A sister's dilemma

November 13, 2017 6:09am CST
I'm a newbie here and was wandering around discussions when I saw a thread about depression.It reminded me of my sister, since I just had a confrontation with her a couple of hours ago.It then led us to a terrible argument. I know that she is somehow dealing with depression lately, but I didn't realized that earlier. I yelled at her and I think I really really hurt her when I said that the situation in our family got worse because of her attitude and ill manners. I am now bothered as how can I apologize to her. She doesn't want to read my text messages at all. I hope somebody can give me thoughts on this.
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• Germany
13 Nov 17
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• Germany
13 Nov 17
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• Germany
13 Nov 17
13 Nov 17
Thanks! and sorry for bringing up this kind of topic. I didn't know there are limitations on topics here.
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@Happy2BeMe (99426)
• Canada
13 Nov 17
Welcome to mylot. I am so sorry that you hurt your sister. If she does not want to accept your apology right now then give her some time and space. She may come around after she has some time to think things over. Words cut like a knife anf once they are spoken van never be taken back but in time she mart accept your apology. Best of luck to both of you.
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@Happy2BeMe (99426)
• Canada
13 Nov 17
@ladymug it is a lesson learned for you. She will forgive you she just needs time to get past it.
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13 Nov 17
@Happy2BeMe indeed it is. I'm hopeful it won't get that worst between us again.
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13 Nov 17
Thanks.I realized that just after I yelled at her and spoken those harsh words. I just hope now that it won't take her long to accept my apologies. Surely a day without us talking would kill me inside.
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@coolchai (753)
• Philippines
15 Nov 17
I know what you are going through. My sister is bi polar and she is very different. And i say before i thought she was just lazy but then i realize she needs a lot of professional help that we could not afford. Also she needs meds that we could not afford so now we just tolerate her and we just pray.
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@coolchai (753)
• Philippines
16 Nov 17
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15 Nov 17
Thanks. Does bipolar disorder includes extreme tantrums? I'm just wondering,
• Valdosta, Georgia
13 Nov 17
With time, when things cool down a bit then try talking to her again. I never try to talk to someone when we just had a fight for a while because everyone needs time to calm down. Welcome to Mylot by the way, I hope you love it here. =)
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13 Nov 17
Thanks, and I really hope things will get better between us the soonest.
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@Raine38 (12258)
• United States
13 Nov 17
I agree with Jennifer's suggestion - give her time to cool down and be calm. Then try to reach out again to her. If she is still not talking to you then let her be and give her some more space. Do not push it too hard so as not to strain the situation even more. And maybe this is also a good chance for you to think through what you want to say to her. Just give it time. You are after all a family, and family will always be looked after.
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13 Nov 17
@Raine38 yeah I realized that already.I'll just give her time to be alone for now. I should be more considerate since I am the older one. Thanks for this!
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@MALUSE (69428)
• Germany
15 Nov 17
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