Do you like to shame people?

By Bhem
@JustBhem (30204)
Davao, Philippines
October 10, 2017 9:14pm CST
I don't. It's a bad thing to shame people, especially in public. Or even here. If you feel like you need to because you don't like their idea then tell them in private. It will not make you any different or will gain you something. If you think their discussion is absurd then don't get involve yourself and move to another discussion you find interesting. We are here to have fun at the same time. If you think their grammar is incorrect then no need to tell them their wrong. Just move on to another discussion. No offense meant. Have a good day Mylotters.
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@Hatley (164772)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Oct
I fell that I mhst treat every one one tje wayu I wamt to e treatedwilth kindness and dignity thats the goldem rl;e
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@JustBhem (30204)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Oct
Of course, we treat people the way we treat them. Just like respect.
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@JustBhem (30204)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Oct
@vandana7 Woah. That is rude for me even if it's a joke. Unless if it's not with an event like that. It happens to me as well. One of my Aunt told me in front of her guest how lousy I am serving them. I was about to cry that time and I just let it pass. And when I age, I told her not to shame me in public anymore because I am old enough and it's not good especially my blood is your blood.
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@JustBhem (30204)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Oct
@vandana7 See? Because they are too insecure about themselves that is why shaming people is the best option for them. And I admired you for that because instead of a res back, you stay away from them and that makes them a loser.
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@cahaya1983 (10066)
• Malaysia
11 Oct
I think some people are naturally very direct and blunt so they probably think it's nothing to be sensitive about. But we can always voice out criticisms and disagreements without shaming others or putting them down.
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@JustBhem (30204)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Oct
Of course, there is another way.
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@DianneN (71676)
• United States
11 Oct
Well said! This being an international community, grammar also is to be treated with due respect. I can't speak or write any other language than English well enough to be understood. I'm so impressed with all the myLotters who write so well.
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@JustBhem (30204)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Oct
Me too, I don't mind if it's has a grammar error as long as I understand them I am cool with that. But some people even brag about how their English learning help them when in fact this site has most of the member are not a native speaker.
@tammys85 (9564)
• United States
11 Oct
Nope, I don't like to shame people, nor do I like conflict. I'm here to have fun and earn - not engage in drama. If there's something I don't agree with, I'd either say so in a respectful manner or just move along. And I agree about handling it in private.
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@JustBhem (30204)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Oct
Exactly. It's like if we give this to them, people will give you this treatment as well.
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@tammys85 (9564)
• United States
11 Oct
@JustBhem Yep. Treat people as you would want to be treated.
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@JustBhem (30204)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Oct
@tammys85 Exactly. The Golden Rule.
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@vandana7 (61279)
• India
11 Oct
It depends. If the person is shaming me, I will step up.
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@JustBhem (30204)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Oct
Me too, I received a lot but sometimes I don't mind them. Unless it's already beyond the subject.
@dodoazo (16252)
• Philippines
11 Oct
Allow me to quote from the Bible. Love thy neighbor as thyself. I think it's self explanatory. Just like the Golden Rule.
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@JustBhem (30204)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Oct
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Sir.
@Shavkat (54375)
• Philippines
11 Oct
Personally speaking, I don't. If I was being provoked, then I will do it on the spot without hesitation.
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@JustBhem (30204)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Oct
I think we do that as our self-defense. We backfire if we are provoked.
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@Shavkat (54375)
• Philippines
11 Oct
@JustBhem I do agree with you.
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@JustBhem (30204)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Oct
@Shavkat That is the only issue sometimes if it's below the belt already.
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@LadyDuck (142047)
• Switzerland
11 Oct
I remember I used a wrong word once and I received silly comments to take joke of me and not only by English speaking members. I do not care, but they should show that they can speak another language as their own before taking joke of the others.
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@JustBhem (30204)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Oct
Oh, that's rudeness. I won't take a pass on that. I also received tons of humiliation about my grammar. And they think it's laughable.
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@LadyDuck (142047)
• Switzerland
11 Oct
@JustBhem I used the term "recipe" for a doctor prescription. I mentally translated from the Italian, where a doctor prescription is called "ricetta".
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@JustBhem (30204)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Oct
@LadyDuck Yeah. We called it ricetta here too.
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@toniganzon (48117)
• Philippines
11 Oct
I think there's a line between shaming or bullying others and being honest. Sometimes when I'm being honest, people take it negatively and they get offended. I have never corrected anybody here regarding their grammar though I see a lot of mistakes but when the construction is incomprehensible I do ask what the writer meant exactly.
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@JustBhem (30204)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Oct
Do you think are they the same?
@toniganzon (48117)
• Philippines
11 Oct
@JustBhem Like I said there's a line between shaming and being honest. So obviously they're not the same. However, some people don't know how to draw the line and they take honesty as bullying. These people who take it into heart and who can't take criticisms despite being constructive are the insecure ones.
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@JustBhem (30204)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Oct
@toniganzon I see it makes sense now. And you are right. Those people who cannot accept honesty are those insecure ones.
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@Courtlynn (65351)
• United States
11 Oct
It's easier said than done. As lots of us have strong opinions on certain things. For instance, I feel strongly about kids, animals, and relationships. So if someone posts something absolutely craxy about those, I'll more than likely say something on the post. Just like some do about health, "god", etc.
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@JustBhem (30204)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Oct
Yeah, I observe that Courtney, and sometimes telling what you feel is not bad.
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@Courtlynn (65351)
• United States
11 Oct
@JustBhem right.
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@prashu228 (25797)
• India
11 Oct
No no..i am not that kind. It's so hurting when people do it.
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@JustBhem (30204)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Oct
Yeah, and it is not a good attitude.
@Phelly02 (467)
• Philippines
11 Oct
I don't like shaming someone since I believe in karma.
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@JustBhem (30204)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Oct
Exactly. What goes around comes around.
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@kepweng (9488)
11 Oct
its so Wrong i experienced before a doctor shame me back in 2011 so my life now is struggling