Supposed friends that take advantage
October 28, 2017 10:02am CST
When you are always being hospitable and helpful to someone and you need something now and then that they can do but they always have an excuse not to help does that make you suspicious of just what kind of friend they are? My daughter has these 2 girls that are a couple and 2 nights in a row they spent over here on her time off. Eating up the Halloween candy, eating dinner with us, and using the wifi, etc. they never bring anything, but I truly would not mind all that. except for the fact that a few weeks ago when daughter had to work all night and her bf was at his moms over night, we ask could one or both stay over with me. No, they had other plans. My daughter even went and helped them out when no one else could and they were stuck several miles away on the road and their car broke down. Like I said 2 nights over here and then last night daughter had to work and her bf had to spend the night at his moms to help her move last night and today. I asked them if they could come and just hang out here. they said they would but couldn't as they had a side job they was doing. whatever that means! This makes me feel very annoyed with them. Would you? maybe I am just wrong but I see no reason to be nice to someone when they just hang out taking advantage of your hospitality when it is only convienent for them. photo from pixabay free
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• Green Bay, Wisconsin
Maybe they don't feel comfortable to be there when your daughter isn't. I know I would probably feel the same way if someone I didn't know well wanted me to come over and hang out. Even if I was good friends with the daughter. However, if they have been there a lot, that's different. They would be more comfortable and there's no reason why a simple request would get that kind of response.
• Holiday, Florida
they have been here a lot. like i said they have talked with me a lot when daughter was here and she has helped them a lot and we have been hospitable to them. why could they not do us a small favor. i am not asking them to work. just be here. they are both girls and i am not a guy so why be uncomfortable?
• Guangzhou, China
I don't like selfish persons. I know some of my friends tended to take advantage of me. At first I really didn't mind it much. But as time goes by, I don't think it is right. A friend should not use another friend and this is not the friendship. It is more like business but it is not a fair deal anyway. So I don't keep in touch with this kind of friends anymore.
• United States
I would not want anyone coming to hang out eating me out of house and home. if I needed help in any way I would find it the best way I could. It sure would not be with my daughter's friends. I also would not stop them from making side money if that was what they were doing. If I had a friend that was my age and I was always helping them out. I would feel they were using me. But my daughter's friends would not be hanging out here eating me out of food. That was one of the things we had issues with. I said they don't pay rent here they don't stay here. Bye
• Holiday, Florida
see i would not have minded the food and such if they would have been willing to reciprocate by being a good friend back. and when i said to daughter they are spending the nights but won't when you are gone she said they were not staying. yet it was 3 am one night and 4 am the next. they are not living here cause if they were they would be here the last 2 nights i have been alone. i can't do much about them visiting but i will no longer be nice to them