Does it bother you when people talk to you on speaker phone?

@TheHorse (205753)
Walnut Creek, California
October 12, 2017 2:19pm CST
I just realized that the Zen Horse has another pet peeve. It's when others, especially friends, talk to me on speaker phone. For one thing, it can be hard to tell what the heck they're saying, given that most modern technology is made cheaply, and the fidelity of the microphones and speakers is low. The other the thing that bothers me is the implication that the other person is doing other things while talking to me, and is not giving me their full attention. Does it bother you when people talk to you via speaker phone? I didn't even know HOW to activate my speaker phone until this morning, when Kaiser (my medical provider) put me on a 20 minute wait because of their "unusually high call volume."
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39 responses
@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
12 Oct 17
It really bothers me and especially if there are other people there. I called to talk to them not to have everybody else listening in my what I am saying.
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@TheHorse (205753)
• Walnut Creek, California
12 Oct 17
I'm glad I'm not the only one. May I snarl in your presence?
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@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
15 Oct 17
@TheHorse definitely
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Oct 17
I don't like being on speaker phone because I don't want others hearing my conversation. That just bothers me.
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@TheHorse (205753)
• Walnut Creek, California
12 Oct 17
That's a good point too.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
15 Oct 17
@LovingMyBabies that is exactly the way I feel. It can be handy at times but I don't like it.
@much2say (53959)
• Los Angeles, California
12 Oct 17
I hate it and for the very same reasons! It doesn't feel like a private conversation (well, I guess it isn't) - it's high annoying.
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@TheHorse (205753)
• Walnut Creek, California
12 Oct 17
Glad I'm not alone in this sentiment.
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
12 Oct 17
This doesn't happen to me. But I don't like calling or being called at all. Does the psychologist have anything profound to say on this?
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
12 Oct 17
@TheHorse Letters, e-mails.
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@TheHorse (205753)
• Walnut Creek, California
12 Oct 17
How do you like communicating with others?
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@Ri1089 (225)
• Mauritius
13 Oct 17
I'm the same, I only talk on the phone when I only have to, I hate it.
@just4him (306228)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Oct 17
I've tried using mine a couple times when I got my phone, only because my son was here and trying to help me out with a problem. However, it cut out so bad, I had to quit the speakerphone so I could understand her.
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@TheHorse (205753)
• Walnut Creek, California
12 Oct 17
Yeah, I've had that experience. I often say (to friends), "Are you using the frigging speaker phone?"
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@just4him (306228)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
13 Oct 17
@TheHorse I usually let a person know I'm putting them on speaker.
@cindiowens (5120)
• North Myrtle Beach, South Carolina
12 Oct 17
Yes, it does bother me, but my Mom does it all of the time because she can hear me better. I don't guess it bothers me too much when she does it, but anyone else does.
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• United Kingdom
12 Oct 17
@TheHorse because it's louder
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@TheHorse (205753)
• Walnut Creek, California
12 Oct 17
I wonder why she can hear you better!
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• North Myrtle Beach, South Carolina
12 Oct 17
@LilyBeBack I thought @TheHorse was being sarcastic.
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
12 Oct 17
When I call someone, I want to speak to only one person and if they put me on speaker phone, it's ok, as long as I can hear them fine and nobody else can hear what I'm saying. If there other people that can hear our conversation than I appreciate them telling me about it.
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@TheHorse (205753)
• Walnut Creek, California
12 Oct 17
I was talking to a friend once and didn't realize he was driving and had the speaker phone on with three other people in the car. Glad I didn't say anything incriminating.
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
12 Oct 17
@TheHorse Exactly, as we can reveal some information that was not for other ears.
@vandana7 (98827)
• India
13 Oct 17
20 minute wait? Is that not chargeable? LOL Anyway...i use speakers in my cell phone. Primarily because I am scared to use the phone near my ears...some radiation effect that can make me perverted.
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@vandana7 (98827)
• India
18 Oct 17
@TheHorse .. I am the sweetest Vampire Queen
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@TheHorse (205753)
• Walnut Creek, California
19 Oct 17
@vandana7 Absolutely. I see you in my nightma...I mean...dreams...
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@TheHorse (205753)
• Walnut Creek, California
18 Oct 17
The damage has already been done.
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@pgntwo (22408)
• Derry, Northern Ireland
12 Oct 17
People seem to like holding their cellphone in the palm of their hand, speaker on and talking at the microphone - something about not irradiating their brain by holding it in the traditional manner, ie. upside their head... I've seen it in episodes of Castle and Lucifer.
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@pgntwo (22408)
• Derry, Northern Ireland
12 Oct 17
@TheHorse Or strapped to an arm, with two white lumps of plastic dangling from their ears...
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@TheHorse (205753)
• Walnut Creek, California
13 Oct 17
@pgntwo Sometimes I just want to say, Beam me up.
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@TheHorse (205753)
• Walnut Creek, California
12 Oct 17
I see cell phones glued to ears as the norm. Around here, people pretend to be texting so they can avoid eye contact with others as they're out and about.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
15 Oct 17
I hate the speaker phone. I never put my cell on that as I don't want the world to hear what I am saying and I don't want to hear other people that might be around the person I am trying to talk to. Sometimes all this modern technology really stinks.
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@TheHorse (205753)
• Walnut Creek, California
15 Oct 17
It often stinks! I can't count the number of times I'm trying to have a conversation with someone (on their blasted cell phone) and they just disappear.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
16 Oct 17
@TheHorse I know what you mean. My daughter is famous for that and she will answer another call. I just hang up and if she wants to talk to me she can call me.
