her. I get it.
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@moffittjc (32136)
• Gainesville, Florida
19 Sep
@CoralLevang I think we all need hugs after this past week!
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@DeborahDiane (14327)
• Laguna Woods, California
12 Sep
@moffittjc - Oh, Jeff, that had to be hard. We have had two dogs over the decades and, when we had to put them down, I was heartbroken. However, your daughter really did make a mature decision. You should be proud of her.
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@moffittjc (32136)
• Gainesville, Florida
12 Sep
I am always proud of her, she is such a good kid. So is my son. I don't know how I got so lucky.
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• Laguna Woods, California
13 Sep
@moffittjc - I am glad to hear that. My husband and I are very proud of our four daughters and our grandkids, too. We appreciate all of them and enjoy being around them. I hear so many people complain about their children and/or their grandchildren. Maybe they have good reasons to criticize them, I'm not sure. However, I know I'm glad that I don't feel critical about my children ... and I'm glad you don't feel the need to criticize yours, either.
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@moffittjc (32136)
• Gainesville, Florida
13 Sep
@DeborahDiane I think in a lot of situations where parents complain about their children, if they would have raised them right to begin with, many of them wouldn't necessarily have those complaints.... Then again, I know that not every child can be a perfect little angel, but the key is that parents need to be heavily involved in their child's life to give them the greatest chance at success when their children grow up.
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@Juliaacv (19584)
• Canada
12 Sep
I'm sorry for your and your daughter's loss. You lost some your daughter's innocence thru this, as she has exhibited true adult decision making, and she, she lost her life-long companion, but knows that the dog is no longer suffering and knows that her Dad would do anything for her.
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@moffittjc (32136)
• Gainesville, Florida
13 Sep
Thank you for your kind words. We are a close-knit family, and we lean on each other for support in times of need. I've got great kids and I've certainly been blessed.
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@Juliaacv (19584)
• Canada
13 Sep
@moffittjc It sounds like you've done a great job raising your kids.
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@moffittjc (32136)
• Gainesville, Florida
19 Sep
@Juliaacv I've tried my best in raising my kid. I think they're going to turn out okay. I'm more worried about my son than my daughter, because he is so easily persuaded by his friends. I worry about peer pressure causing him to do things he normally wouldn't do. But so far, he hangs around good kids, so I just have to trust him at this point.
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@sallypup (18813)
• Moses Lake, Washington
12 Sep
If it were me I would be weeping with my daughter. She has lost a brother or sister; she has lost a confidant. I had to make a terrible decision, too, when I was just out of high school. That moment and hours afterwards will never leave me. The ritual of burial soothes me somehow; an appropriate song, those moments of letting go. It just hurts.
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@moffittjc (32136)
• Gainesville, Florida
12 Sep
I asked her if she wanted to do a burial, but she said no. I was surprised.
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@sallypup (18813)
• Moses Lake, Washington
12 Sep
@moffittjc That surprises me, too.
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@moffittjc (32136)
• Gainesville, Florida
19 Sep
@sallypup I thought for sure she would want to do a nice little memorial for her dog in the backyard. There's a nice big maple tree that would be the perfect spot to bury the dog under.
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@just4him (82325)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
20 Sep
I'm so sorry about your daughter's dog. I know how she feels. I had to put my dog down last year and it was very hard on me. I didn't have any pets to put down when my kids were growing up.
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@moffittjc (32136)
• Gainesville, Florida
24 Sep
It's never a fun thing to have to deal with, especially when vulnerable children are involved.
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@just4him (82325)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
24 Sep
@moffittjc So true. It's never easy, even on adults.
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• United States
19 Sep
Soory for your loss and doubly sorry for your daughter. Children tend to feel the loss of a pet very badly. I am a cat person and never really had a dog so my children never felt a loss, since cats are notoriously independent the children were never strongly attached.
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@moffittjc (32136)
• Gainesville, Florida
19 Sep
I had a cat when I was growing up, me and that thing were inseparable. I had him for almost 15 years. He would even walk me to the bus stop every morning for school, and then be there waiting for me when I got home every afternoon. He was a good cat!
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• United States
20 Sep
@moffittjc That's sweet.
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