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@sallypup (28010)
Moses Lake, Washington
September 24, 2017 11:24am CST
NPR had quite the report about nursing homes this morning. The report got hubby and I to talking and wondering.... If we had to look for a nursing home to live in, which one?? The average home would kill us in a week- the food is just not supportive to our health. The taking away of rights and privacy would drive us batty. There is the Eden Alternative folks and for sure they are not a cheap organization. Those folks include the cycle of life in their homes and that means animals and gardens and field trips. Life. Those places are hard to find. My hubby said: Neither of us are gay but maybe we should look for a place that includes gay people! If the home was happy about such things then they'd probably be more alive to serving real food and including gardens and animals. Lots to think on this morning for sure. Of course I do not plan to get that bad off but I'm sure my Grandma said something similar.
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• United States
24 Sep
It is a dreadful thought the state of some of the nursing homes Lenore. Gay..yes that may just do the trick lol
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@sallypup (28010)
• Moses Lake, Washington
24 Sep
@TiarasOceanView I figured maybe an alternative lifestyle would at least get us on the right track. Maybe we'll have to go live in California? How about an aging hippie nursing home? I could live with that- keep the dopers in a separate wing?
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• United States
24 Sep
@sallypup There are some awesome places, but you are correct, they are exclusive and very pricey.
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@dfollin (12734)
• United States
24 Sep
My sister's in-laws refused to go to a nursing home because people are treated so badly. So they stayed at home and my sister and brother-in-law cared for them. My mom and uncle refuse to ever be put there either.
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@sallypup (28010)
• Moses Lake, Washington
24 Sep
@dfollin If families get along with each other and live near each other, I like that situation the best. Too often this is not reality. My daughter is too far away to be of any help and I doubt she would anyway.
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@celticeagle (119215)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Sep
By the time the two of you may be seriously looking for a place you may change some of your ideas.
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@sallypup (28010)
• Moses Lake, Washington
24 Sep
@celticeagle Really? Interesting. I've been with my dearest for over 35 years and I think we're determined now to be healthy and independent than when we started.
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@celticeagle (119215)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Sep
@sallypup .....That'd be great! Hope it works that way for you.
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@sallypup (28010)
• Moses Lake, Washington
25 Sep
@celticeagle The big question is HOW to continue to be independent? This is where I probably will be agreeing to us buying another place and learning to ride buses more. For now I play with weed whackers, weeds and bugs.
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@Corbin5 (113162)
• United States
24 Sep
My dad, age 96, really does receive excellent care in the nursing home that is just one mile from all family. I think having family so close makes nursing home stays much better.
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@sallypup (28010)
• Moses Lake, Washington
24 Sep
@Corbin5 I applaud you and your family that you stay engaged with your Dad. Many families do not go to visit their relatives once they are tucked away. I'm glad he gets excellent care.
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@MALUSE (42653)
• Germany
24 Sep
What does NPR mean? Non-American members don't know American abbreviations.
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@sallypup (28010)
• Moses Lake, Washington
24 Sep
@Maluse National Public Radio.
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@MALUSE (42653)
• Germany
24 Sep
@sallypup Aha. Thank you. I think it would be a good idea to add this to the post proper for all the other members who don't know it, either.
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@andriaperry (56410)
• United States
24 Sep
@MALUSE I am American and I did not know this one
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@just4him (124124)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
24 Sep
I agree. I was in a nursing home for one month and gained 20 pounds just with the food they served, not to mention the fact I couldn't get around under my own steam, which was why I was there. I had a broken leg and I was in rehab for it. When I was an insurance agent, they said that it isn't a matter of if, it's a matter of when, where nursing homes are concerned these days.
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@sallypup (28010)
• Moses Lake, Washington
24 Sep
@just4him I imagine you felt trapped. I'm sorry that happened. I knew a lady who was in a nursing home for rehab and tried to eat a better diet. The cook seemed to get mad at her and proceeded to deliver food worse than ever.
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@just4him (124124)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
24 Sep
@sallypup That's terrible. I told the cook I didn't use salt on my food, but she told me in order to do that she would need to make all my food separate. That would have been a huge hassle. So I gained weight but was able to take it off as soon as I got home and started eating right again.
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@sallypup (28010)
• Moses Lake, Washington
24 Sep
@just4him As you know, that salt issue could be a huge health hazard to some folks. Sorry, dear cook, but sometimes you just need to go the extra mile.
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@Tracy04 (10821)
• Malaysia
27 Sep
Nursing homes? No. I rather take care of my parents or senior family members than to be out there. I guess family members can take care better than the ones worked at nursing homes.
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@sallypup (28010)
• Moses Lake, Washington
27 Sep
@Tracy04 I agree with you totally. One of my sisters is caring for my Mom though Mom now has dementia pretty badly. The dementia makes it very hard to help Mom out cause she is sometimes like a tantruming toddler now. I have no one to help me when I get older.
@Tracy04 (10821)
• Malaysia
27 Sep
@sallypup we as family members has this love and pity towards our own family members when we see them throwing tantrum and such, and most of the time we will try and follow their needs. At nursing homes, they don't. They need to follow the worker's needs or the worker's the one who will throw a tantrum.
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@sallypup (28010)
• Moses Lake, Washington
27 Sep
@Tracy04 I agree though the reality of living with a person who is mean and not acting like my Mom 24-7 was crazy hard.
• United States
25 Sep
I wish there was more to offer my mother at the nursing home where she is now living. Because she is now wheelchair bound we were unable to get her to our family reunion this year. The head nurse said they would arrange transportation for her, but 2 weeks before the event, she said it was not going to happen. There was nobody to drive the van. What a slap in the face.
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@sallypup (28010)
• Moses Lake, Washington
25 Sep
@ElusiveButterfly Wow that would hurt. I'm sorry that happened to you and yours. Too bad there wasn't someone who could step in and get your Mom to the family event. That's awful- the nursing homes have way too much power.
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• United States
29 Sep
@sallypup she needs to get out and be social. When you have no means to do so on your own, I feel the nursing home could step up and provide that service. I would love to get her out to see the changing leaves and ride around town. They have a van that has a lift unit to get those who are wheelchair bound in and out of the van.
@Freelanzer (9496)
• Canada
25 Sep
Its sad when you can't trust the nursing homes, hopefully things change for the better before you need them.
@jstory07 (69200)
• Roseburg, Oregon
25 Sep
I hope I never end up in a nursing home. You are not free to do the things you like to do.
@RasmaSandra (19080)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
24 Sep
I have nothing to worry about if I ever manage to make it back to my homeland the US I will be closer to friends but I will still be alone and one way or another I will just go on until I cannot anymore but I would never go to live in senior place. Your post made me think that I have to decide what I can or will do in the states so perhaps if I can get the money together I should gather a group of people together and start a real happy community home. just saying.