Lost and found and thankful

@GardenGerty (92234)
Marion, Kansas
November 6, 2017 8:53pm CST
My dad is 86, his wife is ninety six or seven. She fell Saturday morning. She would not go to the doctor, she wanted to stay home and watch the OU football game. Her daughter helped her get up in her chair. Sunday, very early, she was in excruciating pain. Family came and got her to ER, I guess. Dad said he would get dressed and follow in the car. He got lost. First of all, he was trying to go to the wrong hospital. Secondly, he has constant double vision, but still drives. Thirdly, he KNOWS he gets confused and has gotten to where he will not go anywhere without his wife along, but she was at the hospital. The police were called. He does not have a cell phone, if you remember from another post. He threw it away. The police stopped him. Then they were talking with his daughter in law and he got back in the car and tried to drive away. He no longer has keys to the car. Charlotte, my "step mom", his wife, has a broken femur. She is frail, and refuses to take very much medicine. She says it all makes her sick, so she gets infections. She does not drink enough water, and gets dehydrated. She falls. I am thankful that my dad was located. I am VERY thankful he did not have a wreck or injure anyone while he was lost. So I will be a bit distracted for a while. Waiting to see how things go for them. Hope to be around a bit tomorrow morning.
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@andriaperry (35825)
• Anniston, Alabama
7 Nov
I am so glad he is okay and poor step mom. How will he manage without her? Do you think its time to hire someone or consider a nursing home.
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@GardenGerty (92234)
• Marion, Kansas
7 Nov
Right now they know she will be in a nursing home for rehab. She thinks two weeks, dad thinks one. My brother and I do not think she will rehab enough to ever go home. For now, my brother says he will fix a room for dad at his house if necessary.
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@andriaperry (35825)
• Anniston, Alabama
7 Nov
@GardenGerty That is good news.
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@Courtlynn (54532)
• United States
7 Nov
Oh wow! Sorry your step mom fell, and got hurt. Hope she decides to take much better care of herself, and doesn't fall anymore. Glad your dad was located, uninjured and didnt injury others. Also glad his keys were taken.. why does he still have his license..? Hope you can sleep tonight with all that going on.
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@GardenGerty (92234)
• Marion, Kansas
7 Nov
I do not know what the license renewal process is in Oklahoma or why he still has one. Charlotte is still in surgery is what I understand. She may end up in a nursing home for rehab for a while and he would go be at my brother's house.
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@Courtlynn (54532)
• United States
7 Nov
@GardenGerty doesnt seem like someone his age with eye problems, and the whole lost situation should have one.. wonder if you could look into it as his daughter? Yeah more than likely she will, and may not even go back home after if she does, based on her age? Maybe.
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@GardenGerty (92234)
• Marion, Kansas
7 Nov
@Courtlynn My brother could also look into it, but it is really better if he gives it up voluntarily. Otherwise it turns into a mean situation. It gets complicated to start taking away people's rights.
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@kobesbuddy (23649)
• East Tawas, Michigan
7 Nov
This is sad, they are so determined to take care of one another! I'll pray for both of them:(
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@GardenGerty (92234)
• Marion, Kansas
7 Nov
Oh, thank you Kharla. Yes. They are dedicated to one another. They spat at each other but that is how they are. I bet I do the same when in twenty or so years.
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@kobesbuddy (23649)
• East Tawas, Michigan
7 Nov
@GardenGerty My parents got feisty and mouthy with each other, but their love never wavered, even a little bit.
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@sallypup (23251)
• Moses Lake, Washington
7 Nov
Oh you have a lot on your plate. I am sorry. I hope the situation can be smoothed out some how.
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@GardenGerty (92234)
• Marion, Kansas
7 Nov
This is part of why I would like to be not working. I would help out, and also help my sister some.
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@sallypup (23251)
• Moses Lake, Washington
7 Nov
@GardenGerty That's a very hard thing to do and very admirable. Taking care of your own is one of the hardest jobs on earth.
@AmbiePam (46329)
• United States
7 Nov
Oh my. Does it seem the older people get the less they see reason?
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@GardenGerty (92234)
• Marion, Kansas
7 Nov
He has been in a lot of pain for many years and it has just made him more bullheaded than ever. I am sure some of it is the medicine.Up until a few months ago they were managing really well.
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@fishtiger58 (30617)
• Momence, Illinois
7 Nov
Glad they found him and he is ok. Yup I would take his keys away from him he doesn't need to be driving. I hope your mother in law gets better soon.
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@GardenGerty (92234)
• Marion, Kansas
7 Nov
Time will tell on how Charlotte heals. I am glad my brother lives nearby.
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@fishtiger58 (30617)
• Momence, Illinois
9 Nov
@GardenGerty Yea good that he does.
@allknowing (56719)
• India
7 Nov
Sad that no one can order your father around. He does his own thing creating anxious moments for you. I admire how you go through with this.
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@GardenGerty (92234)
• Marion, Kansas
8 Nov
I am sure I will cause my children anxious moments as well. I hope to stay in as good health and ability as he has. No, ordering someone around does not help, but perhaps persuasion will.
@1creekgirl (9071)
• United States
7 Nov
Oh, my...hard situation all around. Prayers for all of you.
@prashu228 (23334)
• India
7 Nov
Glad both of them are fine. Hope your step mom recovers soon.
• China
7 Nov
Fortunately your dad was found safe and sound.They two are up in years and it is difficult to take care of themselves.
@RasmaSandra (13892)
• Riga, Latvia
7 Nov
All my blessings and prayer for your family. I hope it all goes well for them. Virtual hugs.
@LadyDuck (126261)
• Switzerland
7 Nov
It's very dangerous to drive with double vision, it's a good idea not to give him the keys of the car, he can be a danger for himself and for the others too.
@Ithink (7749)
• United States
7 Nov
Oh my, so sorry, the stress has to be so bad. Happy that your dad is alright and your step-mom finally went to the hospital. I can totally understand on wanting to live by yourself and take care of each other, which is great but man the stress! Will be thinking of you.