The literal murderer that I personally know

@FayeHazel (8536)
United States
September 13, 2017 11:59am CST
As I was writing about the kidnapping that happened close to home - it occurred to me that I know a murderer. I was new in this area and had become friends with a woman who went to a Bible study group and waitressed at a restaurant I liked. I didn't know a lot of people in the area but kindly enough she did include me in her life for awhile , inviting me to her house for potlucks and parties, and going out dancing at bars. Come February - she invited me to her birthday party. A big bash at a country bar in the area. And that is where I met Angelina O'Mara - at our mutual friends' birthday party. It was 2010. I got along well with Angelina, actually. She was one of those people who - you could just tell - had a hard lifestyle at times. I don't mean that in a derogatory way, either. She had admitted to me in a round about way that she had a rough lifestyle in the past, but she had left that behind, wanting to be an example for her pre-teen daughter. She was world wise and street wise. I was naïve and shy. I thought she was cool. She gave me useful tips like - never leave your drink unattended at a bar. Carry your drink with your hand over the top so no one can put anything in it. She got rid of a drunk guy who kept pestering me. She was married but it was common knowledge that her and the husband were separated. We only hung out once or twice. We were never particularly close. We had tried to organize a shopping outing, however it never materialized. Part of that could have been because Angelina and her boyfriend - Michael Pies, had a baby together early in 2011. The last time I saw her was early in 2011 - after the baby was born. I saw her, Michael, and the baby in the deli area at our local grocery store. We spoke only briefly. I was introduced to Michael. They couldn't stay to chat - they were getting hot food from the deli to take home. In Oct.of 2011 - I picked up a local newspaper. The entire front page was taken up with a picture of Angelina. A mug shot. I was shocked. I thought to myself "I know that woman". And I read the story. The following is a paraphrase of the many, many news articles I read at the time along with info from talking to our mutual friend and is to the best of my understanding - what happened. Late in October of 2011 - Angelina was staying with her husband, whom she had been separated from. He was laying on the couch when she put a pillow over his head and shot him in the face with a rifle. For a few days, Angelina, Michael, the baby and the pre-teen daughter went on the run - days later Michael was killed in the same fashion, pillow over his face - gun shot to the head. I forget the details of her capture. For awhile she maintained innocence, later however she admitted to killing both men - murdering the husband , and killing the boyfriend - she maintains that she shot the boyfriend as an act of self defense - that they had been fighting over the rifle and that he was abusive. Even though it's been many years - sometimes I am tempted to look her up and visit in prison. Ask her what went wrong. It is very sobering. somber to know. I wouldn't be surprised if she had a troubled childhood - (though I don't know that to be true) and I wouldn't be surprised if either or both of the men were abusive -- however it doesn't warrant murder. Something must have just snapped in her one day. Have you known anyone who has done a terrible act? Link to a news article featuring Angelina
On Tuesday, Angelina O'Mara admitted to killing her ex-husband, 43-year-old James O'Mara, by shooting him in the head in his Sauk Rapids apartment on October…
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@teamfreak16 (32038)
• Colorado Springs, Colorado
13 Sep
When I was in the Army, a guy in our platoon killed a transvestite. He's doing life in Levenworth.
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@FayeHazel (8536)
• United States
14 Sep
Wow! Was the transvestite also in the Army? On all accounts - scary.
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@teamfreak16 (32038)
• Colorado Springs, Colorado
14 Sep
@FayeHazel - No, he was a German guy.
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@FayeHazel (8536)
• United States
14 Sep
@teamfreak16 Hm, I guess there is a big population in Germany that are trans... or at least some really big events for the trans community happen there
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@poehere (15981)
• French Polynesia
14 Sep
That is a shocking story. Maybe she was abused and finally couldn't take anymore. She was tired of being hit and beaten and she finally did something about it. Who know what makes a person do this. Sure is sad and I am sorry to hear this.
