Oct 10- Verbal Sexual Harassment- Must say NO!
October 10, 2017 12:02am CST
Honestly speaking I didn't know that I was sexually harassed by one of the outstation colleague when I was working in a transportation company back in 1990s. All I know that mom told me how to defend myself if guys or strangers wanted to touch me, that is physical sexual harassment but she never told me about the verbal part. I was in charged of the clerical department where I have to make daily phone calls to the cargo department to get the authorization code in order to proceed the cargo shipment. His name was Boey. In order for me to get the code from him, I had to answer his sexual questions until he was satisfied. At first, I refused to answer but he threatened that I would not be able to finish my job if I don't give him answer. Questions related to what is the color of my underwear, bra, etc.... This is Verbal sexual harassment. I should had known that my supervisor knew about Boey desire but she ignored it. I didn't tell her because I was afraid. I should had said NO, are you crazy? Go get a life ! and resign from my job, right? SO, remember, verbal questions about sex by strangers are considered Verbal sexual harassment, always reject them. my photo: minion
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In the 90's there was not a public outcry against this type of behavior. Many women did not report it for fear of losing the job. When you live in a world that requires money to survive, you will endure many things you despise. No woman should ever have to put up with this type of behavior. Personally, I think men who behave like this should be punched in the face (preferable by a woman). But don't ever let anyone belittle you for not reporting and don't beat yourself up. At that time, women had little recourse. Today is a different matter. Today, you stand your ground and fight for yourself and all the women who need help. And for the record, real men do not behave that way. They are obviously trying to compensate for some major inferiority complex.
it's terrible that your supervisor, who is also female, tolerated his behavior. is it because she thought those are just words and may not touch/harm/hurt you physically? she's wrong. of course, it still affects you, doesn't it?
• Dallas, Texas
You should have kicked him in the groin and told him if he ever talked that way again you would do more than that. Then of course you would be accused of both physical assault and making a verbal threat. In the United States, either act would land you in court and be fined with one or more Misdemeanor violations. Better just to resign from you job.