Can you ever catch up on sleep?

@Fleura (6159)
United Kingdom
November 13, 2017 4:15am CST
I’ve always been one of those unlucky people who needs a decent amount of sleep and since having children I never seem to get it. When Big One was a baby I once worked out that I’d need to sleep 24 hours a day for 4 months to catch up on the amount of sleep I’d missed. I was so desperate I almost thought I’d die of exhaustion. Some days I could barely speak I was so tired, I don’t know how I didn’t crash the car and I’m still amazed I didn’t kill someone. And since then lots of research has come out showing links between insufficient sleep and heart disease, obesity and dementia, among other things, which is worrying. Things are better now, thankfully, but I still find it so easy to miss sleep and so hard to regain any. If I consider 11 pm to 7 am as the standard 8 hours, it’s very easy to work late and find myself going to bed at 1 am, or to wake at 5 or 6 am, or even both, and then I’ve missed out on 3 or 4 hours’ sleep in just one night. To make up for just that one night I’d have to go to bed at 7 pm which is obviously just not possible for anyone living an ordinary family life. Does anyone else have a sensible answer to this? Obviously ‘don’t ever stay up late’ and ‘never accidentally wake up early’ have been considered! All rights reserved. © Text and image copyright Fleur 2017.
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@Morleyhunt (16553)
• Canada
13 Nov
Sleep can not be store....it can not be borrowed, or repaid. The best we can do is try to live a routine life and get enough sleep on a regular basis.
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@Kandae11 (26885)
13 Nov
Sleep lost during the night cannot be recaptured during the day or the next night.
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@Fleura (6159)
• United Kingdom
13 Nov
@Kandae11 @Morleyhunt Looks like I'm doomed then : (
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@Kandae11 (26885)
13 Nov
@Fleura You'll have to come up with a plan. Sufficient rest is necessary in order to maintain good health.
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@WorDazza (8649)
• Manchester, England
13 Nov
Everything I've read on the subject suggests that you need to get into a routine which you stick to every night, including weekends. No laptops/phones for a couple of hours before bedtime and get up at the same time everyday even weekends. Needless to say I take absolutely no notice of this whatsoever as I get up at 5:15am every weekday so there's no way that's happening at weekends. I've been no help at all have I??
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@Fleura (6159)
• United Kingdom
13 Nov
That does seem to be the standard advice but how can anyone do that? It would mean never working late or having any sort of social event that went on past about 10pm (as you have to allow time to go home and get ready for bed afterwards). The getting up at the same time part I find easy because I'm in the habit of waking up at the same time or even before, so I wake up early at weekends too.
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@WorDazza (8649)
• Manchester, England
13 Nov
@Fleura Like so much lifestyle advice it doesn't account for actually having a life.
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@sharon6345 (110277)
• United States
13 Nov
I would make any change needed to sleep before walking around like that. I slept a lot when my daughter slept.. I learned that from my Dr. Now tht my friend is new to being a mom she sleeps when her 6 month old sleeps She is much better for it.
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@Fleura (6159)
• United Kingdom
13 Nov
I would love to have been able to do that but I just couldn't.
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@Hannihar (12594)
16 Nov
Shay, I can understand how a mother needs to sleep as often as she can because once the baby starts to cry it is time to get up.
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• China
13 Nov
A sound sleep can improve immunity.However most of the people my age are light sleepers.I seldom burn the midnight oil and usually go to bed at 10 pm ,but wake up at 4 am or 5 am,so I catch up on some sleep at noon.
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@nangayo (2301)
• Nairobi, Kenya
13 Nov
I do not think there is a day i have slept the 8 hours it is just impossible for me. I would have liked to but sleep just goes in the night around 2am.
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@Fleura (6159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov
That's a miserable time to be awake when you don't want to be. Is that the end of the night for you or do you manage to go back to sleep in the end?
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@nangayo (2301)
• Nairobi, Kenya
14 Nov
@Fleura mostly it is the end of my sleep because by the time i start feeling sleepy it is already five in the morning when i should be preparing for work so i just have to wake up.
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@Fleura (6159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov
@nangayo For some reason if I wake up early I lie awake for ages and then just as it gets to getting-up time I feel sooo sleepy... just like you.
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@ourlot (1013)
13 Nov
Not having a full night of sleep affects your hormones, mental stability and health in general. You can't catch up just sleeping more in the weekend. In the same way, you can't compensate hours of sun by staying some hours in the shadow. The harm is already done.
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@Fleura (6159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov
We are all doomed. I love my girls but are they slowly killing me?
