Dating, flirting, and marriage...
September 14, 2017 1:34am CST
Serious questions... I got the order wrong, you start with flirting and then go on date, and finally get saddled with marriage...before...............whatever. It would be interesting to see different types of flirting, and dating...conversations.. I am, as Pony has labeled me, Yenta Vanny. I quite like watching people flirt. It has a lot of humor in it. Dating, on the other hand, is serious business. Money flows out of pocket to pay the dining bills and those movie bills not to mention the popcorn and ice creams. So what do you all discuss when you all are dating... Marriage or live in relationships....no comments. That must be like practical class after theory class of chemistry lecture.
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I often wonder if people flirt after marriage because a) The marriage becomes devoid of humor. After all, flirting is part of that fun. b) They want to revive their confidence, if the spouse is just treating it as job done, and now concentrating on monetary goals. c) They can't help being like that. I think many times, it is the first two rather than the last one. But that said, do you like me does not even qualify as flirting..lol. It is too confrontational to be called that. The elements are slyness as you pointed out...then teasing, then funny remarks, basically to see whether the other person has enough understanding and ability to laugh and enjoy life with. Watching others flirt is fun too. :)
@vandana7 I think husbands do that to test if they are still attractive to girls. It fills their ego when someone says yes. What they try not to think is the girl is after their money specially when the man is already past his prime and obviously well off already because the kids are all professionals. And this is also true with the wife.But I don't like doing this, since I got married.
I do not even watch serials because I am not interested watching people flirting. I worked in the same office as my husband when we started to date. We used to have lunch at work together, no movies, ice creams and popcorn. We married 4 months later.
I think Islam has no such thing. You know what - I read through the basic tenets of Islam. I find many Muslims in our country are not following those. I have those Islam tenets in my cell phone. They are oh so logical! For example, Allah said "kisi pe bojh mat bano", (Do not become a burden on others). A mother has more children than she can feed. Then the elder sons when they start working, have to feed her and get her daughters married! Isn't that a burden? The point is, people just memorize the religious books (even Hindus and Christians). They do not REFLECT upon it. If they would reflect upon them, they would realize so much good is there in their religion, and once they follow it as it is meant, well, there will be no conflict what so ever, with people from other religions. Sigh. Take for example, the baker around here. He is a muslim. His assistant is a muslim. That man has three daughters. And he says he has to pay dowry!!! Dowry? I thought Islam did not allow that? I thought in islam it is Mehr. But he is not the only one who told me that dowry thing, which is a Hindu thing, has seeped into Islam. This is what happens when conversions are there. Old customs continue. Effectively, the religion gets diluted or corrupted.
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It was great fun to flirt and date and dance and go crazy during my younger days. It makes for some very nice memories. At this stage in my life and being now again on my own those days are way behind me but that is alright time to start a life on my own.