Friendship over love?

By Bhem
@JustBhem (39384)
Davao, Philippines
October 15, 2017 4:23pm CST
This is what happened to us by one of my closest friends. He chose love over our friendship. Actually, I don't mind at all if that's what makes her happy. What vexes me is the fact she lied to me and dump me real fast. And what's pisses me off is she still won't accept that he talks to behind my back. I understand her about how she really likes the guy, and I know how much he wants it. But at least she should be honest with me. And I'm not even trying to steal that moment from her. And because of her, I decided to close my door to anyone that involves her. I know that's what she wants. She wants to be the center of everything because that guy friend will marry her and soon they will have their baby. She planned this all along. Her desperation and manipulating the situation makes her a lot confident. And for what she did to me. I know one day Karma will hit her big time. She may have new friends now because she wants to start a new. And the reality that old friends knew who she is will never fade. Do you accept this kind of behavior? Photo and quote made by Typorama.
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@allen0187 (33444)
• Philippines
16 Oct
I wouldn't put up with it.
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@JustBhem (39384)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Oct
What do you mean?
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@allen0187 (33444)
• Philippines
16 Oct
@JustBhem I mean I cut her off from my life and not do anything with her.
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@JustBhem (39384)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Oct
@allen0187 I guess I will do that from now on.
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@cttolledo (4912)
• Philippines
15 Oct
Its sad but It's normally happening @JustBhem. People in love temporarily lost its sanity. A lot of stories you will heard the worst like giving up their own family, friendhip and disobeying their parents over love. Love can make or break you. Its all depends to the person how to balance everything.
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@JustBhem (39384)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Oct
I am with that. What pisses me off is telling someone and lie about that. I was with her during her loneliest hours, her crying times, when that guy friend ignores her. I get mad at that thought for using me.
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@cttolledo (4912)
• Philippines
16 Oct
@JustBhem Did you asked her why? maybe she has a deep reason. because if there's none why not to tell it to you.
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@JustBhem (39384)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Oct
@cttolledo I read the message she sent my other friend. My other friend sends all the screenshot to me. She said in the message - she is better than me. She doesn't like to talk to me because she thinks I am against her.
@m_audrey6788 (13664)
• Philippines
15 Oct
I`m kind of confused about what your friend did to you You mean that she said something bad about you to her boyfriend?
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@JustBhem (39384)
• Davao, Philippines
15 Oct
I did something for her, after getting what she wants, she ignores me, talk about me behind my back and said something to her boyfriend which is one our closest friend with the boyfriend.
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• Philippines
16 Oct
@JustBhem Oh my, That could be very disappointing and sad as she was once your best friend
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@JustBhem (39384)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Oct
@m_audrey6788 Yeah, that is why it makes me think what did I do wrong for her.
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@just4him (120557)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
15 Oct
It's sad when people act that way. No, I wouldn't have anything to do with that kind of behavior.
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@JustBhem (39384)
• Davao, Philippines
15 Oct
And what do you think I should do better?
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@just4him (120557)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
15 Oct
@JustBhem Nothing. You've done all you can. That person doesn't want to be your friend. Best to let her go.
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@JustBhem (39384)
• Davao, Philippines
15 Oct
@just4him I think I need to do that. Thanks.
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@ridingbet (55920)
• Philippines
16 Oct
if a friend closes her doors to me, she will be considered a non-entity to me, now and forever.
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@JustBhem (39384)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Oct
I like the non-entity.
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@ridingbet (55920)
• Philippines
16 Oct
@JustBhem like the firewood. that is non-entity.
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@JustBhem (39384)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Oct
@ridingbet Hahaha. Let me light it up and burn. Lol
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@josie_ (7410)
• Philippines
17 Oct
I'm confuse. You made no mention how her love relationship affected your friendship. What was it that she lied to you and why did she decided to end (dump you) your friendship.
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@JustBhem (39384)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Oct
She talks about me behind my back telling another friend how lame I was and that she doesn't want to have a conversation with me. She lied about her friendship towards me when in fact I was the one who helped her get her guy of his dreams. For 8 long years, I was the one who talks to her during her sad and alone time until morning. I was the one who gets her guy of her dreams. In short, I am their bridge. And after getting what she wants - she never messages me anymore, until I found out she is living with our guy friend and doesn't want our guy friend to mingle with us anymore. She doesn't want to see me, she always has excuses. Until a friend told me she talks a lot about me behind my back.
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@josie_ (7410)
• Philippines
17 Oct
@JustBhem _I am surprise she was able to hide her real feelings about you for 8 long years without you having an inkling about it. Your feelings of betrayal and anger is understandable. Best you move on with your life and put her in your past.
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@JustBhem (39384)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Oct
@josie_ That is my question I want to ask her and she refuses to talk to me. So that means she uses me for her own good and not because I am a friend.
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@Shortail (863)
• Philippines
16 Oct
much better to remain friends, rather than to take advantages of the situation. But if you both love each others go on, but you need to take the consequence of being well you know, forget each others when you broke up.
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@JustBhem (39384)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Oct
I was thinking about it like I want her and me to talk things out in person. But she is hiding. She doesn't want me to go to our friend's house.
@Shortail (863)
• Philippines
16 Oct
@JustBhem she don't want to get more closer, maybe. and she analyzing the situation and holding back the feelings. ah wait. she?
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@JustBhem (39384)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Oct
@Shortail Yes, my friend is a she.
@ebanreb (6932)
• Philippines
16 Oct
let love flows naturally.
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@JustBhem (39384)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Oct
And it's not what it means.
@ebanreb (6932)
• Philippines
16 Oct
@JustBhem sorry wrong sent hahaha. sleepy so far lol
• Boston, Massachusetts
22 Oct
sounds like a bad friend to me!
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@JustBhem (39384)
• Davao, Philippines
22 Oct
She is and I thought she was the nicest person I know. It turned out that she is now and bogus.
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• Cuddalore, India
18 Oct
Friendship is only great
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@JustBhem (39384)
• Davao, Philippines
18 Oct
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@kepweng (16794)
• Waikoloa, Hawaii
17 Oct
if you have a friends sometimes it well developed into love am i right? is your boyfriend is your best friend before??
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@JustBhem (39384)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Oct
We are friends before getting into a serious relationship and my discussion is not about it. Lol
@nangayo (2339)
• Nairobi, Kenya
16 Oct
Very bad talking behind your back. Forget about her and move on with your life maybe she was not meant to be yours.
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@JustBhem (39384)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Oct
That is my first option. I will think this over.
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@wongchoiyee (7376)
• Malaysia
16 Oct
No, I will give up the friendship, this is not a real friend at all.
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@JustBhem (39384)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Oct
Yeah, I agree. I wonder what I did wrong.
@LeaPea2417 (21111)
• Toccoa, Georgia
16 Oct
That is not good when people act that way.
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@JustBhem (39384)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Oct
It is not at all.
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@sharon6345 (131153)
• United States
15 Oct
i would wish her the best in life and live mine. I don't think It would be more than that. I would not want the stress.
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@JustBhem (39384)
• Davao, Philippines
15 Oct
I know that I should do that too. It's just that the guy is also one of our closest friends. She really did this thing because of the fact that we are much closer to the guy. And now she is trying to poison the guy's mind by taking the reason of my current situation. By my sickness. He told our guy friend that I'm acting like this because of my sickness. Do you think that my sickness has something to do with this?