To contact or avoid that is the question
@candycanedec (379)
October 13, 2017 3:09pm CST
I finally found my biological grandmother, my mother spent most of her life looking for the woman that walked away from her when she was three years old. All of my life all I heard was how she never felt good enough because of this woman. My mom died 17 years ago and I finally found this woman. Do I contact this woman in honor of my mother or do I let it like and don't even give her the time of day? Does she deserve the chance to know that she has grand children and great grandchildren?
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@DesirousDreamer (34783)
• Peoria, Arizona
13 Oct 17
Go for it. If she wants nothing to do with your family, then so be it or perhaps she will be grateful. At least you were not left questioning the big "What if"
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@DesirousDreamer (34783)
• Peoria, Arizona
14 Oct 17
@aureliah Who knows, people can change. And they will never know unless they try.
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@lookatdesktop (27129)
• Dallas, Texas
13 Oct 17
In spite of your feelings good or bad, yes, she does deserve that chance. The guilt you may feel later from not giving her a chance would be more painful than taking a chance at it. in my humble opinion.
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@pumpkinjam (8530)
• United Kingdom
15 Oct 17
You are asking the wrong question, I think. Does your grandmother deserve? Well, you can't really know that until and unless you contact her. However, do you and your children deserve to know? Yes, they do.
If this woman left your mom when she was 3 years old, she won't know why she left. While I can't think of many valid reasons (I couldn't imagine abandoning my children), you never know what may have gone on. I mean, for example, my partner wasn't allowed to see his children for 7 years. He stayed away and didn't fight because he genuinely believed he wasn't good enough to be a father, that they would be better off without him, and that if he did do anything to try and see them, their mum would kick up a stink and possibly stop the rest of my partner's family seeing the children. I very much doubt that his children are aware of all that.
So, I think you should contact this woman. You can then decide for yourself if you want to get to know her, and if she does deserve this chance to know her biological family.
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@candycanedec (379)
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17 Oct 17
That is exactly the reason I contacted her every story has two sides i want to Gove her a chance to hear hers.
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@Friendlypink (3805)
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14 Oct 17
Yes, contact her. She is old for sure and maybe feel sorry for all the things that happened. Before its too late
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@JudyEv (325420)
• Rockingham, Australia
9 Nov 17
I've read how you contacted your grandmother but she doesn't want to have anything to do with you. That is very sad but at least you did try.
