Nursery madness!

Nursery
@garymarsh6 (14062)
United Kingdom
September 30, 2017 3:32am CST
My grandson has started nursery in the last couple of weeks. It was quite amusing because my grand daughter returned to school the day before so he was all bravado and insisted he take his new little rucksack with him when he went with his mum to drop her at school. The big day arrived and she took him to the nursery. He had been there for a recce but this day was different he was going to be left. He started to cry and made himself sick. She brought him to our place to clean him up and change his clothes. I told my daughter that he may very well do this again because he knows now he can get out of staying so if he does it again just wash and change him and leave him there. Was I right! You bet. The very next time he did it again. Last Tuesday evening I got home about seven thirty and there was someone else in the house. So I spoke to my wife in French telling her I bet he think if he stays here the night he won't have to go to nursery the next day! He told me Grandad stop speaking French I don't understand what you are saying. (We are having battles at the moment. He tells me I don't and won't speak French). I told him well if you listen to me you will soon pick it up! We got up early on Wednesday he had his shower and breakfast and I told him to put his shoes on. He said are we going out granddad I told him yes. Where. I said nursery of course. It is Wednesday. Well I am not going he told me and promptly threw up! I never made a fuss so I just covered the mess which was only water. Put his shoes on and took him to nursery! So I am the not flavour of the month grandparent at the moment! Did you ever have such an experience with your child or grandchild?
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27 responses
@LadyDuck (156947)
• Switzerland
30 Sep
You did the right thing Gary, he must understand that this is a normal thing to do and there is no reason to fake to be sick to stay at home. Well done.
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@garymarsh6 (14062)
• United Kingdom
30 Sep
It is quite amusing! He is a fast learner!
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@LadyDuck (156947)
• Switzerland
30 Sep
@garymarsh6 He is cute, a smart little boy.
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@garymarsh6 (14062)
• United Kingdom
30 Sep
@LadyDuck Very handsome Anna I am sure he will break many girls hearts! You can tell he does not get his looks from me!
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@hereandthere (30985)
• Philippines
30 Sep
this is something i wanted to add in my comment to you about sports. you're also a firm parent and grandparent.
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@garymarsh6 (14062)
• United Kingdom
30 Sep
Oh lordy. I am only doing what most other grandparents do and that is lead by example!
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• Philippines
30 Sep
@garymarsh6 i remember you stopping the car and letting your daughter to get out.
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@peachpurple (12875)
• Malaysia
30 Sep
ah... so cute. My son hates when me and my hubby speak Hokkein in order for him not to know what we are talking about. He would interfere and insisted what we were talking about.
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@garymarsh6 (14062)
• United Kingdom
30 Sep
Haha you will be surprised how much they pick it up! Luckily my daughter is fluent now. She too used to hate me speaking French with her when I picked her up from school. She protested and insisted on answering me in English but at least I knew she understood me!
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@peachpurple (12875)
• Malaysia
30 Sep
@garymarsh6 well it is a fun way to learn both language isn't it?
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@garymarsh6 (14062)
• United Kingdom
30 Sep
@peachpurple yes you should continue to do so. You will be surprised how much he will pick up!
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@shubhu3 (14282)
• New Delhi, India
30 Sep
That ia so sweet. And he is really cute.
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@garymarsh6 (14062)
• United Kingdom
30 Sep
Very intelligent for his age but not intelligent enough to outsmart Granddad eh!
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@shubhu3 (14282)
• New Delhi, India
30 Sep
@garymarsh6 hehehe.
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• Philippines
30 Sep
@garymarsh6 he never will. you saw through him on the very first day!
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• China
30 Sep
Your grandson seems to be bright beyond his years.How come he threw up more than once?
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@garymarsh6 (14062)
• United Kingdom
30 Sep
He thought that if he did that we would feel sorry for him and let him stay home! I could see a pattern develop! How clever is that eh!
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• China
1 Oct
@garymarsh6 Oh,he pretended to throw up!However he had not thought that you saw through it.
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30 Sep
I am not married yet but planning to...and all this information is surely going to help me in future
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@garymarsh6 (14062)
• United Kingdom
30 Sep
Haha I hope it does. Children have to explore and test to see what they can and can not get away with. He lost this time! I am sure you will make a wonderful parent!
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30 Sep
@garymarsh6 oh I surely will be because I myself was the most naughtiest kid...still am
@1hopefulman (28361)
• Canada
30 Sep
You have quite a challenge on your hands. I had no problem with my children and my grandchildren do not live close and all went well as far as I know.
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@garymarsh6 (14062)
• United Kingdom
2 Oct
My grand daughter was fine he is a bit of a mummies boy I think!
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@1hopefulman (28361)
• Canada
2 Oct
@garymarsh6 Hopefully, he'll get over it.
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@garymarsh6 (14062)
• United Kingdom
2 Oct
@1hopefulman He has now he has a friend there! I have just seen him and he is happy!
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@DeborahDiane (21568)
• Laguna Woods, California
2 Oct
@garymarsh6 - Our youngest daughter was fine in nursery school, which she thought was fun. When she started regular school, however, she clung to me every day for months. I didn't think she would ever be ready to go inside by herself!
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@garymarsh6 (14062)
• United Kingdom
2 Oct
It just takes time to adjust!
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• Laguna Woods, California
3 Oct
@garymarsh6 - Yes, it takes children a little while to gain the confidence and be comfortable venturing away from home. That is OK. Eventually they all do.