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@FayeHazel (8536)
• United States
14 Sep
It's a good point. I don't know that it's true - but domestic violence is believable - maybe she just snapped one day and couldn't take it? Very sad on all accouts
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@poehere (15981)
• French Polynesia
15 Sep
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@Happy2BeMe (60131)
• Canada
14 Sep
I feel bad for her children. Now they have to go through life without either parent. It makes you wonder what causes a person to take another life or how they can. I have never known anybody who has murdered anybody or any other terrible act.
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@FayeHazel (8536)
• United States
14 Sep
So true, they will never be the same. Hopefully the baby was too young to remember. You're right - she took away their dads - and removed herself from their lives in one fell swoop.
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@Happy2BeMe (60131)
• Canada
14 Sep
@FayeHazel it is sad.
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@Jackalyn (5747)
• Oxford, England
13 Sep
Sadly sometimes people do snap especially if they've had a very difficult marriage and things have just got be on them. As a minister you do occasionally meet murderers or people who are paedophiles or all sorts and you just have to minister to them like anybody else because they're all people with and usually you find that they have a very sad background to go with the story.
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@FayeHazel (8536)
• United States
14 Sep
Oh wow. Are you a minister? I have often thought that prison ministry would be fascinating. It's true - we are all just people, though sometimes there must be a "perfect storm" alignment of temperament , personality, past and present situation that enable them to do these things.
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@Nawsheen (22905)
• Mauritius
13 Sep
I'm actually feeling sorry for her children. It must be so difficult for them. And she wanted to be a role model for her children
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@FayeHazel (8536)
• United States
14 Sep
Very true point - their lives are changed forever. After it happened - I read the social media post where her daughter disowned her.
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@Courtlynn (38037)
• United States
13 Sep
There's hardly ever an excuse for murder. So I don't feel bad for her, but do for the children. And I hope they are both fine after all that.
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@FayeHazel (8536)
• United States
14 Sep
True. I didn't meet the pre-teen daughter, however after it happened on social media, I saw the daughter's post - disowning her mom for doing that ...
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@Courtlynn (38037)
• United States
14 Sep
@FayeHazel good for her. Her mom is a bad person.
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@FayeHazel (8536)
• United States
14 Sep
@Courtlynn It was so heart breaking - her mom had not only killed her (the girl's) dad - but also removed herself forever from the girl's life. I hope she's doing ok these days
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• Jacksonville, Florida
13 Sep
It's crazy to me how someone can be so "normal" and so kind to people-but kill people shortly after. She came to your defense and was nice to you. It boggles my mind how she could be capable of murdering people! I have never personally known a murderer.
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@FayeHazel (8536)
• United States
14 Sep
It's so weird, like you say. I think I used to assume that people capable of murder were not capable of being "nice" or "normal" - but they are. I really wondered what was the straw that broke the camel's back so to say.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
21 Sep
@FayeHazel I guess I thought the same thing, that they are always mean to others or something.
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@FayeHazel (8536)
• United States
22 Sep
@LovingMyBabies I would be easier to comprehend -- if they were "all bad" for sure
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@YrNemo (4091)
15 Sep
Have you ever thought that it was her pre-teen daughter who shot both men, and the mother tried to cover up?
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@FayeHazel (8536)
• United States
15 Sep
Hm, that's a new twist. I never thought of that. The pre-teen daughter - one of the men killed was her dad. But still, she could have.... Angelina did confess to it - but maybe to save her daughter. :/ Either way, sad world...
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@YrNemo (4091)
15 Sep
@FayeHazel I read cases like that. Parents often are the ones who try to cover for their children. Things only become clear years later. Girls who kill their dads are common, some, because the dads hurt them or their moms.
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@velvet53 (15001)
• Palisade, Colorado
14 Sep
It is sad that things like this happen and no one really knows why. I have known some cases where people snap and do things like that to protect themselves or whatever. If it is in your heart and God feels that it is right than maybe start a contact with her through letters first. See where things goes from there.
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@FayeHazel (8536)
• United States
14 Sep
I guess she never said why she shot the husband. - Letters is a good idea first. For some reason I do feel strongly compelled to reach out to her. I wonder if it is God's desire, if I could provide her some form of comfort, or something
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@velvet53 (15001)
• Palisade, Colorado
15 Sep
@FayeHazel I wish I knew the answer for you. It can never hurt to write to her. You will be reaching out to help her and maybe you will be able to do that.
