Have you ever been heart-broken?

Broken Heart - A picture depicting a broken heart
@jillann (779)
Philippines
November 27, 2006 5:12am CST
Have you ever fallen madly in love with a person then just to find out that he was cheating on you?How can you cope up with the pain? Do you run to family and/or friends for comfort?Share your feelings...
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48 responses
• Australia
10 Dec 06
No haven't. Don't have a bf either so there is no chance for me to be broken hearted hehehe. I am looking for a bf though. That's why I have to go out most often and not just stay here at our house 24/7 heheheh. I know I also need to socialite and meet people. Maybe from there I can find my first bf. ehhehe. I am completely a virgin LOL!
@jillann (779)
• Philippines
11 Dec 06
Hey, being a virgin is a good thing for a girl your age. Don't be in a rush to have a bf. Just wait, he will soon come when it's time. Thanks for posting.
• Australia
11 Dec 06
I can't wait anymore. I know my priorities but I also want to have a love life you know! cheers!
• United States
28 Nov 06
yes i have on my birth day my best frnd slept with my boyfrnd i was mad because i just tolder back off she said dont worry i would never do that to u huh what a lie a few hrs later they are both butt naked what am i to think about that. i was heart broken but i have moved on that is all we can do u know
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@jillann (779)
• Philippines
28 Nov 06
Ouch! That hurts. I bet if I were in your position, I'd be crying my heart out... Thanks for sharing your thoughts
• Canada
28 Nov 06
thats true, moving on is real all we can do...i mean life goes on.
@tmnjyk (3486)
• Canada
28 Nov 06
broken hearted with bf? yes! once! but it was easy for me to recover and move on as I know I wasn't really in love with him. I was just physically attracted to him, nothing more. Personality I'd give him a failing grade. As I grow old and mature, I've learned in life that superficial isn't that important:)+ of course it counts and matter but I should also be more attracted with the person's personality. Pasensya na sis ha, pinapahaba ko lang yong response ko. The more I write the more I earned eh. ehhehe. Ok, going back to the topic. Yes! it didn't take much time for me to recover. I guess for the whole week, I was able to forget him completely. I was taught of mind conditioning in high school and I used it. So it wasn't really a big deal to me at that time...have the tool and the tricks how to control my mind not to think of him and not be hurt:)+
@jillann (779)
• Philippines
28 Nov 06
Wow! Good for you sis. My first love was also during high school. But I never gave the guy that much thought. I believe one's first love is the guy whom you have really fallen in love with not the guy who became your first bf. Thanks for sharing your thoughts sis
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@tmnjyk (3486)
• Canada
28 Nov 06
You are welcome:)+
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
Yeah when my official when me and my official first boyfriend broke up with me, LOL. I just wanted to take a cool off but he said it's better to end off our relationship. I acceoted it and do some chatting over the internet. I get over with it in two months with the help of some chatmates, lol. We'll I now have my own family and he has not, not even had a gf after me, poor him. He started to court again couple of months ago and even asked some advice from me but it doesn't work. He maybe blessed with knowledge and a job that keeps him promoted but never been blessed in love which is the more important to complete a person.
@jillann (779)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
Am I sensing some angry vibes here? hehehe... But seriously sis,I'm glad that you have found your special someone. Thanks for your response
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
of coures but one good thing about being abroken heartd you mange to stand up again and be abetter person and try not to commit the same mistakes again....and to be inlove again
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@jillann (779)
• Philippines
24 Jan 07
That is a very good thought. Thanks for sharing.
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
At one point in my life, I've discovered how it felt to be heartbroken. I can't seem to think, can't eat, openly stares in space, cried and kept on thinking what went wrong with our relationship. You felt cheated because you love that person, you seemed happy. Then all of a sudden without seeing that it is coming, there's the break-up. I run to my friends because i can relate to them more and they know that guy. Things happen for a reason and everything will come to pass and somebody much better will come along :)
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@jillann (779)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
Very well said my friend! Same thing happened to me, and maybe to most of the people who gets heart broken. I already had several serious relationships, but everytime a breakup happens I just can't seem to know what to do. I would usually let it all out crying. We must move on though, the world won't stop there. Thanks for the inspiring thought.
