Friends, they come and go.
By Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
Davao, Philippines
October 7, 2017 7:59am CST
I was busy scrolling down my newsfeeds on Facebook. And I see photos of our friends. I and the boyfriend both have the same friends. I suddenly feel sad. Ever since I had a heated conversation with one my close friend's girlfriend. I observe that they are not friendly with me anymore. It's like they change side with her instead of defending me.
I remember when I was still healthy. I'm so kind to them to lend them money, treat them to drink and food. And when I got sick, no one from the group visited us or help us or even pray for my recovery. Oh, at least there was one. The one that I have a heated conversation with her girlfriend. But that friend changes side as well.
It was not my fault, the girlfriend didn't like me because they respect me. She thought I don't like her because of the jokes we had. But it was nothing. When friends stupidity collides, jokes become natural. Maybe she is not used to the nature of our friendship. Then she stalked me and thought the post I posted on Facebook are for her when in fact we are not friends on Facebook. I did nothing to her. Now I can no longer be with my so-called friends because I feel they are not real anymore.
Do you have friends like this?
Photo grab from Google.com.
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21 responses
@sabtraversa (12938)
• Italy
7 Oct 17
I think "friendship" is an overused word. Most of the time we deal with acquaintances with benefits.
Friendship requires some true feelings, like you really care about someone and you genuinely feel bad when they're sad or sick, and feel good when they're happy. 
Couples aren't an easy thing, I understand there are priorities, but I've seen plenty of friendships being broken because of a boyfriend or girlfriend. And it was often about jealousy. 
I have very few people I consider to be friends, the good thing is that no matter how long we don't hear from each other, once we get back together it feels like the old days. 
While others, come and go, temporary acquaintances with benefits, we need those too, I suppose. 
Couples aren't an easy thing, I understand there are priorities, but I've seen plenty of friendships being broken because of a boyfriend or girlfriend. And it was often about jealousy.
I have very few people I consider to be friends, the good thing is that no matter how long we don't hear from each other, once we get back together it feels like the old days.
While others, come and go, temporary acquaintances with benefits, we need those too, I suppose. 2 people like this
@sabtraversa (12938)
• Italy
7 Oct 17
@JustBhem Exactly, relationships really change people, if their relationship ever goes bad, expect that friend to come back. 
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
7 Oct 17
Yay. Another word to ponder from you Sab and thank you for this.
Yeah, I understand what you mean but these friends I'm talking about are my friends for like 10 years or so. I think people change when they have a relationship already or maybe because I am close to them their girlfriends don't want them to be around with me.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
8 Oct 17
@sabtraversa
And I wonder why is that?
When I have a relationship with the boyfriend, we never change.
I mean we still have time for them.
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@Powermike (8)
• Abuja, Nigeria
8 Oct 17
There is no permanent friends and no permanent enemies. Friends today are enemies tomorrow. And of cause, enemies of today are friends of tomorrow. You are just good to be fair to all.
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@allen0187 (58444)
• Philippines
8 Oct 17
@JustBhem it is good and serves as a effective check and balance.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
8 Oct 17
@allen0187
And I learned my lesson very well.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
8 Oct 17
I don't think they use me. I know they are real it's just that they influence by their partners.
Ever since they have girlfriends, they change side.
Their girlfriends I think doesn't like me and I don't know why.
Whenever I am around, their partners will push them away to go home.
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@Hannihar (129470)
• Israel
24 Oct 17
I have gone through a real journey here in Israel. I have met people different times in my life and then they were gone. Now, I am at a place that I am pretty much satisifed with and like certain people in my life. We do not see each other much, but, they are very special people.
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@Lykangel (67)
• Philippines
8 Oct 17
Yeah, I've experienced that many times. When I was in University, it was a matter of not informing me about school works and then, suddenly they got angry with me. They built up another group to finish the work. Then, when I had another gropu of friends after that incident, they left me as well. Because of class schedule. To the fact that we had conversation about it, still they left me behind. But that's okay. I can live without them.
Indeed, it's very hard to see who's true to us.
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@prashu228 (37526)
• India
7 Oct 17
Yes some of my friends ,we very best friends while in college and school are no longer in contact..
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@LeaPea2417 (36442)
• Toccoa, Georgia
7 Oct 17
Yes, I have had friends like that.
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@cahaya1983 (11121)
• Malaysia
7 Oct 17
Pretty immature of them to treat you like that, honestly. Fortunately I've never had that kind of experience with any of my friends otherwise we wouldn't have been together until today.
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@cahaya1983 (11121)
• Malaysia
8 Oct 17
@JustBhem I hope they realize their fault and you guys can be good with each other again.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
8 Oct 17
@cahaya1983
Nah, I will not be the one to reconcile with them and for sure they won't as long as their partners are around.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
8 Oct 17
i have just one BFF; my colleagues are my close friends; you here are my virtual friends, but there is some secrecy in me that i do not dare divulge to anyone. if a friend turns against me, i have to weigh the consequences and then i can let him or her go.
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@rohanjale (24)
• Navi Mumbai, India
7 Oct 17
nice post i will said you best friends and true friends always solve your problems without any giving....
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@Edsamacos (557)
• Philippines
7 Oct 17
That is a sad truth. We don't know who are true. We experienced friends who know us when they need something
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@peachpurple (13884)
• Malaysia
7 Oct 17
Nope, I think your friend is just being jealous
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Why are they jealous of me?
@ARN4567 (1061)
• Baguio, Philippines
7 Oct 17
Yes, a lot of them... but most of them, I understand because they want to go on their own, just let them be... at least you know now, how they are as a friend to you...Lesson learned so next time maybe careful in looking for real friends, although they are hard to find. I know one.... who has given himself for us to be saved, and he'll never leave us, as he promised...
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@Powermike (8)
• Abuja, Nigeria
8 Oct 17
A friend in need is a friend in deed. Good friends never quit when problems come.
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@saritflor (3914)
• Hungary
27 Dec 17
In that regard a true friends prove his willing to be friend with us only by acting this is my belief
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