How to deal with a stroke?

@nela13 (55702)
Portugal
November 19, 2017 5:10am CST
My husband' mother had a stroke this week. She is fighting for her life now, but we know that if she survive, she won't talk and walk anymore. It has been quite difficult as my husband is her only son, he is suffering with this situation and we don't know How to tell our kids that their grandmother is so sick. I feel lost because I don't know how to comfort my husband, Right now I just stay near him all the time but I feel him quite lonely. I pray to God to help us facing this situation.
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@topffer (42156)
• France
19 Nov 17
How old is she ? I got a stroke last March, and I had the two legs paralyzed during 2 months. With some physical therapy I started to walk again, and after less than 4 months after the stroke I was walking like before. The physiotherapist and the nurses had told me that I would need at least 6 months, it took less than that... There is no secret : at the beginning each footstep costs a lot of will and hurts, but it brings closer of a complete recovery. Many old people are tempted to not do the effort needed to recover their legs. My case was lighter than the one of your husband's mother (I had only the legs paralyzed), but you should wait a few weeks before telling that she will never walk and talk again. There is always some hope, my stroke is definitely a bad memory today, I wish her the same.
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@allknowing (130067)
• India
19 Nov 17
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@marlina (154166)
• Canada
19 Nov 17
Yes, there is always hope. Maybe things will not be as bad as told to you.
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@Fleura (29097)
• United Kingdom
19 Nov 17
So glad you managed to make such a good recovery, I hope the lady in question does as well.
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• United States
19 Nov 17
I am so sorry to hear this..and he is not alone as he has you, your husband.. How old is his Mother?
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• United States
19 Nov 17
@nela13 How old is his Mother ?
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@nela13 (55702)
• Portugal
19 Nov 17
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@nela13 (55702)
• Portugal
19 Nov 17
Thank you so much.
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@silvermist (19702)
• India
19 Nov 17
Never lose hope.Who knows.she may be able to talk and walk.How old is she?
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@silvermist (19702)
• India
19 Nov 17
@nela13 Well,let us keep hoping.
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@nela13 (55702)
• Portugal
19 Nov 17
We try but It is getting harder.
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@1creekgirl (40425)
• United States
19 Nov 17
I'm really sorry to hear his. I will pray for all of you.
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@nela13 (55702)
• Portugal
19 Nov 17
Thank you dear.
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@Fleura (29097)
• United Kingdom
19 Nov 17
That is very tough, for her and for you and your husband. I hope the outcome will not be as bad as you fear. All you can really do is support your husband, give him a hug and let him talk if he needs to, and reassure him you will be there to help in the future whatever happens.
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@nela13 (55702)
• Portugal
19 Nov 17
Thank you for your advice and your words.
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@pitsipeahie (4270)
19 Nov 17
I'm sorry to hear that. Our prayers for her and your family. I'm sure its tough for your husband being the only son but you just being there for him always is all he'll ever need.
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@nela13 (55702)
• Portugal
19 Nov 17
It is really tough and being with him is all I can do. Thank you.
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@yanzalong (18984)
• Indonesia
19 Nov 17
Hope she will recover soon.
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@nela13 (55702)
• Portugal
19 Nov 17
We hope that too.
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@LadyDuck (457412)
• Switzerland
20 Nov 17
As you know, my mother had a stroke last Saturday. I do not wish to see her alive immobilized in a bedroom. I know that it's hard, all you can do is to support your husband being closed to him.
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@LadyDuck (457412)
• Switzerland
20 Nov 17
@nela13 I know it's hard. I have seen my Mom today in the hospital, she does not speak and does not seem to listen. It's so sad.
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@nela13 (55702)
• Portugal
20 Nov 17
Ti is quite difficult sleeping our relatives imobilized and without even speak with us.
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@nela13 (55702)
• Portugal
21 Nov 17
@LadyDuck It is hard, I went to the hospital every Day but she unfortunaly she is not recovering I wish all the better for your mother.
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@DianneN (246334)
• United States
25 Mar 18
How is your mother in law doing now?
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@DianneN (246334)
• United States
26 Mar 18
@nela13 I'm so so sorry.
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@nela13 (55702)
• Portugal
27 Mar 18
@DianneN Thank you dear
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@nela13 (55702)
• Portugal
25 Mar 18
Not good, she is still in a vegetative state, I think she doesn't even recognize us.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
20 Nov 17
i hope you have the strength to care for your husband. i had mild stroke twice, the latest was last year. i am able to recover, with my will power and determination.
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@nela13 (55702)
• Portugal
20 Nov 17
Good to know that you recovered, take care of you and Thank you for your words.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
19 Nov 17
So very sorry. I pray she recovers.
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@nela13 (55702)
• Portugal
19 Nov 17
It won't be easy but we have some hope.
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@nitirrbb7 (4317)
• India
25 Nov 17
I have been through the situation your husband is in right now, its tough and somewhat within your husband must also be ready for truth the only thing is its really hard to overcome the fact. It will be hard to explain the kids the situation. Just like you my wife stood by me, you hold on to him rest its Gods will and strength that will help you guys.
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@dgobucks226 (34317)
19 Nov 17
I am so sorry for your situation. Have trust in the Lord during this difficult time because he is always their to provide comfort and support.
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@nela13 (55702)
• Portugal
20 Nov 17
I trust Him and I hope God decides What is better for us all.
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@rubyriaz007 (4188)
• India
25 Nov 17
My dad got stroke twice. He has bit difficulty in walking. He loses his balance sometimes. I also pray to God to cure my dad.
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@nela13 (55702)
• Portugal
25 Nov 17
God protect your father.
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• India
25 Nov 17
@nela13 Thank you.
@kaka135 (14916)
• Malaysia
20 Nov 17
I am sorry to hear that. Was it very serious? I am not familiar with this, but my aunt and uncle just had a stroke last year. They slowly recovered and now they were able to work and take care of themselves again. I also have a homeschooling mentor who just got a stroke a few years ago, and she recovered too. She also shared that knitting helped her to progress really fast, even the doctor was surprised with this as her condition was really bad. She is now walking well and also recording many webinars, and she seems to talk very well too. Perhaps you can consult the doctor or find out more positive cases for stroke, this might help lifting you and your husband. Sending you hugs and prayers.
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• United States
24 Nov 17
I'm so sorry you and your husband are going through a rough time. I pray that God will help you also.
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