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@sol_cee (13698)
Japan
September 24, 2017 10:41pm CST
I attended my friend’s sayonara party last night. After four years of working as an English teacher in Japan, she is finally going back to the Philippines. It was a hasty decision, I think. She said she no longer felt that she was needed in her company. That she was asked to do a lot of unnecessary errands unfit for her role as an English teacher. She claimed her company could not fire her, so they delegated tasks which she deemed lowly, like cutting her in the middle of the class, asking her to go the post office, etc. etc. She was wallowing in self-pity and no amount of friendly advice could convince her to just quit her job, find another school and continue working here. So last night was an emotional one as we bade her goodbye. When I hugged her for the last time, all memories came back, and I found myself crying. I wonder when I would see her again. :(
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@dpk262006 (54849)
• Delhi, India
25 Sep
I agree with Judy that she might find another job and may come back again to Japan. When you are away from your home country, every friend from your home country becomes very important and her absence will definitely be felt by you. Having said that it is part of life, better take it on your stride.
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@vandana7 (57528)
• India
25 Sep
I learned that part when I was in first second and third standards. You could say I had six heart breaks then. I would not understand why a friend who used to sleep in the same dormitory as me would play my favorite games would suddenly disappear because her parents did not want her to continue in the same school. Summer vacations and Diwali vacations became difficult to deal with..because there was no permanence. So not getting seriously attached became a norm.
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@sol_cee (13698)
• Japan
25 Sep
I'll take this farewell in stride because I believe that friends come, friends go but true friends remain in the heart. :)
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@dpk262006 (54849)
• Delhi, India
25 Sep
@vandana7 You meant to say that when you were quite young and used to stay in hostel, you learnt the hard fact of life that friends come and go, nothing is permanent here. You become used to it and you made yourself understand that getting attached with someone seriously is not going to do any good to you.
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@jstory07 (58102)
• Roseburg, Oregon
25 Sep
She should have found another job. I hope you will see her again.
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@sol_cee (13698)
• Japan
25 Sep
I do hope we will. :)
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@vandana7 (57528)
• India
25 Sep
Aw......that is so sad. And that was wrong..asking her to go to post office. Wrong! Aren't there any laws against that in Japan?
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@sol_cee (13698)
• Japan
25 Sep
Apparently, dismissals in Japan are strictly regulated under the Labor Law. Employers won't fire you outright, unless you have given them reasons (misconduct, incompetence) which would stand up in court. Hence, the trick of getting you to leave voluntarily.
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@responsiveme (14459)
• India
25 Sep
I suppose it takes a lot out of you if people keep on behaving meanly. But big decisions should not be taken hastily. Hope you see her again...She gets another job and comes back
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@sol_cee (13698)
• Japan
26 Sep
I hope it is that easy to get another job here and come back. Apparently, it's not. That's why we tried to convince her to stay since she's already here and going back home might mean losing the chance of a lifetime.
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@ilocosboy (33307)
• Philippines
25 Sep
Of course you will meet again, that's what friends are for. So sad many company's like that, after getting the loyalty service of their employee they will treat them lowly when they thought someone are younger and prettier.
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@sol_cee (13698)
• Japan
25 Sep
From your own experience?
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@ilocosboy (33307)
• Philippines
25 Sep
@sol_cee its not mine but I knew some of them. I have the feeling it could also happen to me.
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@sol_cee (13698)
• Japan
25 Sep
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@allen0187 (27600)
• Philippines
25 Sep
So sorry to hear the plight of your friend. Hopefully, she finds a better job here in the Philippines.
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@sol_cee (13698)
• Japan
25 Sep
She said she's going to sell vegetables in front of her house. :)
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@allen0187 (27600)
• Philippines
25 Sep
@sol_cee not sure if that would pay as much as her work in Japan but it is her decision.
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@sol_cee (13698)
• Japan
25 Sep
@allen0187 I bet she was joking. Or maybe not. ;)
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@LadyDuck (122520)
• Switzerland
25 Sep
I am so sorry, the farewells are always sad, but I am sure you will meet again, do not worry.
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@sol_cee (13698)
• Japan
25 Sep
Yes Anna-san. It's not goodbye but see you soon. :)
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@LadyDuck (122520)
• Switzerland
25 Sep
@sol_cee Think positive, so you will be less depressed.
