House Share Problems!

@redurnet (1800)
United Kingdom
November 2, 2017 7:45am CST
Any ideas on how to agree to house rules when you share with other people? I have reached the point where I've requested for a certain thing to be done so often that I dare not bring it up again in case I sound crazy.
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@JudyEv (323673)
• Rockingham, Australia
3 Nov 17
I've never had to share a house so I don't really know what to suggest. Do you ever have meetings where you can bring up 'stuff' and sort out any issues? Perhaps others will have good ideas.
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@JudyEv (323673)
• Rockingham, Australia
3 Nov 17
@redurnet I think it would be a good idea to have the ideas in writing and it might be appropriate to print any rules up and put them in a prominent position.
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@redurnet (1800)
• United Kingdom
3 Nov 17
@JudyEv Another good idea, thanks!
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@redurnet (1800)
• United Kingdom
3 Nov 17
Yes we do but it seems like what we seem to agree on during these meetings just means nothing. Maybe if we write it down rather than just discuss it there might be some changes.
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@m_audrey6788 (58487)
• Germany
2 Nov 17
I experienced living in other houses and usually don`t go out of my room to eat or do something I paid for a room and so I do things inside my own room and just go out without minding others business but I make sure that I don`t make noise as I respect their peaceful place and if ever I have troubles with water or home electrical problems, I just informed the owner and help me out fixing it. If others don`t behave the same way, I go find other place to stay
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@redurnet (1800)
• United Kingdom
2 Nov 17
I used to be like this too in previous house shares but here there is a lot of shared areas.
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• Germany
2 Nov 17
@redurnet Oh you mean shared kitchen, living room and bathroom?
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@redurnet (1800)
• United Kingdom
2 Nov 17
@m_audrey6788 yes, it's actually the garden where the problem is though in my case, which probably doesn't seem like it would be a big deal.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
2 Nov 17
Living with others is never easy no matter who your living with. I have always made a list that I hung on the fridge for everyone to see when people lived with us. Each person has a job and everyone is expected to help out.
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@redurnet (1800)
• United Kingdom
2 Nov 17
That's a good idea.
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@just4him (303392)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Dec 17
Everyone should work together in the house to keep it neat and clean. I hope you come up with a solution.
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@just4him (303392)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
13 Dec 17
@redurnet I hope you find one.
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@redurnet (1800)
• United Kingdom
12 Dec 17
It does get me down to see the same things being done again and again. I am working now to try and create a good solution.
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@fishtiger58 (29823)
• Momence, Illinois
2 Nov 17
Oh I remember those days and they were not fun. I hope you can come to some sort of agreement. Good luck.
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@fishtiger58 (29823)
• Momence, Illinois
3 Nov 17
@redurnet I hear you
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@redurnet (1800)
• United Kingdom
2 Nov 17
I hope so too, thanks! No, it is not really nice having to share. I would prefer to live on my own, definitely.
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@ShifaLk (17817)
• India
7 Feb 18
I've never shared house to others but yes when some relatives come for many days, we surely want them to be in our schedule
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@redurnet (1800)
• United Kingdom
7 Feb 18
That's true.
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@ShifaLk (17817)
• India
7 Feb 18
@redurnet what kind of sharing is yours? Are you sharing with some other roommate or a tenant or what?
@snowy22315 (168423)
• United States
28 Mar 18
I guess it depends on whether you are both equals in the house or if one of you owns it. In my case, since I own the property who ever lives here, is kind of at my discretion. I am not too much of a rule stickler, but if someone repeatedly infringes on my good nature I will say something, and they had better listen.
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@bunnybon7 (50975)
• Holiday, Florida
17 Nov 17
maybe sit down and discuss it and put a sign with the rules some where for all to agree on. it is nearly impossible to get everything how you need it. believe me. I have had to live with others for 12 yrs now.
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@redurnet (1800)
• United Kingdom
18 Nov 17
Thanks, that's good advice!
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@sprite1950 (30462)
• Corsham, England
28 Mar 18
I used to share a house with two other girls before I had children and although we got on most of the time there was often disagreement about chores, I think it's just part and parcel of that kind of living arrangement. Maybe you could make a rota but you might find people don't stick to it which is just as annoying.
@jaboUK (64363)
• United Kingdom
20 Nov 17
I only did that once (60 years ago), and there was just one person who wouldn't clean up after herself. The rest of us ganged up on her, and she soon towed the line. I don't know what the answer would be to your problem, sorry.
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@redurnet (1800)
• United Kingdom
20 Nov 17
It's tough to know what to do.
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@cahaya1983 (11121)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 17
I know what that's like. It's hard having to bring up the same thing again and again. Having written rules would help but only if they stick to those rules. If it gets to the point where things still don't change I would just find another place to stay.
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@redurnet (1800)
• United Kingdom
11 Dec 17
That is probably the best option. I think perhaps we are all too different to make things work.
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@DianneN (246452)
• United States
12 Dec 17
Although I've never shared a house with anyone except my husband and two sons, I'd suggest having a meeting and decide together who has what responsibility and when. Don't forget to put it in writing!
@Shiva49 (26163)
• Singapore
9 Nov 17
House sharing with other people is never easy especially when others do not play fair . It is in a way like asking for return of a loan - how many times one can ask? siva
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@redurnet (1800)
• United Kingdom
11 Dec 17
It is very difficult.
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• United States
6 Dec 17
It's all about compromise. No one is getting everything they want, but what they get they can be satisfied with.
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@redurnet (1800)
• United Kingdom
11 Dec 17
Good advice, thank you.
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