Sometimes people are just being nice for no reason

By JJ
@JolietJake (36494)
September 13, 2017 6:51am CST
There is not always an 'ulterior motive'...sometimes not even a reason...when someone offers to do something for you. Sometimes the person is just being nice. But the world is so screwed up these days that most people automatically think "They must have some scheme behind the offer". And that is a sad thing. There are still people that will do something just because it is the polite thing to do. And some people won't accept that help because they have been taught 'Nothing is free'. Ah well...
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@Raelove (14034)
• Saco, Maine
13 Sep
Excellent point. And it's fun to see the reactions of complete strangers for whom I offer to do something nice. Some look at me like I have two heads. And they would be right: the one that I try to keep in good shape for thinking, seeing, eating, breathing, etc., and the other one that I keep for bashing against walls.
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@JolietJake (36494)
13 Sep
Yep. All my headbanging doesn't have a music soundtrack.
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@Raelove (14034)
• Saco, Maine
13 Sep
@JolietJake Nor does mine. I've just got to find a way to add some ACDC in there or some other such inspirational music.
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@Hannihar (4564)
13 Sep
There are people that do things because they want to do them and then there are those that have ulterior motives. I try to do nice things for people because I want to do them and feel good that I did them.
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@JolietJake (36494)
13 Sep
When I pull over on the rode and offer to help an elderly woman change a flat tire, it is because I think I should. It isn't because I expect her to compensate me. It is the same with most things I offer to do for people...I just feel it is the right thing to do.
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@Hannihar (4564)
14 Sep
@JolietJake It is the right thing to do and if they are nice people they will appreciate it. I find that there are times when I want to do something nice for someone I do not expect anything in return and then there are those that want to pay for my things I want to give them. They will not take it unless I accept their money. I wanted to do something nice and I feel it was taken away from me.
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• Nairobi, Kenya
13 Sep
I am the type who is willing to help but find it difficult to accept help from people. Is that bad?
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@JolietJake (36494)
13 Sep
I also have a problem accepting help...but then, sometimes the need is such that I have no choice
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• Nairobi, Kenya
13 Sep
@JolietJake What if a man helps a woman to get a job because he has a plan to make her his wife, is that a good motive?
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@JolietJake (36494)
13 Sep
@mildredtabitha Depends upon how she feels about it.
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• Germany
13 Sep
Yes Well..For me, I just help and expects nothing in return If they helped back then, I`ll be the most happiest person ever but if not it`s ok atleast I helped
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@JolietJake (36494)
13 Sep
Sometimes some people seem almost afraid to let someone help them for some reason
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• Germany
13 Sep
@JolietJake ..Yes..Maybe because there are a lot of people around who also helped and has bad things in mind . I remember a friend of mine who are just walking around the park with her boyfriend until she accidentally stripped and fell down the ground and this stranger guy appeared suddenly and offered some help and then called a police that it was him got framed up by the couples and protected himself my friend was crying and called me to recommend some good lawyers for her
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@Hatley (152535)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Sep
@JolietJake sdometimes I do not w ant help because darn it Im still able to dfo for msel just because I am 90 dpesotmean I amm helpless
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@Juliaacv (19562)
• Canada
13 Sep
There are still a lot of good-natured people who act the way they do because that is the way that they are and they don't expect anything in return. I feel that there are too many miserable folks out there that a little sugar from a smile or kind deed can't be all wrong.
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@JolietJake (36494)
13 Sep
Some people get really weird if you try to do something for them
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@Juliaacv (19562)
• Canada
14 Sep
@JolietJake Yeah, I've had that experience too. They feel indebted to tell you their life story, which can be pretty uncomfortable.
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@NJChicaa (24981)
• United States
13 Sep
I often do things for people just because it is the right thing to do. I'm not looking for something to do.
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@LadyDuck (109442)
• Switzerland
13 Sep
You are right. We have no much the habit to rude people that, when someone is nice for no reason, our first thought is "where is the catch"?
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@maezee (24657)
• United States
13 Sep
I agree. But it does seem like most of the time theres some alterior motive...haha
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@JolietJake (36494)
13 Sep
Would you think I had an ulterior motive if I told you alterior was not a real word?
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@BarBaraPrz (16359)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
13 Sep
@JolietJake It may not be a real word but it just earned me 8 SwagBucks when I punched it into their search...
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@maezee (24657)
• United States
15 Sep
@JolietJake Dang! Youre right!!