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@sol_cee (13698)
• Japan
25 Sep
@LadyDuck her flight is today. :(
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@peachpurple (10707)
• Malaysia
25 Sep
She should have find another job in another school, don't leave Japan yet because this country has a good future ahead
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@sol_cee (13698)
• Japan
25 Sep
The last four years must have taken its toll. :)
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@peachpurple (10707)
• Malaysia
25 Sep
@sol_cee maybe, sometimes too much pressure would drive one to crucial decision
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@sol_cee (13698)
• Japan
25 Sep
@peachpurple agree. Worst enemy for a peaceful mind.
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@YrNemo (8758)
25 Sep
Was that really true, what happened to her? (Or everything was just part of her anxious mind, worrying about something at home?)
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@sol_cee (13698)
• Japan
25 Sep
We tried to put sense in her but she's deaf to our pleadings. Sad.
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@YrNemo (8758)
25 Sep
@sol_cee I have a suspicion that there are problems at home, and she can't explain. This is a good excuse as any, you know what I mean?
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@sol_cee (13698)
• Japan
25 Sep
@YrNemo yeah, it can be. But I hope, nothing serious.
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@Kind4321 (866)
• Nairobi, Kenya
25 Sep
Sorry about that but time will heal everything.She feels its time for her to pursue her happiness elsewhere.Her season for teaching in Japan ended.Change is inevitable.Just keep her number and you can keep communicating. All the best to her and her future endeavors
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@sol_cee (13698)
• Japan
26 Sep
You mean 'teaching in Japan'. :)
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@Kind4321 (866)
• Nairobi, Kenya
26 Sep
@sol_cee oops i must have confused but i have corrected
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@Lucky15 (33691)
• Philippines
25 Sep
No good in goodbyes ;/
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@sol_cee (13698)
• Japan
26 Sep
From your own experience?
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@Lucky15 (33691)
• Philippines
26 Sep
@sol_cee huhuhu. oh yes sol san
@FayeHazel (11863)
• United States
25 Sep
Oh I'm sorry to hear that. It is too bad that her company treated her like that. But my question is - would she receive the same amount of pay? Then why worry about it. But I'm sure when it happens to you - it seems much more personal. I do hope you will be able to stay in touch with her
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@sol_cee (13698)
• Japan
27 Sep
I think it's all about feeling unwanted. She didn't care about the salary. Sigh.
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@FayeHazel (11863)
• United States
27 Sep
@sol_cee That is a hard feeling. I wish her success in her new venture
• Philippines
26 Sep
So, what is your friend doing these days? they should have gave her fair compensation. Well, I doubt there's a support group like that probably in japan.
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@sol_cee (13698)
• Japan
27 Sep
She said she'd sell vegetables in front of her house.
@ridingbet (38163)
• Philippines
26 Sep
maybe if you have your vacation here in our country, you might see her again.
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@sol_cee (13698)
• Japan
26 Sep
She's from Iligan. :)
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@SIMPLYD (75383)
• Philippines
26 Sep
Don't be sad, you can always see each other in messenger, viber or skype. Besides you can see each other when you come home to the Philippines too. Yes, why can't she apply in another school? Maybe she really wants to go home already. Is she married?
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@sol_cee (13698)
• Japan
26 Sep
She is single. Yeah, maybe she just wants to be with her family.
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@acelawrites (10752)
• Philippines
25 Sep
Or maybe she just needed some rest and go back there again in a new school?
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@sol_cee (13698)
• Japan
25 Sep
I don't know. It's difficult to get a working visa here.
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@andriaperry (33378)
• Anniston, Alabama
25 Sep
That is terrible to do here that way.
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@sol_cee (13698)
• Japan
26 Sep
It doesn't happen in the US?
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@Micmac (6858)
26 Sep
It's not easy saying goodbye to a close friend - sometimes it's meant to be that way, so we must endure and keep hoping that there might be a time to rekindle lost friendships.
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@sol_cee (13698)
• Japan
26 Sep
Her flight is today! :(
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@Micmac (6858)
26 Sep
@sol_cee Hopefully, you'll be able to keep in touch with her later on.
• Lakewood, Colorado
26 Sep
I am so sorry to hear this my friend..she will be missed by you. It is too bad the employer chose to do this to her. She must have felt so humiliated that she felt it best to leave.
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@sol_cee (13698)
• Japan
26 Sep
Humiliated, stripped of her dignity..
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• Lakewood, Colorado
26 Sep
@sol_cee Precisely.
@JustBhem (22701)
• Davao, Philippines
25 Sep
Goodbyes are not forever Sol, as long as there are Messenger and Skype.
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@sol_cee (13698)
• Japan
26 Sep
Thanks to the advent of technology then..
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@JustBhem (22701)
• Davao, Philippines
26 Sep
@sol_cee Count WeChat.
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