Good News! I Think?

@Morleyhunt (16752)
Canada
November 14, 2017 6:20am CST
Any Mylotters following my discussions knows some of the background to the ups and downs of helping with the care of my elderly (91 years old) father. After a long three months in the hospital, he was discharged two weeks ago. The program is called "Home First" with the goal being to get him a placement in long term care. The arrangements were less than ideal and we were informed that placement could take anywhere from a week to a year. His name was on the crisis list, so he was going to be given priority. This could be good, or bad. He might not get his first second or even first choice of placement, Yesterday the agency called! They had a bed available! A private room in the home that was his first choice. Thursday he is moving...he is ecstatic (for the moment)! I leave for eleven days of vacation. By the time I arrive home, I expect that the honeymoon will be over and he will realize that he hasn't arrived in the promised land. Hopefully we all get a week or two of respite from his nonstop complaining (aka, whining). It is a relief to know that he will be getting the care he needs....even if it's not the attention he wants.
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@paigea (21232)
• Canada
14 Nov
Glad he got the place he wants. My aunt is 93 and quite similar situation. And complaints. Once discharged from hospital then rehab, she had to take first bed available. But the bed in her first choice place opened up after a couple of months. Will the complaints lessen now that she has moved? I have my doubts.
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@Morleyhunt (16752)
• Canada
15 Nov
Once he realizes how little company he will receive (after the initial rush) he will be upset and angry.
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@paigea (21232)
• Canada
16 Nov
@Morleyhunt I get it. So, 30 (20) years from now, will I be any different?
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@Morleyhunt (16752)
• Canada
16 Nov
@paigea having watched the drama with my parents I hope I won't do this to my children....my parents did not really witness the decline of their parents as they were overseas.
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• Ponce De Leon, Florida
14 Nov
Hopefully you will be able to enjoy your vacation and he will like his first choice.
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@Morleyhunt (16752)
• Canada
14 Nov
I will enjoy my vacation...hopefully he has at least two good weeks before he decides that the world is not a nice place again.
• Ponce De Leon, Florida
15 Nov
@Morleyhunt maybe he'll come to like it.
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@Morleyhunt (16752)
• Canada
15 Nov
@thislittlepennyearns we can hope....but first he needs to change his expectations....he thinks he's going to the promised land. He forgets that there are philistines living there.
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@Juliaacv (23291)
• Canada
14 Nov
He's lucky that there's a bed in his first choice. Hopefully he will meet up with another resident who will occupy his time and maybe help him with the transition. Fingers crossed.
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@Morleyhunt (16752)
• Canada
14 Nov
Fingers crossed. I'll be content if he is happy for two weeks.
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@marlina (62408)
• Canada
14 Nov
I hope that the new situation will be best for everyone.
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@Morleyhunt (16752)
• Canada
14 Nov
My sisters and I are all wondering how long the honeymoon will last. I hope it lasts at least long enough for me to enjoy my vacation.
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@Happy2BeMe (69874)
• Canada
14 Nov
Glad he got into the home for his choice so quickly. I hope it will all work out for him.
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@Morleyhunt (16752)
• Canada
14 Nov
It will work out. Whether or not he's happy at this point isn't even a great concern. That sounds calloused, but in reality, he's not going to be happy with any home he is in. He wants someone waiting on him hand and foot.
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@LadyDuck (122389)
• Switzerland
14 Nov
I am sure the honeymoon will not last forever, I hope he will not complain too much. Good luck and have a nice vacation.
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@Morleyhunt (16752)
• Canada
14 Nov
I'm hoping that he'll have at least two weeks, but in reality I doubt it will take that long before the honeymoon ends.
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@LadyDuck (122389)
• Switzerland
15 Nov
@Morleyhunt I fear you are right, I have a good experience with my mom who is 96.
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@ramapo17 (19110)
• Melbourne, Florida
20 Nov
@LadyDuck Sounds like you were one of the lucky ones.
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@UncleJoe (8608)
• Virginia Beach, Virginia
15 Nov
Will he be sstaying in that place when ya'll move to NB?
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@Morleyhunt (16752)
• Canada
15 Nov
Yes he will. At the risk of sounding unfeeling....I'm ready for a break.
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@UncleJoe (8608)
• Virginia Beach, Virginia
15 Nov
@Morleyhunt I completely understand.
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@ramapo17 (19110)
• Melbourne, Florida
20 Nov
@Morleyhunt There are support groups online that I use to vent with. It is always good to have someone to chat with.
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@Corbin5 (81982)
• United States
14 Nov
I do hope you get a break for a week or two from the nonstop complaining. My dad complained for 2 year when he first moved into a senior residence. My sister and I would cringe every time the phone rang.
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@Morleyhunt (16752)
• Canada
14 Nov
I know that feeling. Right now when I see his. Umber on my call display I mentally debate whether or. It to answer (I answer) .
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@Corbin5 (81982)
• United States
15 Nov
@Morleyhunt I answered too. So did my Sis. It always was a call complaining about this or that.
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@Morleyhunt (16752)
• Canada
15 Nov
@Corbin5 I find that it is so emotionally wearing. Yesterday mid afternoon my sister texted with the message....can I call and grumble? I replied....sure. I knew how she felt. Having the ability to let off some steam helps.
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@JudyEv (101135)
• Bunbury, Australia
14 Nov
That is very good news. And at least he is getting the place he wants - or thinks he wants! Enjoy your vacation and I hope the honeymoon is still continuing when you return. Keeping my fingers crossed!
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@Morleyhunt (16752)
• Canada
15 Nov
Thank you. I'm sure you'll hear about the success of the move. I'm hoping the honeymoon lasts at least two weeks, but I'm not old ing my breath.
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@JudyEv (101135)
• Bunbury, Australia
15 Nov
@Morleyhunt Oh dear, two weeks doesn't sound too long but I guess it's pretty realistic.
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@jstory07 (57943)
• Roseburg, Oregon
15 Nov
Good luck to your Dad. You can only hope that he will be happy.
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@Morleyhunt (16752)
• Canada
15 Nov
Ultimately he won't be happy....but hopefully he's not too unhappy once he's there. He's moved himself to the home farthest from the family members most likely to visit. This will certainly cut down on the frequency of visits.
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• United States
14 Nov
It's good news to hear that your dad got his first choice for placement and a private room sounds wonderful. Hope you get to enjoy your much needed vacation without stress and knowing dad is being taken care of.
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@Morleyhunt (16752)
• Canada
14 Nov
Yuit will be a crazy week, but yes, knowing he will be well looked after is a bit of a relief.
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@BelleStarr (32085)
• Portland, Connecticut
14 Nov
That is terrific at least he got a private room and his first choice. Hopefully, he will adapt well.
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@Morleyhunt (16752)
• Canada
14 Nov
I doubt he will adapt well. I'm hoping for two good weeks...anything else will be a bonus.
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@jaboUK (50721)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov
I hope that he will be happy in the new place - it must be hard to be shunted around at his age. Hard for you too. I hope you have a lovely vacation.
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@Morleyhunt (16752)
• Canada
14 Nov
A lot of the changes of the last three years have been as a direct result of decisions he didn't make five years ago. How many ways can you suggest someone prepares.
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@ramapo17 (19110)
• Melbourne, Florida
14 Nov
I know what you are going through as I had the same thing with both parents. I lived the latter part of my life saying a favorite saying. This To Shall Pass. And it helped me a lot. Now they are both gone and I still use that saying when I have other situational.
@Morleyhunt (16752)
• Canada
14 Nov
That phrase has gotten me through many a tough situation. I repeat it many times a day.
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