Living With Relative

@fearjp (371)
September 12, 2017 12:52pm CST
Ok, so I wanted to know on everyone's opinion here. I am kind of a sensitive person here and kind of think about the future. I know one day I have no choice but to learn to drive or if not drive, get transportation or find ways. I am scared to learn and not recommended since I have seizures but it's doable with a little hard work to find a way, just scared. Anyways, It's also not recommended to be alone as seizures come whenever but I again it's something I can manage with a bit of hard work to be able to as well. The thing is, I was never alone but one day well...God will say weather you want to or not, it will be the time. My cousin lives with her mom to accompany her because her dad passed like 13 years ago but God will tell her the same. Both of us well are not yet (or at least I don't see it in her but probably she does) ready to date anyone I guess we had people to depend on. So the question kind of is, if she also agrees since it's for future plan (not now, she may think something else like if I'm wrong she really did think of getting married or live with her sister or one of her brothers), is it ok for both of us to live together at a house almost to say take baby steps (to be on our own going step by step) or maybe if it stood the way we are now? Since we're cousins and we're also favorites, well it be ok if we buy a house that will come with 2 or more bedrooms and if we find a job that is well paid. I go to school so I'm just helping my brother's business...Well my dad is the one who does all the work and I help my dad. So far I've gotten "it's fine" answers but need more opinions lol. Thanks
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@just4him (123711)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
15 Sep 17
I get the idea you are still very young as is your cousin. I see no problem living with relatives. Though when it comes to the future, I wouldn't consider buying a house together, but renting. As far as you getting a driver's license with seizures - myself, I wouldn't do it. It would be too dangerous.
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@fearjp (371)
16 Sep 17
Oh really, that's good to know. I had never gotten a "not a good idea" opinion so its great to hear. Oh really better renting..just a question on that one, why isn't a good idea to buying? And no, I am not considering it either. People understand me, just they want me to learn in case of an emergency so that may be something I should think a little but I don't know lol. Thanks for your help BTW
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@just4him (123711)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
16 Sep 17
@fearjp Because one or both of you will want to get married in the future. That's why it's better to rent.
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@fearjp (371)
18 Sep
@just4him Oh OK, thanks. I got that before lol. Yea true.. but I'm thinking way to soon I guess because I kind of freaked out all of a sudden about my parents.
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@riverwild (2278)
12 Sep 17
Maybe you should rent instead of buy. Just incase one of you wants to move out in the future.
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@fearjp (371)
12 Sep 17
But does it seem ok to do so? Thanks
@riverwild (2278)
12 Sep 17
@fearjp I don't see anything wrong with living with a relative It's a great way to share living expenses. But like I said, if you buy a house and one of you wants to move out, you will probably have a problem.
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@fearjp (371)
12 Sep 17
@riverwild Oh cool that is true lol. Lol but then this a long way to go lol. Maybe she wouldn't even want to so I'll just try sticking with the "now" then the future lol. Getting all planning when it may be different lol. Thanks
@acelawrites (12178)
• Philippines
1 Oct
Tell your Dad about your idea of having a house with two extra rooms for you and your cousin. It is a good idea.
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@fearjp (371)
2 Oct
Yea he did say the same thing about a good idea but also to consider just sticking with time right now not the future as one of us may find someone on the way or simply my cousin not thinking its a good idea. And yea he pretty said that too about house and was willing to help. Thanks
@Kahl39 (1260)
• Jeddah, Saudi Arabia
19 Sep
@fearjp Your case is manageable according to your statements, then go wild and free to do it before it's too late. In life most of the time we need to independent with anybody else. You won't know it unless you try.
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@fearjp (371)
19 Sep
Yea I know that's true she may even think the same. I just meant like bit by bit. From there, little by little we'll start being on our own.