@chukwudi (1098)
• Nigeria
12 Dec 06
its only when you do not know the meaning of love that it affects you ,if you know that its a moving objects you can be bother with what ever comes out of it ,so bear in mind that love of any man or woman is not genuine,in all aspects
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@jillann (779)
• Philippines
14 Dec 06
Wow!That's a new perception... Thanks for sharing...
@simran1430 (1790)
• India
14 Jan 07
to all those who have broken up and who have got hurt ur not alone and never will be alone we friends are here for u and wont let u down. i got hurt once but as they say time heals broken hearts. Love is something which u cant control ur heart beats faster for that person and u cant stop it but u can tell urself dont fall to deeply in love that it will break. i have always tried my best in many ways to help those who have had heart breaks i just want u all to know that ur not alone. remember one thing that life has many turns in it. u can never have a straight road all through..to all those who have been heart broken dont let life go by u....one advice for u all write all ur feeling in a book if u want to talk about it to someone then feel free to talk about it i will try my best to help u out in every way i can.
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@jillann (779)
• Philippines
15 Jan 07
Hey thanks for that very inspiring response. I have just recently got heart-broken again. I forgot how painful a heart ache can be. But this will always happen to a person as long as they are willing to love... Life must go on.
• Philippines
15 Dec 06
Weeee.. Yes.. Were steady for 4 years and happy! Although i know his plans, going abroad and everything.. i really dont understand why he do that to me... wahhhhh! He just leave without saying goodbye at least.. i really dont have idea that hes gone.. and just hes cousin told me that hes already in malaysia... and its been a year he never contacted me! hmmmmm sad.. but i have to move on.. its his lost not mine... LOL
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@jillann (779)
• Philippines
17 Dec 06
What?! Why would a guy do such a thing? Leaving without saying goodbye?! That's rude and sad. I bet you were left hanging, clueless of what your relationship was meant. But I'm glad that you have moved on. Thanks for sharing
@selina0625 (1379)
• Philippines
11 Dec 06
Yes I've been hurt before, by my first love. It hurt so bad that it felt like a physical pain. It's like somebody's literally stabbing your heart with a knife. It was the first time i've experienced that. I've even lost weight because I can't eat nor sleep m during that time. But looking back at that time, i can say that that experience have made me more mature in dealing with relationships. It's like prerequisite that I need to experience in order to pass the relationship test. I've grown a lot after that.
@jillann (779)
• Philippines
11 Dec 06
Yes, somehow sometime... a person needs to get hurt to be able to understand a situation more and also to become stronger. I have felt the same physical feeling you have experienced. It certainly hurts when you're being left by someone whom you have genuinely loved. We still have to move on no matter what happens. Thanks for your response.
@cheenlly (3477)
• Philippines
22 Dec 06
yes i've been. In fact until now im having hard time to move on. it hurts so much. It's been a year now but i still couldnt forget the pain that guy cause me.
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@jillann (779)
• Philippines
23 Dec 06
Try your best to forget. I know it is hard, the pain and hurt will always remain as a scar in once heart. But we must learn to let go and move on, so that we can appreciate life's beauty once more. With family and friends around you, you can surely make it.
@babychel (130)
• Philippines
12 Dec 06
it happened to me!..i had a bf then...our relationship lasted for 4 long years...he's my schoolmate back in highschool..our relationship is on on-and-off basis..too bad..i cried of course! he's my first love and my greatest..my whole family knew my problem all along and they helped me to cope together with my closest friends..but who knows your future right?..i had moved on..lucky me..and now?..i had a better bf..i can feel it..no regrets! im so happy! =)
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@jillann (779)
• Philippines
14 Dec 06
You go girl! Good for you that you have moved on and found a better partner. No matter how every heart ache hurts, we still need to move on. Thanks for sharing.
