September 24, 2017 10:41pm CST
I attended my friend’s sayonara party last night. After four years of working as an English teacher in Japan, she is finally going back to the Philippines. It was a hasty decision, I think. She said she no longer felt that she was needed in her company. That she was asked to do a lot of unnecessary errands unfit for her role as an English teacher. She claimed her company could not fire her, so they delegated tasks which she deemed lowly, like cutting her in the middle of the class, asking her to go the post office, etc. etc. She was wallowing in self-pity and no amount of friendly advice could convince her to just quit her job, find another school and continue working here. So last night was an emotional one as we bade her goodbye. When I hugged her for the last time, all memories came back, and I found myself crying. I wonder when I would see her again. :(
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• Delhi, India
I agree with Judy that she might find another job and may come back again to Japan. When you are away from your home country, every friend from your home country becomes very important and her absence will definitely be felt by you. Having said that it is part of life, better take it on your stride.
I learned that part when I was in first second and third standards. You could say I had six heart breaks then. I would not understand why a friend who used to sleep in the same dormitory as me would play my favorite games would suddenly disappear because her parents did not want her to continue in the same school. Summer vacations and Diwali vacations became difficult to deal with..because there was no permanence. So not getting seriously attached became a norm.
• Delhi, India
@vandana7 You meant to say that when you were quite young and used to stay in hostel, you learnt the hard fact of life that friends come and go, nothing is permanent here. You become used to it and you made yourself understand that getting attached with someone seriously is not going to do any good to you.
Apparently, dismissals in Japan are strictly regulated under the Labor Law. Employers won't fire you outright, unless you have given them reasons (misconduct, incompetence) which would stand up in court. Hence, the trick of getting you to leave voluntarily.
• Nairobi, Kenya
Sorry about that but time will heal everything.She feels its time for her to pursue her happiness elsewhere.Her season for teaching in Japan ended.Change is inevitable.Just keep her number and you can keep communicating. All the best to her and her future endeavors
• United States
Oh I'm sorry to hear that. It is too bad that her company treated her like that. But my question is - would she receive the same amount of pay? Then why worry about it. But I'm sure when it happens to you - it seems much more personal. I do hope you will be able to stay in touch with her
Don't be sad, you can always see each other in messenger, viber or skype. Besides you can see each other when you come home to the Philippines too. Yes, why can't she apply in another school? Maybe she really wants to go home already. Is she married?