Sometimes people are just being nice for no reason
September 13, 2017 6:51am CST
There is not always an 'ulterior motive'...sometimes not even a reason...when someone offers to do something for you. Sometimes the person is just being nice. But the world is so screwed up these days that most people automatically think "They must have some scheme behind the offer". And that is a sad thing. There are still people that will do something just because it is the polite thing to do. And some people won't accept that help because they have been taught 'Nothing is free'. Ah well...
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• Saco, Maine
Excellent point. And it's fun to see the reactions of complete strangers for whom I offer to do something nice. Some look at me like I have two heads. And they would be right: the one that I try to keep in good shape for thinking, seeing, eating, breathing, etc., and the other one that I keep for bashing against walls.
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When I pull over on the rode and offer to help an elderly woman change a flat tire, it is because I think I should. It isn't because I expect her to compensate me. It is the same with most things I offer to do for people...I just feel it is the right thing to do.
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@JolietJake It is the right thing to do and if they are nice people they will appreciate it. I find that there are times when I want to do something nice for someone I do not expect anything in return and then there are those that want to pay for my things I want to give them. They will not take it unless I accept their money. I wanted to do something nice and I feel it was taken away from me.
@JolietJake ..Yes..Maybe because there are a lot of people around who also helped and has bad things in mind . I remember a friend of mine who are just walking around the park with her boyfriend until she accidentally stripped and fell down the ground and this stranger guy appeared suddenly and offered some help and then called a police that it was him got framed up by the couples and protected himself my friend was crying and called me to recommend some good lawyers for her
There are still a lot of good-natured people who act the way they do because that is the way that they are and they don't expect anything in return. I feel that there are too many miserable folks out there that a little sugar from a smile or kind deed can't be all wrong.
No, thank you. Well, there are always motives for being nice, therefore some scheme behind. For example, some are nice because they think it's the right thing to do. If they can help but don't, they feel guilty. Or if they can help and they do, they feel good. I can always find a reason. I know I'll be nice towards those I have feelings for.
• Mangalore, India
Very true, reminds of an incident that took place sometime back. We were driving to a nearby village to attend a wedding reception and our car broke down in the middle of nowhere.After waiting for sometime we decided to look around and see if there were any houses or a shop and get some information about a car mechanic. Just then a man , obviously poor came cycling and stopped when he saw us and readily agreed to cycle down 2 kms to get help . he came back with a mechanic.This man had stopped over at his home which was on the way and asked his wife to prepare some tea for us which she carried and brought all the way. Later when we offered some money he just wouldn't take it saying he dint spend on anything .. So we dropped in at their place on our way back and gave some sweets to his children. I find that the poor people are the most generous, they are willing to share whatever little they have
I have a theory about that...I think poorer people understand more what it is to be without and do without, since they have so little themselves usually, and if they see someone in a situation they are more likely to offer what help they can since they know how it is.
• United States
This a good point... usually when people think that someone has an ulterior motive with them, it can be from past experience... or it can just be a reflection of who you are as a person. If someone lives in a world where they use people, then they will think that everyone is out to use them because in their minds, they don't see why they wouldn't, it's already been rationalized with them, through them.
In that case, it is like "which came first, the act or the suspicion." Well, going by the daily dose of bad news we get from the various media every now and then, the picture is not good. There is so much crime. There is so much abuse. So, with degradation and deprivation. At the beginning of all these bad things we read, watch and hear every single minute are people who committed them. People who happen to look, act and be like the people we meet everyday, along the way. So, why can't we be suspicious about someone offering to do something good for us? Why can't we not think that the guy offering to do a good turn may just be like the ones in the news? Well, it's up to us really. If we have faith and enough discretion, sprinkling it with a lot of caution,, we may be spared of people who prey on other people.
• Anniston, Alabama
That is true. Ya know I have tenant that move and come back to rent from me when they find out that people are not as nice as me I find that most people are nice but I do keep my guard up and I do wait for it... the it is what they want from me.