@Gillygirl (17282)
• Sutton, England
30 Sep
He is learning fast. I had similar experiences with my daughter.
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@garymarsh6 (14062)
• United Kingdom
2 Oct
Well they learn that this is not the right thing to do!
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@Gillygirl (17282)
• Sutton, England
8 Oct
@garymarsh6 He looks so cute, bless his little cotton socks.
@just4him (116780)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
30 Sep
I'm sorry he doesn't like going to nursery. My kids couldn't wait to go to school. They waved at me as I left them to take the bus.
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@garymarsh6 (14062)
• United Kingdom
2 Oct
We don't have the same system here in the UK (School bus) We have to take them there and collect them each day!
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@just4him (116780)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
2 Oct
@garymarsh6 I didn't know you didn't use school buses.
• United States
30 Sep
I don´t have the grandchild Gary.. Look at the little chameleon in the photo..the clever chameleon..ah but see he can´t outsmart or con the Gary GranDad hahha
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@garymarsh6 (14062)
• United Kingdom
30 Sep
Haha yes. I saw him the next day and asked him if he had a nice time. He said yes so I asked when do you go next he said Friday. I said when is that. Tomorrow Grandad! He seems to know full well when he has to go! It went better of Friday no crying!
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• United States
30 Sep
@bluesa (13421)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
30 Sep
Uh oh, I can just imagine he is not a happy little lad, Gary. No children or grandchildren for me, but I know that you had to be firm with him or he would have kept on making himself sick to not go to nursery.
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@garymarsh6 (14062)
• United Kingdom
30 Sep
Exactly otherwise he would play this little stunt each time he does not want to do something!
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@bluesa (13421)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
30 Sep
@garymarsh6 , definitely, Grandad had to show him this would not work. :)
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@amadeo (65656)
• United States
30 Sep
No I have not. Nice looking chap there.
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@garymarsh6 (14062)
• United Kingdom
30 Sep
He is very handsome. Obviously does not get it from me!
@amadeo (65656)
• United States
30 Sep
@garymarsh6 and why not.I am sure you have some nice young photo of there.You
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@YrNemo (12638)
30 Sep
Can any of his parents or you grandparents come helping out with the class for a while until he is OK (just quietly sitting there doing other work)? I did that many years ago with my first & second.
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@garymarsh6 (14062)
• United Kingdom
30 Sep
It was fortunate that I was not working in the morning so I was able to take him there. No we are all working unfortunately. Great idea though! In fact there are a few places combining child care and aged care which are proving beneficial to both adults giving them a new lease of life and enjoyment and the kids who are learning so much from the elderly.
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@YrNemo (12638)
30 Sep
@garymarsh6 Can you manage to just sit there with him for say, about a few minutes? Fail that, you may try this approach which my kids' father tried: Our first was a bit anxious, and his father said this to him, 'Look, I am just sitting right outside, right on the bench there, wait for you the whole time. Anytime you need me, just yell out and I will be in so fast, I promise!' The little boy believed that his father did just that, sitting outside waiting for him. NB. His father lied of course, but once the door of the kinder was closed, the little boy wouldn't know one way or another. I didn't condone that sort of untruth, but the boy was happy, (shrug) and that was good enough for us. (His father did try to show his face through that window for the first few seconds of course, just to show the boy that THAT was the window where he would sit and wait. Worked like a charm!)
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@jstory07 (66957)
• Roseburg, Oregon
2 Oct
You did the right thing. Just take him tell him good by and leave. He will get used to being there.
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@garymarsh6 (14062)
• United Kingdom
2 Oct
Absolutely! He must learn sometimes we have to do things we do not want to do!
@DianneN (77984)
• United States
1 Oct
No, my kids and grandkids were fine with nursery school. As a teacher of first grade students, I shooed the parents out of my room and told them their crying children would be just fine once they left. The kids always stopped crying within a moment or two. You did the right thing, Gary!
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@garymarsh6 (14062)
• United Kingdom
2 Oct
Absolutely! They have a knack of making parents feel guilty!
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@MALUSE (40052)
• Germany
1 Oct
I wonder what is behind his tantrums? What is it he dislikes? Have you got this out of him or does he keep schtum?
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@garymarsh6 (14062)
• United Kingdom
2 Oct
I think he does not want to be away from his mother!
@KrauseHome (35035)
• United States
1 Oct
Did he have a bad experience from the start to feel like this, or just a case of nerves that you need to learn how to help him get over? Maybe he is not used to being around a lot of other kids or being left alone with strangers. Hopefully soon this can improve.
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@garymarsh6 (14062)
• United Kingdom
2 Oct
He will settle down I am sure. He told me he was looking forward to going again! I think he just wants to be with mummy all the time!
@snowy22315 (47081)
• United States
30 Sep
Poor little fellow he must have been so anxious!
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@garymarsh6 (14062)
• United Kingdom
2 Oct
He is more settled now in week three!
• United States
30 Sep
You brought me back to when my first daughter started school and did the same thing. Every day the school would call and say she threw up. Needless to say she wasn't very popular with her fellow students, the teacher and especially the janitor. One day I just handed her a bag of clothes and said when you get sick in school today here's your clean clothes. Problem solved. Never happened again! Hope your little guy adjusts and you can go back to being Grandpa popular
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@garymarsh6 (14062)
• United Kingdom
30 Sep
That was a great way of dealing with her!