What Has Happened to That Kid?
By Darcy Nemo
November 20, 2017 7:15pm CST
Three or four decades ago, I happened to see an article about how parents cope with a surprise baby. There was this case that shocked me a bit. This family, mother and father in their early 40s, two teenage children. A perfect family with perfect plans for the teens' future and the parents' coming holiday, retirement etc. When the couple found out that the wife got pregnant again, unplanned, they discussed with each other and decided to give the child (a boy) away for adoption. The mother said something similar to this, 'We have discussed and agreed with each other that we don't want to disrupt our life and our future. We don't want an abortion either. Somewhere out there, plenty of couples are struggling to have a child, and this child will make someone happy! Our children were explained and are quite happy with our decision.' --- That boy must have been in his/her 30s now. I wonder how life has been treating him. Personally, would you, could you give your baby away calmly like that? If you were that boy/man, what would you think of your biological parents?
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@JudyEv A registered nurse told me of her case, a surprise baby. The family was shocked at first, but later was so happy to welcome her. Her older siblings, a brother and a sister, loved her very much. Her oldest brother, a brilliant man, suddenly got brain tumor and passed away when he just turned 40 or something similar (childless). Her parents cried lots, but said, 'now I know why God sent us the 3rd child. At least when we go, your older sister won't be left alone.'
I could never take a decision like this. If you have no means to support your child, I could understand. But to dispose of a child like he was an "unwanted gift" is horrible and I do not think it's better than an abortion. May be the kid ended in a horrible family where he was abused, I could not stand this idea.
I admire parents like you and your wife. I don't know why that mother could give her surprise baby away like giving away an unwanted kitten or puppy like that. I have a suspicion that she convinced the whole family and perhaps because she controlled them all, they had no choice but agreed with her.