Are you a strict daughter?

@sol_cee (17389)
Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
October 9, 2017 9:25pm CST
Years ago, I would dread going home late at night because I knew my mom would be there, waiting angrily by the door, with the muted television. She’s a strict mother hen who never let her chicks out of her sight. Even if they’re consenting adults. Forward to the future. Yesterday, I asked my sister where mom was because she wasn’t replying to my messages. You see, right after our father passed away, we became our mother’s keeper. Sister said mom went to her friend’s house somewhere far from the city. Sister added that mom didn’t tell me because she knew I would be angry. The ball is round. Lol Photo is from Google.
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@vandana7 (67647)
• India
10 Oct 17
My father is 83. So I should be saying The Ball is round...but it is not...I am still the one who gets troubled...and most of the time, in fact as far as I remember, I have been the one who has been giving in, because I always felt, he is old, he will die then I will be left with regrets. Trust me, it is a real roller coaster ride.
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@Shiva49 (13966)
• Singapore
10 Oct 17
Yes, some give and give while others just take but over time I have been putting my foot down or at least making my feelings known - siva
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
10 Oct 17
You’re one of a kind Vanny-san. Say hi to your father. ;)
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@vandana7 (67647)
• India
10 Oct 17
@Shiva49 .. I pick my battles. I opt for those which are likely to have serious consequences in my life, present and future. That way, even if he goes, and I am left with some sadness that we did not have good words to share - at least I would be consoled with the feeling that it was necessary to have taken that stand.
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@ilocosboy (37339)
• Philippines
10 Oct 17
He he but don't be strict too much to your mom, she needs that diversion and enjoy the life.
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
10 Oct 17
I have reasons to be strict but of course, I am all for her happiness. And good health. ;)
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@Ganma7 (2828)
10 Oct 17
@sol_cee sounds good to me
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@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
10 Oct 17
It is good on your part that you take care of your Mother.
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
10 Oct 17
I assume all children take care of their mom?
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@vandana7 (67647)
• India
10 Oct 17
@sol_cee .. No...some make their parents sell their homes, and shift to smaller accommodations, not spare monies for their upkeep since they would not have enough for drinking, and try to ask parents to stay with them instead of keeping their independence even if parents tend to argue and have lot of blood pressure issues. Trust me, I know what I am talking.
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
10 Oct 17
@vandana7 I forgot about you Vanny-san. ;)
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@ridingbet (59428)
• Philippines
10 Oct 17
danger lurks. i hope your mother won't leave without asking permission from you or any of her children or relatives.
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• Philippines
10 Oct 17
and always reachable by phone, too.
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
10 Oct 17
@ridingbet @hereandthere my siblings knew where she was. Apparently she was only hiding from me. Haha
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@ridingbet (59428)
• Philippines
15 Oct 17
@sol_cee why would she hide from you? i wonder.
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@JustBhem (42922)
• Davao, Philippines
10 Oct 17
Your Mom needs her me time sometimes.
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
10 Oct 17
She goes to Matan-ao Davao del Sur as if it's just Uyanguren. It's way too far Bhem.
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@JustBhem (42922)
• Davao, Philippines
10 Oct 17
@sol_cee Yay, I haven't been there and I think they are going there to have some fun swimming. I heard there is a resort there. Have you been there?
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@JustBhem (42922)
• Davao, Philippines
10 Oct 17
@sol_cee Oh, I thought she went there with her friends for a swim.
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@LadyDuck (176410)
• Switzerland
10 Oct 17
You are right, the ball is round, but the one who is still strict is my mother. She still dares to criticize my dresses if she thinks they are "not appropriate".
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
10 Oct 17
What’s inappropriate for her Anna-san? ;)
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@LadyDuck (176410)
• Switzerland
10 Oct 17
@sol_cee An example "your skirt is too short".... "why do you wear white shoes? I do not like white shoes". She is bossy.
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
10 Jul
@LadyDuck Anna-san I’m sorry for bringing up this thread again. But I like the way you talk about your Mom. She knew her fashion. :)
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@Shiva49 (13966)
• Singapore
10 Oct 17
Culture counts and Asian are over protective of their daughters - siva
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
10 Oct 17
And daughters are overprotective of their mothers. ;)
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@Shiva49 (13966)
• Singapore
10 Oct 17
@sol_cee I agree with your comment. Mothers are always right - siva
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
10 Jul
@Shiva49 mothers know best too. :)
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@Ganma7 (2828)
10 Oct 17
Your roles in life are changing. Trading places comes with Aging
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
10 Oct 17
Nice tag line for a commercial. Haha
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@Ganma7 (2828)
10 Oct 17
@sol_cee Thank you
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@prashu228 (25504)
• India
10 Oct 17
Lol..yes that happens. Even i observe this in my family too
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
10 Oct 17
Ohh so I’m not alone. ;)
@acelawrites (12285)
• Philippines
10 Oct 17
That's fine! Now the daughters are strict and the mother does not want to annoy them! Yes, the ball is round!