@avi_love (457)
• India
14 Dec 06
ya i did this but i really apologies for that. i love her very much but i unable to make her as my life partener.
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@jillann (779)
• Philippines
15 Dec 06
You don't need to apologize. You did you're best to love her and make her stay. Maybe there's someone else better for you. Someone who will love you the same way you do for her. Thanks for sharing.
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
yes, i have been. when he and i broke up i was so depressed that i even thought of taking my own life. but because something tells me that it's not the end of everything, i tried to live my life without entertaining anyone. friends are the best that you can have at that point of time. they help me cope up with everything that i've been through. Now i'm happy with my life with someone new.
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@jillann (779)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
I am glad that you have found your special someone. Thanks for your response.
@sweetie88 (4556)
• Pakistan
11 Dec 06
Although i am a teen ager, yet i did n't suffer from the feelimgs of love for any boy yet. I dislike these things and avoid to do so. I think that its only the wastage of time and as i am a student so i should prefer only mine studies right nw. Love and other targets can b seen latter.
@jillann (779)
• Philippines
11 Dec 06
Good that you are staying focused on your primary goals. Thanks for your comment.
@arunpatal (627)
• Germany
28 Nov 06
Yeah i've had my heartbroken once, but it turned out to be da best thing because i'vre now found the love of my life and the girl who broke my heart doesn't measure up to my girlfriend now. it worked out to be okay, but me and the gitl who broke my heart are now friends.
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@jillann (779)
• Philippines
28 Nov 06
I'm glad for you, you have managed to be friends with your past girl. That rarely happens, in my opinion. I am happy for you and your girl. Thanks for the comment
@leonilyn (467)
• Philippines
11 Dec 06
yes i am... i go to every person i think can help...but the only person that helps me is me and me only..i go to church everytime i want somebody to talk to...:) my parents knows about it, my friends, relatives everybody knows me knows about whats happening..:)
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@jillann (779)
• Philippines
25 Dec 06
That's sad that you were not able to find someone to comfort you. I hope you have moved right now. If you did make it all alone, then I admire for being strong.
@cessy1 (1748)
• Philippines
28 Nov 06
yeah i did.. :( during that time, it seems that i was so alone, empty...i feel like i need to always have somebody to talk to or else i would just go back to an empty space i am in...hmm but time heals..it really takes a lot of time and courage to be able to say that you have moved on or starting to move on..i never talked about it with my parents...i had my friends by my side..but i think that it is more of a ME during the whole move on process..
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@jillann (779)
• Philippines
28 Nov 06
Yes, friends are really a big help during this moments of sorrow. Thanks for sharing your thoughts...
@bsabers (668)
• United States
11 Dec 06
I've been heart broken and i'll tell you that it is not fun at all. I've managed to get over it, and am now enjoying life again, but there for awhile I was really depressed, but you just need to fight through because it will eventually get better.
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@jillann (779)
• Philippines
11 Dec 06
Yes, we all need to be strong sometimes. Life goes on and we need to move in. Thanks for sharing.
• India
11 Dec 06
Yes, I love my friends but none of them have deceived (cheated)me. I am very clear at any point, any question, whatever is asked I reply them honestly, so later on there remains no possibility of being cheated. Generally I have seen cases of heart-broken, where there is one- way-love, it may be either from boy or girl. One way love always ends at pain. My advice is : do not start one-way-love. Ask everything about your friend at initial stage, study his/her language. Language is the mirror. From our friend's language we can know a lot about him. After few mails/talking over phone etc his/her reality will appear definitely.
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@jillann (779)
• Philippines
25 Dec 06
I admire you for your honesty and trust for your friends and vice versa to your friends too. If all people can learn how to communicate effectively, there will really be peace on earth. Well, this is soo... far from reality. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.