I dreamt I was left with a girl child..
By vanny
@vandana7 (98823)
India
October 25, 2017 12:07pm CST
Why I remember the dream is, my reaction was, I can't get her married...
She was a baby, cute one ..a bit like little monkey. I think all newborns look like that.
Actually an elderly childless couple wanted to adopt her, but were age barred.
So they asked me to help them out, and I obliged by signing relevant papers.
Soon they had financial problems, and I was left with the child in my arms.
All I could say was, it will be difficult for me to find her a match!!!
I did not voice my normal fears about holding the baby.
Instead, I was obsessed about caste system in the country because in our community loads of money is needed as dowry. In other communities, they are particular about the caste. So either way, it would be an issue alright..
Funny ...my concerns should have been how will I manage her schooling ..who will go to pick her up when I am working and where will she stay when I am at the office or am hospitalized.
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10 responses
@mayka123 (16584)
• India
2 Jan 18
Would you want to take on the responsibility if your dream ever comes true? Seeing so many things around I am a bit scared of having to take on any responsibility of a girl child. My daughter has now grown up and i get worried about whats happening to girls now.
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@vandana7 (98823)
• India
3 Jan 18
@mayka123 The politicians do not have the will to stop that. Do you know that? Even muslims have dowry system in our country. Traditionally, muslims get "mehr". Laws relating to dowry were dropped the first thing when Modi government came. But Nirbhaya case, they kept on deferring it till there was no way they could do much about it.
@vandana7 (98823)
• India
2 Jan 18
If all those concerns including the ones that society is now thrusting upon is were controlled, definitely. But as things stand, I cannot earn 1 crore plus to find a bank clerk willing to marry her. Those are the going rates in our community. No wonder nobody wants a girl child.
@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
30 Oct 17
Wow that shows how much the caste system is such a part of the psyche there..poor Vanny ..it would be enough to worry of how you and the baby would survive for basic needs, nevermind marriage.
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@vandana7 (98823)
• India
1 Nov 17
@TiarasOceanView .. I often think Winston Churchill was right - the way our country has gone.
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
31 Oct 17
@vandana7 Yes they did fail on that.
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@YrNemo (20261)
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31 Oct 17
@vandana7 You just have to marry one of the members here who lives in a country where there is no dowry or caste problem. Much less money involved if there is such a marriage, just potential headache later 
. (If you went for someone who was likely to die soon, that would be wonderful, right? 
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. (If you went for someone who was likely to die soon, that would be wonderful, right? )1 person likes this
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
26 Oct 17
You are worried about marriage in your dream too? If she is given good education ,she can look for her life partner/ soulmate, days are not the same..
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@vandana7 (98823)
• India
26 Oct 17
That used to be the dream. As things turn out, girls are being deliberately sent back to home with scare in ola and uber cars, and gang rapes so that caste and dowry systems do not go away. If they are educated, jobs are not easy to come by, isn't it? With that kind of environment, it is scary alright for young girls in our country.
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@sabtraversa (12924)
• Italy
26 Oct 17
That dream probably means you wish to take care of something or someone, or you're too afraid of the responsibilities that come with having something or someone. 
I sometimes dream situations where I have to solve problems, if I wake up, I'll go to sleep again because that dreamland issue gotta be solved! 
I sometimes dream situations where I have to solve problems, if I wake up, I'll go to sleep again because that dreamland issue gotta be solved! 1 person likes this
@vandana7 (98823)
• India
26 Oct 17
LOL...not sure about that. But the tiny child sure was worth holding. lol. Somehow the dependence of children is so appealing. Same thing if an able bodied adult does it, it can get annoying.
And that is an interesting take. Solving problem. Hmm. I need to think like that I suppose. :)
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@cahaya1983 (11121)
• Malaysia
13 Nov 17
Considering how the caste system works, I think I can understand why the girl's marriage was the first thought that came up in your dream. The dowry there would be given only from the bride to the groom, right?
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