AM SCARED!!
By Joan wanjala
@joanwanjala (522)
Mombasa, Kenya
September 21, 2017 6:14am CST
The African girl in me was brought up pretty well, taught to respect elders, something I've held onto with my everything.
Elders, like my dad would put it, meant older than me and especially those who qualified to be my father, if you were brought up in the village like me, then you know your friend's dad is your father,so you can imagine how many fathers I got out there.....
Then we went digital as we say, and started seeing our 'fathers' on facebook and other social media sites, , I knew I had to behave myself, my reactions to issues on social media changed,i had to keep off some things, some stuff kept private, well privacy ain't secrecy, that we know.
Now, here comes my confusion, when I upload a pic and this 'fathers' go like..... 'hot', 'yummy','sexy' of course you people know my pic reveal nothing sexy!!! and they also don't spare my inbox, sending the love stickers, blowing kisses,funny attachments,name them
Brothers and sisters, the African girl in me,just doesn't get it!
Am sorry am afraid!!
Am so scared!
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9 responses
@joanwanjala (522)
• Mombasa, Kenya
21 Sep 17
Facebook is something else nowadays
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@sabtraversa (12937)
• Italy
21 Sep 17
Sorry to hear about that, it's a common issue, actually. 
You should go for the policy "respect if you're respected", as they don't respect you. 
It's a rude behavior of theirs, you can ask for advice to someone you trust or simply block them.
Most of the men must be married, and that makes it even worse.
Compliments are fine, but THAT kind of compliments... I don't know, they don't sound right.
Then I know some people might not be fluent with English and think "yummy" is a good polite adjective for people, then maybe you should tell them it isn't. 
You should go for the policy "respect if you're respected", as they don't respect you.
It's a rude behavior of theirs, you can ask for advice to someone you trust or simply block them.
Most of the men must be married, and that makes it even worse.
Compliments are fine, but THAT kind of compliments... I don't know, they don't sound right.
Then I know some people might not be fluent with English and think "yummy" is a good polite adjective for people, then maybe you should tell them it isn't. 2 people like this
@joanwanjala (522)
• Mombasa, Kenya
21 Sep 17
My point exactly, the type of compliments matter slot, thanks dear
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@opalina143 (1240)
• Morristown, New Jersey
21 Sep 17
I get that too sometimes, and I hate it. It is scary, especially when they're complete strangers. Can you go into the settings and make it so that no one can send you messages? I think Facebook now puts messages from strangers in a separate section, and you don't have to look them. I almost never do, if it's from a man and I don't recognize his name, I just ignore it. Sometimes if it's a woman I'll look at it, but I mostly get messages from men who just want one thing. I don't even think I'm very pretty in my picture, so I don't know why so many men are interested. It makes me very uncomfortable.
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@Kind4321 (826)
• Nairobi, Kenya
21 Sep 17
Yes there is a section where you can block them.I basically put the setting of one cant send me a friend request since i figured i have so many facebook friends i do not know or have never seen.
As for men they don,t care about how one looks sometimes they have a greater driving force
@joanwanjala (522)
• Mombasa, Kenya
21 Sep 17
@Kind4321 Am so checking on this settings, I should do something
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@mildredtabitha (16052)
• Nairobi, Kenya
21 Sep 17
Welcome to myLot. Block them siz because they have their wives to tell those things
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@mildredtabitha (16052)
• Nairobi, Kenya
21 Sep 17
@Kind4321 Exactly. They should leave girls for young men who are potential husbands
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
21 Sep 17
just be careful and not reveal your location. especially on facebook. and if you have already, change it to some where you are not there. also don't answer any more of these guys or as ML says get off it.
@PainsOnSlate (21854)
• Canada
22 Sep 17
There are creeps everywhere, just ignore them and do not interact with them either. Facebook is ok for you and your personal friends, but not for the whole website, look for the filters that you can use to keep your words among your friends and not put out there for everyone to see. I'm on
facebook but the only people who can see me are the ones I want to see....
@YrNemo (20261)
•
26 Sep 17
Ew isn't it! Those dirty old men 
. But that is reality, life is a harsh place. (Be careful when you upload anything to the public.)
. But that is reality, life is a harsh place. (Be careful when you upload anything to the public.)