Lost trust

United States
October 26, 2017 4:20pm CST
It's sad when you just now realize that if someone can talk about someone else to you, why wouldn't that person show you the same disrespect? Well this is the second time my so called friend has done this to me. I merely wish to keep our fights between us and I told her if she ever went behind my back to our friends and mainly my husband, I would lose all trust and faith in her. She has done this once before and it took a little while for me to trust her with anything again. Well we just had a major blow out and so she decides to text my HUSBAND screen shots of our fight and kind of making a mockery of the depression I have been going through. I found out because me and my husband keep no secrets from each other. I tell you I flipped OUT on her. When you tell my husband to keep these messages from me, that to me is shady as all hell. I do not deal with liars and manipulators, no matter how much she loves my son. I said my peace, said I was through and have not talked talked to her since. She may have been calling it trying to get advice on what to do from the person that knows me inside and out, but I call it betrayal when she should have left him and everyone else out of it. I hate that it ended like this, but I just do not see how we can be friends again when I simply can't trust her. It's a sad situation honestly.... :-(
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@skydream (1446)
• Agate, Colorado
26 Oct 17
It's really sad when that happens. No one likes when their friend goes behind their back especially after telling them not to do it. If she wanted to get advice i don't think she should go to your husband because he'll always be on your side and it seems shady like they would try to start problems. Then telling him not to tell you is extra shady. IT sucks it ended like that but if she knows that you don't appreciate that then she shouldn't have done it. If she cared she wouldn't do something that bugs you.
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• United States
26 Oct 17
Or at least have said some sort of apology, which I got absolutely none of. She doesn't care that she hurt me at all because she feels she didn't do it intentionally. Doesn't matter. She hurt me with her betrayal. Thank you for your input. :-)
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@skydream (1446)
• Agate, Colorado
26 Oct 17
@DanieGirl80587 She owes you an apology for sure. Even if she feels she didn't do anything wrong since you're hurt she needs to apologize.
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• United States
26 Oct 17
@skydream She is not the type to apologize too often sadly. I don't think i ever will get one. Nor will she change her behavior. Oh well. Her loss.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Oct 17
well she isn't much of a friend to do that to you. either she is retarded and did not realize what she was doing or else she is after your man. only you would know the answer to that and you are better off with a different friend
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
29 Oct 17
@DanieGirl80587 get rid of her now and insist he does also.
• United States
29 Oct 17
@bunnybon7 She isnt in our lives at the moment and will probably stay that way.
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• United States
29 Oct 17
She feels she did nothing wrong by going to him since they are friends or whatever. He is still my husband and any friend would not talk about their friend to their husband just because they are close friends. That was stupid of her. And to tell him to keep it between them....just dumb. No boundaries whatsoever.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
26 Oct 17
I'm sorry, friendships coming to an end is always so sad. =( She shouldn't have gone to your husband with anything, that's your place not hers.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
27 Oct 17
@DanieGirl80587 I can't say I blame you at all.
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• United States
27 Oct 17
Exactly! Thank you! She had no right going to my husband of all people just because they are friends. This fight was between me and her and no one else. Totally uncalled for.
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@Daelii (5619)
• United States
26 Oct 17
I'm so sorry! I'm not sure what its about but its real shaddy for her to speak like that with your husband. Seems so fishy!!! Spouses shouldn't have secrets from each other (except like holiday and special surprise gift's). Anyone who wants private secrets has no respect for that marriage!
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• United States
27 Oct 17
I agree. She has no respect for my feelings or my marriage.
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