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
10 Oct 17
I was kinda chuckling when I read my sister's message. ;)
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@jstory07 (69903)
• Roseburg, Oregon
10 Oct 17
Let your Mom enjoy her life and have a good time with her friends.
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
10 Oct 17
Sure, sure. I'm not that mean. I'm only after her safety. ;)
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@SIMPLYD (83124)
• Philippines
12 Oct 17
What goes around comes around. When the parents get old, it's the children who become strict indeed with their outings especially. That's because we don't want anything bad to happen to them unless they have a companion like a helper or a caregiver.
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
10 Jul
I think your doctor daughter can manage a little headache from you Dina-san. Haha
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@SIMPLYD (83124)
• Philippines
11 Jul
@sol_cee Oh well, she should when that time comes.
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
11 Jul
@SIMPLYD so you admit to the folly. When that time comes. haha
• United States
10 Oct 17
As independent they wish to be treated, with respect to their age and experience level, what was generally expected of us growing up seems to not be conducive as they grow older . . .
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
11 Oct 17
It kinda feels weird sometimes when she asks for my permission to go somewhere, ;)
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• United States
11 Oct 17
@sol_cee but that is respect and compassion, is it not ?
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
10 Jul
@enlightenedpsych2 weird in a heartwarming way. I don’t know if it makes sense. Hehe
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@responsiveme (16816)
• India
15 Oct 17
Yes, the ball is certainly around. They also become quite childish in their behaviour
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
10 Jul
I agree. At times I have to care about her tantrums. Like you say something and she misunderstands and cries. Oh, dear.
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• India
11 Jul
@sol_cee at home now,all siblings visiting our parents
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
11 Jul
@responsiveme is it the time of the year in India to do visit one's parents? Or..
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@RubyHawk (29322)
• Atlanta, Georgia
13 Oct 17
My mother wasn't terribly strict but she wasn't easy.
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
10 Jul
True. Some moms are strict to the point of hitting their kids with belt or something. I never experienced that but I saw my childhood friend being punished by her mom with a big black belt and her kneeling on the floor. That was terrible.
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@RubyHawk (29322)
• Atlanta, Georgia
11 Jul
@sol_cee I whipped my kids when they needed it! Not with a belt but with a switch. They all grew up to be good law abiding citizens Did you think your mom punished you unnecessarily? I think mine did but it worked.
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
11 Jul
@RubyHawk my mom never lifted a finger on me. Oh but there were those few pinches though. Haha
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@shshiju (10567)
• Cochin, India
10 Oct 17
That's really shows the caring
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
11 Oct 17
I care for my mom.
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@shshiju (10567)
• Cochin, India
11 Oct 17
@sol_cee Yes . In childhood your mother cares you and Now its the time for you to care
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
10 Jul
@shshiju I’ll give my life for her. That’s for sure.
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@YrNemo (14714)
12 Oct 17
Uh oh, she is visiting her new boyfriend.
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
12 Oct 17
How did you know? Haha
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@YrNemo (14714)
12 Oct 17
@sol_cee The funny thing is, the young people think older people stop having feelings. Your mother must have felt lonely like crazy without your father. (Some of my older relatives and acquaintances at 70 & 80+ still go searching for love. At heart, they are forever young and at 18...)
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
10 Jul
@YrNemo I suspect she has a crush. Haha
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@bluesa (15115)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
10 Oct 17
Lol! Now you worry about Mom. I am the same, I look after my Mom.
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
10 Oct 17
You’re a good daughter Catherine-san. :)
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@bluesa (15115)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
12 Oct 17
@sol_cee , so are you Sol-san, so are you. :)
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
10 Jul
@bluesa Catherine-san where are you now?
@toniganzon (53346)
• Philippines
10 Oct 17
Now it's your turn! Payback time lol!
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
10 Oct 17
Haha headache Toni-san.
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@toniganzon (53346)
• Philippines
11 Oct 17
@sol_cee Now you know what she went through with you!
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
10 Jul
@toniganzon that’s why I used to see lots of medicol before. Haha
• United States
10 Oct 17
It surely is Sherlocked -san..I know how this is with Mother. Although I do not get to see my Mom anymore..I always worry of her yes.
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
10 Oct 17
It’s funny. She’s now afraid of me- the tigress who used to wait in the dark with the muted tv. ;)
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• United States
10 Oct 17
@sol_cee I understand Sherlocked-san..
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@sol_cee (17389)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
10 Jul
@TiarasOceanView I hope you’re well Tiara-san, wherever you are.