Wow, that was short lived!

@LeaPea2417 (14614)
Toccoa, Georgia
November 10, 2017 7:24pm CST
My Mom called me earlier today and told me how she had learned that one of my cousins was getting divorced! It shocks both of us because he and his wife only had been married a little over 2 years and they have a 2 year old daughter. My cousin was one of those who married for the first time at age 40. I really had best wishes for them. I thought for sure that since he had waited to get married at age 40 that he had wanted to make sure he got together with the right woman. I guess all was not going good in what seemed to be paradise. I just feel real bad for their two year old daughter. I know they both love her and are proud of her, but she will have to grow up with spending one weekend with the Dad and the other weekend with the Mom.
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@Blondie2222 (17591)
• United States
11 Nov
aww that is sad but hopefully they will have peace and leave on good terms for their daughters sake. Not many marriages last anymore i have seen it many times.
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@LeaPea2417 (14614)
• Toccoa, Georgia
11 Nov
Yes, I hope they are not bitter towards each other.
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@Blondie2222 (17591)
• United States
11 Nov
@LeaPea2417 best of luck to them and for their daughter
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@marguicha (80276)
• Chile
11 Nov
It is a pity. Specially since they have a child.
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@LeaPea2417 (14614)
• Toccoa, Georgia
11 Nov
I agree, very sad.
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@Happy2BeMe (66596)
• Canada
11 Nov
Sorry that it didnt work out for them.
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@LeaPea2417 (14614)
• Toccoa, Georgia
11 Nov
I am sorry too and really surprised.
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@Kandae11 (25585)
11 Nov
Sad that he waited so long and it didn't work out. Wonder if they might get back together or later down the road he might try another marriage.
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@LeaPea2417 (14614)
• Toccoa, Georgia
11 Nov
I wonder that too.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
11 Nov
That's really sad. =( And really tough for their daughter.
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@LeaPea2417 (14614)
• Toccoa, Georgia
11 Nov
Yes, it is very sad.
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@CoralLevang (39715)
• United States
11 Nov
I'm sorry to hear this. Perhaps there will be an amicable relationship to co-parent the little one.
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@LeaPea2417 (14614)
• Toccoa, Georgia
11 Nov
That is what I am hoping, they can be on friendly terms.
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@CoralLevang (39715)
• United States
12 Nov
@LeaPea2417 When there are disagreements and break-ups, the worst thing that can happen is when one or both refuse to communicate. This is true, no matter what the nature of any relationship.
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@LeaPea2417 (14614)
• Toccoa, Georgia
12 Nov
@CoralLevang I agree.
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@andriaperry (30871)
• Anniston, Alabama
11 Nov
Maybe by hiim waiting he could not deal with living with someone.
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@LeaPea2417 (14614)
• Toccoa, Georgia
11 Nov
That is possible. That crossed my mind.
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@kobesbuddy (16557)
• East Tawas, Michigan
11 Nov
@andriaperry I experienced this, with Jay. He had been alone for so long, sharing wasn't something he understood.
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@Shavkat (44844)
• Philippines
11 Nov
It was a really shocking situation. I always felt bad for the children when their parents decided to separate ways.
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@LeaPea2417 (14614)
• Toccoa, Georgia
11 Nov
I feel bad for the kids too.
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@Shavkat (44844)
• Philippines
12 Nov
@LeaPea2417 I hope the kids would be able to cope up and take it lightly.
• Peoria, Arizona
11 Nov
Way too many people get divorced way too soon, it is awful. I don't think people teach these newlyweds of the 5 year hill. The first 5 years are the hardest, but if you can make it past that then you go through the second trial of getting to 8 years and generally if they get passed 8 years, they might be happy! Of course, I cannot speak for anyone, but this is just general psychology. This is why marriage counseling and prewedding counseling exist. At least the child is only 2 years old and doesn't really know what is going on, makes it easier on her. It is never easy when there is a child involved.
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@LeaPea2417 (14614)
• Toccoa, Georgia
11 Nov
I agree. I don't think they had any pre marriage counseling. They should have.
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• Peoria, Arizona
11 Nov
@LeaPea2417 Most of the time if people get married in a church it is required to do that at least 8 weeks of counseling before the wedding. But I don't know if that is really a thing anymore. Especially if they don't get married in church. It should be though. Many more people would actually be happy in a marriage or know not to get married at all haha
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@marlina (60724)
• Canada
11 Nov
Very sad for the little girl.
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@LeaPea2417 (14614)
• Toccoa, Georgia
11 Nov
Yes, I am sad for her too.
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@peachpurple (9629)
• Malaysia
11 Nov
That is the problem with marrying late. My bro in law married at age 50 to a 44 year old woman, wonder how long they can last...
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@LeaPea2417 (14614)
• Toccoa, Georgia
11 Nov
I hope it lasts for them.
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@AmbiePam (45735)
• United States
11 Nov
I wonder if at that age people don't realize the adjustment they will have to make living with another person.So much time has gone by since they had to make allowances for other occupants.
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@LeaPea2417 (14614)
• Toccoa, Georgia
11 Nov
That did cross my mind.
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@JudyEv (96670)
• Bunbury, Australia
11 Nov
This is always sad. And the poor kids get caught up in the middle although some do seem to be very resilient about the situation.
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@LeaPea2417 (14614)
• Toccoa, Georgia
11 Nov
I hope she comes through it in a strong way.
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@shaggin (25286)
• United States
11 Nov
Seems 2 years is such a short time to get a divorce. Perhaps after being used to being alone for 40 years he found marriage more difficult.
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@LeaPea2417 (14614)
• Toccoa, Georgia
11 Nov
I thought that too.
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@shivamani10 (9941)
• Hyderabad, India
11 Nov
This is really a pity for the child
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@LeaPea2417 (14614)
• Toccoa, Georgia
11 Nov
I agree.
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@cahaya1983 (8133)
• Malaysia
11 Nov
That's sad, especially since they have a child together. I hope things would go well for the daughter after the separation.
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@LeaPea2417 (14614)
• Toccoa, Georgia
11 Nov
I hope so too.
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@paigea (21013)
• Canada
11 Nov
Aww, that is really sad. You would think they would have known what they were doing at 40.
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@LeaPea2417 (14614)
• Toccoa, Georgia
11 Nov
That is true.
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@kobesbuddy (16557)
• East Tawas, Michigan
11 Nov
It's a sad scenario for all three of them, but it will be especially hard on their little girl. What a shame, they couldn't get counseling or maybe talk with a pastor, to get things back on track:(
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@LeaPea2417 (14614)
• Toccoa, Georgia
11 Nov
I agree. They should have gotten counseling.
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@kobesbuddy (16557)
• East Tawas, Michigan
11 Nov
@LeaPea2417 If not for themselves, for that precious little girl!
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@LeaPea2417 (14614)
• Toccoa, Georgia
11 Nov
@kobesbuddy I totally agree!
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@responsiveme (14365)
• India
11 Nov
Sad especially for the little girl involved. Hope they remain friends for the kid's sake
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@LeaPea2417 (14614)
• Toccoa, Georgia
11 Nov
Yes, I hope they can remain friends.
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@LadyDuck (118309)
• Switzerland
11 Nov
It's so sad that this little girl will have to grow up with a split family. It would have been easier if they had no children.
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@LeaPea2417 (14614)
• Toccoa, Georgia
11 Nov
I agree. That is what I think about all couples who divorce with kids.
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