The Bribe

United States
November 11, 2017 6:28pm CST
My almost 15 year old son is an extremely talented musician. Unfortunately he dislikes his band director, and thus has completely quit anything related to instrumental music. He did not want to join Marching Band this past season, but I pushed and encouraged him to give it a try. Eventually he did, but quickly realized he hated it. Unfortunately he had already been in it a few weeks before he told me he didn't want to do it anymore.. and at that point I couldn't let him quit. Had he tried it for just a day or two it would have been a different story.. but after a few weeks he is an integral part of the show. As the season wore on his attitude at band got worse, he missed several practices for no good reason, and was in jeopardy of not being able to attend the trip to NY city. So I bribed him. I told him if he could finish off the season without further issues I would take him and a friend out for a night of fun. Well he held his end of the bargain.. he didn't miss another practice and his attitude improved slightly. He was able to go on the trip to NY.. Tonight I deliver my end of the bargain... and it isn't just to fulfill the bribe. It is also because the kids had a busy schedule this fall. All 4 were in marching band, the twins also did soccer, and two of the boys were also rehearsing for plays.. through all of this they all got High Honor Roll for the first marking period! Tonight I take my 4 kids and 2 of their friends to an indoor trampoline park! We've never been so I hope it's fun!
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@Shellyann36 (8619)
• United States
14 Nov
They will have a blast! I know you are super proud of them all. I am glad he stuck it out. I don't blame you for bribing him.
• United States
15 Nov
Winter season has begun for band now, but I'm not letting him join even if he says he wants to. I don't think my 11 year old will join either. My daughter did because she really likes it.
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• United States
16 Nov
@Shellyann36 My kids don't choose their activities on a whim. He has been in Marching Band 4 years now. He's just not interested anymore but didn't decide till half way through the season that he wasnt interested.
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• United States
17 Nov
@katsmeow1213 When my older kids were growing up they certainly had whims. Both were interested in JROTC but fortunately for me, it was a class and once you joined you had to stick to the class. Back in those years, I could not afford the extra-curricular activities, that was one of our main setbacks then.
@AmbiePam (46151)
• United States
12 Nov
That's great! You did the right thing by having him stick with it. I did something similar, begged to quit, but it was too late to get out of it. My dad bribed me too! He bought me a harmonica (although I certainly can't play it well). An indoor trampoline park sounds great!
• United States
12 Nov
My mother used to always let me quit everything.. mostly because it was a pain in the neck for her to have to take me places. I was never taught to see anything through. I'm trying to make sure I don't make the same mistake with my kids.
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@AmbiePam (46151)
• United States
12 Nov
@katsmeow1213 You're doing great.
• Jacksonville, Florida
12 Nov
I'm glad it worked for you and I hope everyone has a great time!! =)
• United States
12 Nov
It was a lot of fun. The kids are looking forward to going back again.
@JudyEv (100540)
• Bunbury, Australia
12 Nov
I consider this a good news story. Kudos to you all. I have you have a really great time.
• United States
12 Nov
It was fun, the kids had a great time. We stayed until close which is midnight. We're all pretty tired today!
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@allen0187 (27447)
• Philippines
13 Nov
Great to know that in the end it worked out well for everyone!
@Courtlynn (50508)
• United States
12 Nov
Sometimes bribes are needed. And it sure worked for you. That sounds fun!