My grandfather was buried today
@shaggin (71659)
United States
November 25, 2017 12:31pm CST
At 11 am I went to my grandfathers funeral service. He was creamated but the ground was dug up behind his parents grave and the box holding his ashes will be set in the ground there and a plaque will be put on the back of his parents grave.
It was a nice little service and since he was in the military a few veterans were there holding flags and two shot out three rounds of shells. My father was given one of the shells and I assume his brothers as well.
We are not close to my fathers side of the family and I barely knew my grandfather what hurt me was during the only speech that was spoken what my cousin said... or didn’t say rather.
She said she saw my grandfathers love of history and learning in her father, his hard workingness in my uncle, and his go get em attitude in my aunt.
Absolutely NO mention of my father, her uncle! I felt the hurt and the slap in the face that had to of been for my father to hear. It is a two way street and I don’t really know what went on in the family but if my father was not close to his dad his dad was not close to him either! I never even received a birthday card from my grandfather in my life!
So now I have a heavy heart wishing I could take away this sadness of my fathers. He is a good man and was a darned hard worker until a few strokes left him unable to work. He’s just the black sheep of his family as I am in mine.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
25 Nov 17
Aw, I am sorry for your loss and for your father too. I am sure things will work out. Head high, you are better than to let a few words put you down, from someone who does not matter anyways.
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@shaggin (71659)
• United States
27 Nov 17
I know I need to keep reminding myself that we are kinder then that and obviously raised better to know it is rude her leaving him out of the speech. He visited his father and bathed him and bandaged him up recently when he fell. They weren't very close but they didn't hate each other. It's a two way street so it's not just my father's fault they weren't close.
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@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
25 Nov 17
Again, I am so sorry for your loss. And I'm sorry your father was left out of the speech. That's a real shame.
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@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
27 Nov 17
@shaggin oh my god. They turn color from drinking!?
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@shaggin (71659)
• United States
27 Nov 17
@Courtlynn I’ll have to look it up and show you a link. My guess is his liver is failing from it.
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@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
27 Nov 17
@shaggin oh please no! Lol. Can only imagine how gross that looks.
You would think it would be failing
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@Tina30219 (81539)
• Onaway, Michigan
25 Nov 17
I am so sorry for your family’s loss. I am so sorry your dad was not mentioned in the speech as well.
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@shaggin (71659)
• United States
27 Nov 17
I was so sad about it I texted my dad when I got him and him how offended I was for him and how sorry I was. I asked my bf if he could come over as I needed a hug. He cooked me dinner and spent the night with me. It was a big help!
@Tina30219 (81539)
• Onaway, Michigan
27 Nov 17
@shaggin Glad to hear it was a help to have your boyfriend there. New guy or same guy from before. I know that would offend me as well I am so sorry they did this to your dad
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@shaggin (71659)
• United States
27 Nov 17
@Tina30219 Same guy as before. He asked me Friday if I wanted to be his girlfriend again then took me out to dinner.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
30 Nov 17
@shaggin yes who would want to be like such cold mean people as they are. I would just give them this kind of smile next time I saw any of them
and turn and walk away.
and turn and walk away.1 person likes this
@shaggin (71659)
• United States
27 Nov 17
My father and grandfather didn’t dislike each other but they just weren’t close. My father drove from the top of Pennsylvania down to Florida and stayed with his father for a week a few years ago. His father just didn’t seem like an affectionate person.
@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
25 Nov 17
So sorry she choose to hurt your father on a day that was already difficult for him.
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@shaggin (71659)
• United States
27 Nov 17
Yes I looked at my poor father who just had a sweet smile on his face while he was trying not to cry. It hurt me to know how that had to have made him felt. My father never smoked and quit drinking at a very young age yet has had strokes that left him unable to work. Her father was the family favorite and drinks like a horse and is in perfect health. Never seems right those who take care of their bodies suffer and those who abuse their bodies don’t.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
30 Nov 17
@shaggin that is so true. it burns me to see how many cousins I have that are older and yet still smoke and party . while I usually stayed at home with my kids never drank but rarely and I gave up smoking yet they are older and still get around wonderfully.
hope you hugged your father a lot and told him it was their loss not to get to know him better
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@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
27 Nov 17
@shaggin that is so unfair but yes it seems to happen that way. Your poor dad he had been through a lot.
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@allen0187 (58438)
• Philippines
26 Nov 17
So sorry for your loss and so sorry that you had to see your father go through this. Wish it would have been different. Hurtful words were uttered but you are above that.
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@allen0187 (58438)
• Philippines
27 Nov 17
@shaggin true.
It isn't something that one should go through.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
30 Nov 17
that is so sad. family should care about each other and if forgiveness needs done they should have done so. that was pretty nasty of your cousin not to mention all the siblings. the one good thing is you have each other and obviously they will never know the joy of knowing 2 good people in their family. too bad for them. 
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@shaggin (71659)
• United States
30 Nov 17
I was in the same grade in school as this girl. She was always the sweet one of the three sisters but looks like that’s changed and she’s as stuck up as they are. I was not friends with her in school as she was in the popular crowd and I was not even close to that. As kids we got along at parties and had fun but their mother would never let us be around each other outside of parties.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
1 Dec 17
@shaggin sounds like the mother is what screwed them up to be such B's . if you know what I mean. be glad and proud your parents raised you better and tell your dad you proud of that. like I said if you see them any more give them an evil smirk , then walk away with your head held high
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
26 Nov 17
I am so sorry. I can relate though, this constantly happens to my Mom. Her brothers have always been close and she the outsider. I don't know how many times they have left her out of a speech about their family. I always end up saying sorry to her and don't look forward to family get togethers. At least you know your Dad is a good man, and it is their loss they don't realise it.
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@shaggin (71659)
• United States
28 Nov 17
She seems to have been raised with terrible manners to act the way she did. You would think a psychologist would know how her words could hurt my father! She was always the sweet one out of my three cousins but looks like that has changed.
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
26 Nov 17
I'm so sorry for both the division and the loss
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@rubyriaz007 (4188)
• India
15 Dec 17
I am sorry to hear about your grandfather. May his soul rest in peace.
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@RasmaSandra (73241)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
25 Nov 17
Sorry for your loss. May God bless and keep your grandfather safe.
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@Marilynda1225 (79591)
• United States
25 Nov 17
So sorry for the loss of your grandfather even if he wasn't much a part of your life.
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@shaggin (71659)
• United States
27 Nov 17
Thank you. I shed no tears for him I shed a few tears for my father who has to feel the loss of someone he did know.
@thislittlepennyearns (58113)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
25 Nov 17
Sorry for your lost.
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