@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
13 Oct 17
I used to use the speaker phone and it was for others to hear the convo all at once, so I was not going to echo everything. Now I prefer not to use them. Last couple of times I have talked to my attorney she was on speaker and I could not hear her, I said so because I was doing a deposition!
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@TheHorse (205753)
• Walnut Creek, California
13 Oct 17
I hope she got real and got off the frigging speaker phone.
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@TheHorse (205753)
• Walnut Creek, California
18 Oct 17
@andriaperry (putting my flamethrower away)
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
13 Oct 17
@TheHorse Yes she did.
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@kobesbuddy (74571)
• East Tawas, Michigan
12 Oct 17
When my daughter started putting me on speaker phone, it felt like she was always far too busy. So, I stopped calling her. I couldn't hear her anyway!:( It was disheartening, to not rate, at the moment.
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@TheHorse (205753)
• Walnut Creek, California
12 Oct 17
Did you ever tell her it bothered you?
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@kobesbuddy (74571)
• East Tawas, Michigan
12 Oct 17
@TheHorse No, I didn't want to start a problem. We get along good, but she's just so tied up with other things, most of the time. I get my feelings hurt, but don't want to say something that might hurt her:(
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@TheHorse (205753)
• Walnut Creek, California
12 Oct 17
@kobesbuddy Should I send you my "assertiveness training" handout?
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• Peoria, Arizona
13 Oct 17
When it came to house phones, yes it did bother me when people did that. But with cellphones, they get hot when you speak for too long and I don't want that hot piece of glass pressed up again my face or someone else's face for too long. It is uncomfortable. But it is when people start to get too far away from the phone that can get a bit annoying because they are too busy to talk and then I just feel like I am an inconvenience to them.
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@TheHorse (205753)
• Walnut Creek, California
13 Oct 17
Heh. Time to say "Talk to you later."
@TheHorse (205753)
• Walnut Creek, California
18 Oct 17
@DesirousDreamer I've done that.
• Peoria, Arizona
13 Oct 17
@TheHorse Pretty much
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@spiderdust (14741)
• San Jose, California
13 Oct 17
I find speakerphones more annoying than useful. I also hate it when people that I'm talking to on the phone start talking to other people nearby. Um, hello? I'm the one on the phone!
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@TheHorse (205753)
• Walnut Creek, California
18 Oct 17
Yep. I agree. I say, Hello? That can be anther reason to just end the conversation.
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@spiderdust (14741)
• San Jose, California
18 Oct 17
@TheHorse I have been known to hang up the phone when it seemed that there was too much going on at the other end for the caller to pay attention to me.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
13 Oct 17
Yes, it will bother me if I know that I am on speakerphone. I will not be able to share well the stories I have to tell, if there are others listening. If that is the case, then I would just text instead.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
18 Oct 17
@TheHorse I understand.
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@TheHorse (205753)
• Walnut Creek, California
18 Oct 17
I don't text. But I want to feel the other person is having a one-on-one conversation with me.
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@LilyBeBack (1994)
• United Kingdom
12 Oct 17
It doesn't bother me unless I can't hear them properly, I sometimes have to speak to people on speaker phone because they ring me when I'm listening to a podcast or music lthrough my bluetooth speaker and I don't know how to switch it off during a call :')
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• United Kingdom
12 Oct 17
@TheHorse the speaker has a play/pause button but that's never worked for some reason, I've tried switching the speaker off but then the person ringing can hear me but I can't hear them, and on my phone's screen I can't do anything that doesn't relate to the call. All very annoying!
@TheHorse (205753)
• Walnut Creek, California
12 Oct 17
Heh. Aren't there "pause" buttons somewhere?
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@LadyDuck (458091)
• Switzerland
13 Oct 17
YES This bother me a lot. When it happens, I usually hang up saying, call me when can talk "in private", I do not like that others listen what we day.
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@LadyDuck (458091)
• Switzerland
18 Oct 17
@TheHorse If they are alone is anyway lack of manners, someone could listen and this is something I do not like.
@TheHorse (205753)
• Walnut Creek, California
18 Oct 17
Some people do it even when they're alone. It's like they're trying to show that they're too busy to just sit and talk to me.
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@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
12 Oct 17
Doesnt bother me, especially if they were doing something already before i called, or if they have kids they're taking care of .. Just easier when looking for something, dealing with kids, cleaning, or even cooking etc.
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@TheHorse (205753)
• Walnut Creek, California
12 Oct 17
I often can't hear what the other person is saying, the fidelity is so bad.
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@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
13 Oct 17
@TheHorse I can most the time. And if i cant i tell them and they repeat. No biggy.
• Havre De Grace, Maryland
12 Oct 17
Depends on who I am talking to when and if im on speaker phone I dont hide things from anyone so it doesnt
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@TheHorse (205753)
• Walnut Creek, California
12 Oct 17
I rarely use it.
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• Havre De Grace, Maryland
12 Oct 17
@TheHorse May i asked you a question is that dude in your profile pic from the tv show braking bad
@Ri1089 (225)
• Mauritius
13 Oct 17
It bothers me as well for the same reasons you mention. I would rather they call me later when I can have their full attention.
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@TheHorse (205753)
• Walnut Creek, California
13 Oct 17
Yep, sometimes I tell them that. Call me later.
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@Ri1089 (225)
• Mauritius
13 Oct 17
@TheHorse yeah but my phone rarely rings, only for family and such