Death Came Knocking

@andriaperry (53139)
United States
November 22, 2017 10:04am CST
There is a huge difference between last year on this day, and today. Last year I was alone sitting in a place I did not know, did not know anyone and in a borrowed car I was not comfortable driving. Things happened so fast, Tony had a biopsy of his lung in late October, In a matter of a week I was rushing him to the E.R. because he could not breath, he passed out once on the way and was turning blue when I got there. He stayed a week got somewhat better and came home, a couple days later I had him back at an e.r. but not to the same hospital because the oncology team there are no good. Once again he was getting no air, within 24 hours he was on life support and was not expected to live, I stayed at the hospital and this is why Tony gave me his power of attorney. I was only to call his one sister and no one else if he got bad, this was bad so at 3 am I was calling to let her know. She drove in from Florida and we did shifts so I could drive almost an hour home to feed the dogs and the cat. On Thanksgiving day me and his sister had food the hospital made, it was food and that was it nothing special. But late that evening one of their cousins showed up with two plates of home cooked food. Every morning I was waiting for the doctor in Tony`s IUC room to see if there was any change, Dr. Yum yum told me I should go home, that wearing myself down was not helping him at all. What I did not know till 3 - 4 months later was that Tony was not expected to live, I was told people in his condition did not make it out of ICU. Death came knocking but I would not answer the door. Tony is 6 months cancer free (remission) and is back to his life of fishing and hunting. My message? Don`t answer the door if you dont want to. Have a wonderful day! I know I will.
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17 responses
@BelleStarr (38988)
• United States
22 Nov
I think that having someone who cares and fights for you gives people the strength to ignore the knock and decide to fight. You gave him that strength and it was what he needed. Well done you, I would be happy to have you on my side.
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@andriaperry (53139)
• United States
22 Nov
Thank you, I am a caregiver and whoever is in my care knows I am there to take care of them, but its was not me or the doctors, it was God, maybe we were the help in earth for him.
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@BelleStarr (38988)
• United States
22 Nov
@andriaperry I am sure it was, God is always the way but he often has his instruments on earth at work for him.
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@andriaperry (53139)
• United States
22 Nov
@BelleStarr I agree
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@rebelann (41920)
• El Paso, Texas
22 Nov
That would make a really good Thanksgiving movie for the Hallmark channel, they love stuff like this. So, who would you want to play you? Oh, Happy Thanksgiving.
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@andriaperry (53139)
• United States
22 Nov
Hmm... I would have to think, she would have to be a sexy blonde
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@rebelann (41920)
• El Paso, Texas
22 Nov
But sexy to whom? Tony or JJ or someone else @andriaperry ? You know no 2 men find the same blonde sexy, right? Pleeeze, not P.A., K???
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@andriaperry (53139)
• United States
22 Nov
@rebelann Neither of those men I do not know who PA or K is.
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@sallypup (27503)
• Moses Lake, Washington
22 Nov
You are one strong lady. I'm glad that your beloved is back to hunting and fishing. Have a good holiday tomorrow.
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@andriaperry (53139)
• United States
22 Nov
Thank you. Tony is my cousin. I hope you have a happyThanksgiving day.
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@sallypup (27503)
• Moses Lake, Washington
22 Nov
@andriaperry Well then, may be he is your well loved cousin! Happy Thanksgiving day to you, too.
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@just4him (120147)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
22 Nov
I'm so glad Tony is in remission. Have a wonderful day and Happy Thanksgiving.
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@andriaperry (53139)
• United States
22 Nov
Happy Thanksgiving to you too Valerie.
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@just4him (120147)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
22 Nov
@andriaperry Thank you.
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• Ponce De Leon, Florida
22 Nov
I'm so glad he is doing so much better
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@andriaperry (53139)
• United States
22 Nov
Me too, I hate hospitals and doctor offices.
• Ponce De Leon, Florida
22 Nov
@andriaperry me too. What I had menigitis it was hell two weeks in the hospital was long enough.
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@Hatley (164640)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Nov
thats areally grea essage to us all
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@andriaperry (53139)
• United States
23 Nov
Thank yyou. I think it is .
@snowy22315 (49039)
• United States
23 Nov
This Thanksgiving..I guess you really have something to be thankful for! You dodged a bullet for sure!
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@andriaperry (53139)
• United States
23 Nov
He did! I was just the look out.
• United States
23 Nov
I thought this story would have a really sad ending, and I'm so happy he's cancer free. That made me so happy to hear it. I hope you have a much nicer Thanksgiving this year. God bless you.
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@andriaperry (53139)
• United States
23 Nov
Aww, thank you so much! I am sure we will.
@JudyEv (125909)
• Bunbury, Australia
22 Nov
Such a long way to come in 12 months. Have a great Thanksgiving.
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@andriaperry (53139)
• United States
23 Nov
Ye I agree. Thank you.
• United States
22 Nov
No one knocks on my door ever thankfully
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@andriaperry (53139)
• United States
22 Nov
Mine either and I am glad too.
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@RasmaSandra (18442)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
22 Nov
Well then this Thanksgiving you have a lot to be thankful for. No holiday for me but I wish you a Happy Thanksgiving.
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@andriaperry (53139)
• United States
22 Nov
Thank you and yes.
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@FayeHazel (18475)
• United States
22 Nov
Wow. Thank you for sharing. I'm happy that Tony is in remission
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@andriaperry (53139)
• United States
22 Nov
Me too, I have put up with a lot of crap to get him to this point.
@Corbin5 (109440)
• United States
22 Nov
I am s glad that door was not answered!!!! Tony in remission is such a wonderful thing for which to be thankful. So glad Tony has you!!!
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@andriaperry (53139)
• United States
22 Nov
I have been told I have a balance of nice and botch and I can use both at the same time.
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@Madshadi (8934)
• Brussels, Belgium
22 Nov
what a happy ending. Although they spent their entire lives studiying and researching, doctors have a lot to learn from their patients.
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@andriaperry (53139)
• United States
22 Nov
This is an amazing Doctor.
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@shaggin (37115)
• United States
22 Nov
I was so worried there was going to be a sad ending so I was very happy reading that he is doing so much better.
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@andriaperry (53139)
• United States
22 Nov
Thank you, nope its all good.
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@cherriefic (4708)
• Baguio, Philippines
23 Nov
Good thing you did not answer the door. Have a great day!
@Srbageldog (8650)
• United States
23 Nov
Wow, he certainly beat the odds! I guess when it's not your time, it's not your time.