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@ourlot (1013)
14 Nov
@Fleura I'm afraid they are.
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@JudyEv (100621)
• Bunbury, Australia
13 Nov
As others have said you can't store sleep. I'd just do the best I could - try not to go to bed late but also, if it happens, try not to worry about it too much. Can you sometimes catch a nap during the day?
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@Fleura (6159)
• United Kingdom
13 Nov
Unfortunately the time I am most likely to feel sleepy and fancy an afternoon nap is between 2 and 3 pm - exactly the time when I need to fetch Little One from school! And in any case I'm usually rushing to try and get some work completed before they come home.
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@JohnRoberts (41002)
• Los Angeles, California
13 Nov
I can never catch up on sleep. I wake up at the same time every morning regardless of what time I go to bed.
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@Fleura (6159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov
I can never sleep late either - unlike my partner - he can sleep all day if left to his own devices!
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@maezee (27764)
• United States
13 Nov
8 hours is good. I usuaply average out at 6 but I have a hard time sleeping most of the time.
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@cabhay (365)
• India
14 Nov
Deprive of sleep is something which most of us are going through because of childrens, job, college etc. It so hampers our daily routine and makes us soo drowsy and lazy. Even i am also undergoing with the same situation.
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@Fleura (6159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov
It really has a bad effect on your enjoyment of life, doesn't it?
@cabhay (365)
• India
15 Nov
@Fleura yes no doubt it affects the life alot..i hardly enjoy anything fully because i feel so drowsy and unenergetic. Do you also feel the same?
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@Fleura (6159)
• United Kingdom
15 Nov
@cabhay On bad days, yes, but not all the time thankfully.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
13 Nov
I still have babies so I don't get enough sleep most of the time. Maybe one day I will catch up on it-but not anytime soon.
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@Fleura (6159)
• United Kingdom
13 Nov
You have my sympathy. We should all complain we are being denied our basic human rights - sleep-deprivation is often used as torture.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
14 Nov
@Fleura Thank you. Well, I chose to have children and knew what it entailed so...I knew I wouldn't be sleeping much once I did. Lol.
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@Fleura (6159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov
@LovingMyBabies I guess we thought we'd be tired, we didn't realise it would kill us!
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@Ganma7 (2001)
28 Nov
No you can't replace what you need at the time
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@Fleura (6159)
• United Kingdom
28 Nov
I think I am doomed : (
@Ganma7 (2001)
28 Nov
@Fleura naps help if you have time for one
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@ilocosboy (33263)
• Philippines
13 Nov
I think I'm not following the 8 hours of sleep, I sleep at 11 and wake by 6 am. I think I have adopted this sleeping pattern anymore and its just okay with my body.
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@Fleura (6159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov
At least if you manage the 7 hours consistently you are doing pretty well.
@ilocosboy (33263)
• Philippines
14 Nov
I think this is important to me now, to have 7 hours of sleep consistently. If I can't make it 8 hours, so be it.
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@m_audrey6788 (11601)
• Germany
13 Nov
Nothing much to say about sleeping because I also find myself hard to sleep in times especially when I needed to finish something late night
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@Fleura (6159)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov
It makes such a difference to quality of life, I'm sorry you are having trouble as well.
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• Germany
14 Nov
@Fleura Sometimes
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@LeaPea2417 (15271)
• Toccoa, Georgia
30 Nov
I try to. I will go to bed earlier one night to make up for not getting enough the previous night.
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@Fleura (6159)
• United Kingdom
30 Nov
I find it very hard to catch up enough. It's very easy to miss out on 3 or 4 hours of sleep one night, but difficult to go to bed 3 or 4 hours earlier than normal another night!
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18 Nov
I have sleeping disorder and I cannot remember the last time I had slept for eight hours.
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@Fleura (6159)
• United Kingdom
18 Nov
That is a shame - does it bother you in everyday life or have you learned to get around it?
@Hannihar (12594)
16 Nov
I wish I could come up with a smart answer but can't. I need to get sleep so I do not get sick so I try to get at least 9 hours sleep a night or even 8. Sometimes I am just caught up in something and need to finish it so do not get the sleep I need. I have to set a schedule and follow it.
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@coolchai (703)
• Philippines
14 Nov
Same here i have those sleep problems. Sometimes i take meds to just make myself sleep but then i get sleepy at work so i just take them in the weekends. Still having lack of sleep like according to my firbit i just sleep 3 to 4 hours
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@DianneN (59247)
• United States
15 Nov
Bedtime routines are necessary. They say you can never make up lost sleep, plus it ages you more rapidly!