Sometimes its hard to be friends
@sallypup (57809)
Centralia, Washington
November 22, 2017 5:40pm CST
Way back when, back when daughter was a cutie patootie toddler, we lived in a small town. We thought we had come to be friends with a small church and its minister and wife.
I figure that friends ask before they shove things on you- if you know your friend's child could use a coat and you have an extra one, you ask if they would mind you taking their coat. You don't just show up and insist your friend take the garment.
One day toward Thanksgiving in that long ago time suddenly the minister and his wife show up to our house with a box loaded with food stuffs. Instant food stuff and such that we generally don't eat. They were being nice.
And yet it wasn't nice. We thought we were friends. Apparently the minister mainly saw a blind guy and the guy's wife and daughter. Somebody who HAD to be in need.
We nicely told the minister and wife to please, oh please, find some other hungry family cause we had bought our Thanksgiving dinner and were quite delighted with it. They finally left with the food.
We were left with an icky feeling. Here we thought we were doing well enough at providing for our family and others it seemed pitied us. Not real friends at all. Pride. And hard work kept us going. If we had needed a hand out, we would have looked around and found one.
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@celticeagle (158876)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Nov 17
How sad. People try to do good but they need to think too.
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@marguicha (215325)
• Chile
23 Nov 17
I hate it when people do not see you as a whole person. A few years ago I had to explain to several people that I was NOT a cancer but a person who, among other things, had cancer.
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@sallypup (57809)
• Centralia, Washington
23 Nov 17
@marguicha Exactly. You are a complicated human cause that's what humans are: complicated, not one set thing.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
22 Nov 17
I am like you, if I have mne please give to someone who has not got theirs or cant.
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@kobesbuddy (74483)
• East Tawas, Michigan
23 Nov 17
Instead of following the leading of the Lord, these people were going by their own thoughts. This is terrible, for church leaders, who supposedly communicate with God! Instead of praying and then waiting for his true leading. I would have been insulted!
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@sallypup (57809)
• Centralia, Washington
23 Nov 17
@kobesbuddy It was like our way of doing things was not good enough. You're on the same track of thinking as we were/are.
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@kobesbuddy (74483)
• East Tawas, Michigan
23 Nov 17
@sallypup If your family needed food, didn't they think you would have mentioned it? They took it for granted, they already knew about your live:(