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• Lakewood, Colorado
13 Sep
That is something that you know her Faye. I had never known someone personally that I know of no. Yes she most likely snapped.
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@FayeHazel (8536)
• United States
14 Sep
It was, still is - a big shock to me.
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• Lakewood, Colorado
14 Sep
@FayeHazel I imagine it was Faye!
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@kprofgames (3021)
• United States
14 Sep
wow and like wow. Amazing how you met a person and have no idea that something like that is in them. It's always sad when children are involved. Whatever messed the person up to commit and act of murder is going to effect these kids through the rest of their lives.
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@FayeHazel (8536)
• United States
15 Sep
It's so true, the poor kids had no choice in the matter. She actually did seem very kind, world wise....
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@spaceseed (2930)
• India
14 Sep
It remind me one incidence, when i was in college. at the queue for submitting assignment I met a person who was very friendly and good in nature, I asked his study center. He named the Jail where our university has one center for prisoners. He has complete jail term for three years in case of unintentional unintentional murder. But he was nice guy. the crime happened just because some one teased his girl friend which resulted in quarrel
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@FayeHazel (8536)
• United States
14 Sep
Oh wow! It makes sense though - I understand how a quarrel could get out of hand quite easily. How terrible - hew gets punished with jail - and with the knowing that his actions killed someone unintentionally.
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@responsiveme (12683)
• India
14 Sep
No ,I don't personally know anyone.A sobering post.So many emotions run deep inside the human race
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@FayeHazel (8536)
• United States
14 Sep
It's very true, humanity is fascinating, sometimes terrible and sometimes wonderful
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@TRBRocks420 (57391)
• Banks, Oregon
13 Sep
Wow very crazy and, not that awful of an act no thank God.
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@FayeHazel (8536)
• United States
14 Sep
I was shocked when I read it. Crazy world we live in at times.
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@Corbin5 (70611)
• United States
13 Sep
Oh, that really is a shock to those who knew her. Such sadness also for all who knew this woman. I do not know anyone who has been charged with murder.
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@FayeHazel (8536)
• United States
14 Sep
It really took me off guard
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@AmbiePam (44626)
• United States
13 Sep
If I had money, I'd pay you to go! I'm a weirdo, I know. It's hard to imagine where people turned. What was that choice, that moment, that set their dark path in motion? It's puzzling. I don't think I know anyone who has done anything violent.
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@FayeHazel (8536)
• United States
14 Sep
Ha ha, - you weirdo! No I'm just kidding, if you are a weirdo- then I am too. I feel very compelled to reach out to her. I'm not sure why. As @velvet53 mentioned - I think I may try to find her and write a letter, anyway
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@pjmurphy (97)
• United States
13 Sep
I've known a few murderers because I worked in the penal system at one time. I'd say look her up, but she is probably where she needs to be.
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@FayeHazel (8536)
• United States
14 Sep
I've often thought working within the penal system would be fascinating, but intense.... you're right - it's probably best she is where she is... but I would be interested in writing to her
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@just4him (82175)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
14 Sep
Wow! You never really know the people you meet. No, I've never known anyone who did anything terrible like that.
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@FayeHazel (8536)
• United States
15 Sep
It was surprising. It makes me wonder when I meet people now.
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@just4him (82175)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
16 Sep
@FayeHazel I'm sure it would.
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• Germany
13 Sep
Gosh! That was too sad and scary . So far, not met someone like that
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@FayeHazel (8536)
• United States
14 Sep
I was really shocked. I feel like reaching out to her, and I don't know why....
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• Germany
15 Sep
@FayeHazel ..Maybe she needed a friend
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15 Sep
Did she tell you why and what happened?
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@FayeHazel (8536)
• United States
15 Sep
No - I didn't speak with her for about 6 months before it happened, haven't been in touch yet. I'm trying to find an address. I guess she never said why she killed the husband
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