A helping hand...or not
@1creekgirl (40396)
United States
November 13, 2017 3:58pm CST
I went with my husband to the doctor today and while I was sitting in the waiting room alone, I tried to put my jacket around my shoulders.
With my sling on, it's rather difficult. I don't like to ask for help if I can do things myself, but after a few tries to just get it around me, I gave up.
I noticed there were two women just across and to the right of me. I glanced at them while I was trying to get the jacket settled and although I know they saw me, neither one offered to help me.
Of course the waiting room was full of people, but they were the only ones not engrossed in their cell phones.
It really hurt my feelings that they just sat there and never offered a hand, even after they saw I finally gave up. I would have helped someone in a heartbeat.
When my husband came back, I told him what happened and that I really wanted to say to them, "Why didn't you offer to help me when you obviously saw that I needed it? You better hope you never need any help yourself."
But my husband said to just let it go.
It still bugs me.
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17 responses
@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
13 Nov 17
I would have helpednyou if i was there. Sad that people are that way. They will only realize it when it happens to them.
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@1creekgirl (40396)
• United States
13 Nov 17
Since they were past middle age, you'd think they would have offered.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
13 Nov 17
That's terrible that they didn't offer to help you. =( I look for people while I am out and about that might need my help, I love helping others though.
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@1creekgirl (40396)
• United States
14 Nov 17
I feel the same. I'm always pleased when I can help someone.
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@Marilynda1225 (79571)
• United States
13 Nov 17
I certainly would have offered to help if I saw someone struggling like you were. I find it rude that those women ignored you and it would just have been common courtesy and good manners to assist
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
13 Nov 17
I to would have helped you. People are becoming hard and not caring.
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@1creekgirl (40396)
• United States
13 Nov 17
I know you're the kind of person who would have helped right away. I just don't get those women today.
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@1creekgirl (40396)
• United States
13 Nov 17
Right, a person can offer in a kind way and most people would appreciate the offer even if they refused it.
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
14 Nov 17
Wow what ignorance..I believe you tho Vicki..people are all about being unhelpful now it seems. Sorry you experienced it. I know it stings. xo
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
14 Nov 17
@1creekgirl Of course in a heartbeat Vicki..God Bless xo
@1creekgirl (40396)
• United States
14 Nov 17
I appreciate the kind words, Tiara. I know you would have helped me.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
14 Nov 17
I would have offered to help as well, maybe they just didn't want to be rejected, that is a big fear for some people.
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@1creekgirl (40396)
• United States
14 Nov 17
True, but I don't think I looked threatening!
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@1creekgirl (40396)
• United States
14 Nov 17
It really is the small acts that count. I was sitting in the waiting room for my pt today and a lady beside me was trying to get her sweater on, so of course I helped her and she appreciated it.
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@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
15 Nov 17
Many people are hesitant to offer help to anyone these days, because people get offended if you offer to help them.
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@1creekgirl (40396)
• United States
15 Nov 17
Maybe some do, but I'd rather take a chance and offer.
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@xFiacre (12612)
• Ireland
13 Nov 17
@1creekgirl People can be very disengaged from those around them. Wouldn't surprise me if they had got out their phones to film your struggles but they dont seem to feel any responsibility towards others.
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@1creekgirl (40396)
• United States
14 Nov 17
Well, thank goodness they didn't film me! I would have told them what I thought, I don't care what my husband said.
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@1creekgirl (40396)
• United States
13 Nov 17
You could be right, but I just hate to ask for help. If it's really important, I will, but this just didn't seem that urgent, especially since they had been watching and just sat there.
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@MALUSE (69416)
• Germany
14 Nov 17
@1creekgirl Especially because they were watching and not helping! Asking them may have made them a bit ashamed which would have done them good.
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@kobesbuddy (74420)
• East Tawas, Michigan
13 Nov 17
I can't believe how thoughtless people can be! When it's obvious that someone is struggling to do something, out of shear concern, a person should offer to help:( That's terrible, they didn't
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@1creekgirl (40396)
• United States
14 Nov 17
@kobesbuddy You and I would have offered.
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@1creekgirl (40396)
• United States
13 Nov 17
That's how I felt. I tried to convince myself they didn't see me, but I know they did. And they were older ladies who you would think would know better!
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@kobesbuddy (74420)
• East Tawas, Michigan
13 Nov 17
@1creekgirl Not to mention, if you were sitting there and observed a woman struggling to get her coat on. What would YOU have done? You would have stood up and helped her, or maybe asked if you could help.
You would have cared!
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@peachpurple (13880)
• Malaysia
14 Nov 17
humans are just plain selfish, just let it go
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