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@responsiveme (12683)
• India
13 Sep
You are right.In small places though I find people being nice matter of fact, as compared to big cities. But the people in big cities do have a point because of many con incidents that happen
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@JolietJake (36494)
13 Sep
In a large city, I would probably be wary of some people depending on what the thing they were offering to do was
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@sabtraversa (8509)
• Italy
13 Sep
No, thank you. Well, there are always motives for being nice, therefore some scheme behind. For example, some are nice because they think it's the right thing to do. If they can help but don't, they feel guilty. Or if they can help and they do, they feel good. I can always find a reason. I know I'll be nice towards those I have feelings for.
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@kiran8 (14251)
• Mangalore, India
14 Sep
Very true, reminds of an incident that took place sometime back. We were driving to a nearby village to attend a wedding reception and our car broke down in the middle of nowhere.After waiting for sometime we decided to look around and see if there were any houses or a shop and get some information about a car mechanic. Just then a man , obviously poor came cycling and stopped when he saw us and readily agreed to cycle down 2 kms to get help . he came back with a mechanic.This man had stopped over at his home which was on the way and asked his wife to prepare some tea for us which she carried and brought all the way. Later when we offered some money he just wouldn't take it saying he dint spend on anything .. So we dropped in at their place on our way back and gave some sweets to his children. I find that the poor people are the most generous, they are willing to share whatever little they have
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@JolietJake (36494)
14 Sep
I have a theory about that...I think poorer people understand more what it is to be without and do without, since they have so little themselves usually, and if they see someone in a situation they are more likely to offer what help they can since they know how it is.
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@kiran8 (14251)
• Mangalore, India
14 Sep
@JolietJake Yes I too think so, facing hardships day in and day out in their life they are much more caring and understanding
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@Platespinner (16826)
• Winston Salem, North Carolina
13 Sep
I'm still trying to figure out what the Huis Vrouw wants from me. I'm pretty sure she has some plan of exploitation.
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@JolietJake (36494)
13 Sep
I'm not sure I've ever been exploiting, is it fun?
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• Winston Salem, North Carolina
13 Sep
@JolietJake I don't know yet. So far life is pretty cushy around here. Boring at times, but cushy.
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• Lakewood, Colorado
13 Sep
Yes we should always accept that people can just be kind.
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@JolietJake (36494)
13 Sep
I can kind of be kind...sometimes
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• Lakewood, Colorado
13 Sep
@JolietJake Oh I can be the kindest ever, but on the flip side....
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@BarBaraPrz (16359)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
13 Sep
What brought this on? Did you do or attempt to do something nice recently and was rebuffed?
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@JolietJake (36494)
13 Sep
Basically. But oh well.
@BarBaraPrz (16359)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
13 Sep
@JolietJake Oh well, indeed. Difficult to help someone who doesn't want to be helped.
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• United States
14 Sep
This a good point... usually when people think that someone has an ulterior motive with them, it can be from past experience... or it can just be a reflection of who you are as a person. If someone lives in a world where they use people, then they will think that everyone is out to use them because in their minds, they don't see why they wouldn't, it's already been rationalized with them, through them.
@dodoazo (6606)
• Philippines
14 Sep
I remember a line that says a true giver doesn't expect something in return. Thus a person who offers help never minds it at all. But he doesn't know that that he will be blessed for that acts of humanity.
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@bystander (2283)
• Philippines
14 Sep
In that case, it is like "which came first, the act or the suspicion." Well, going by the daily dose of bad news we get from the various media every now and then, the picture is not good. There is so much crime. There is so much abuse. So, with degradation and deprivation. At the beginning of all these bad things we read, watch and hear every single minute are people who committed them. People who happen to look, act and be like the people we meet everyday, along the way. So, why can't we be suspicious about someone offering to do something good for us? Why can't we not think that the guy offering to do a good turn may just be like the ones in the news? Well, it's up to us really. If we have faith and enough discretion, sprinkling it with a lot of caution,, we may be spared of people who prey on other people.
@kobesbuddy (7028)
• East Tawas, Michigan
14 Sep
It's true, nothing is really free. But, there are kind people in the world, who actually get pleasure out of being kind! Just a simple smile, can help another person feel better.
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@andriaperry (25835)
• Anniston, Alabama
14 Sep
That is true. Ya know I have tenant that move and come back to rent from me when they find out that people are not as nice as me I find that most people are nice but I do keep my guard up and I do wait for it... the it is what they want from me.
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@rebelann (28275)
• El Paso, Texas
14 Sep
You're right. Dad always said to beware the stranger bearing gifts
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