Giving Permission To A Child Going Overnight

@ilocosboy (33267)
Philippines
November 29, 2017 7:14am CST
As much as possible I don't want to give permission to my eldest child sleeping overnight in his classmate's house. He said they will work on their case studies and they need to work overnight. I don't want to give my permission. He was crying to explain to me the importance of their work. I said I don't believe that alibi and Aj was persistent to go. I let him. Anyway he is 18 years old now and I hope he is responsible enough to think of his safety.
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@sharon6345 (110381)
• United States
29 Nov
Here 18 does not need permission to go out. But I do know when those days were my situation I would let kay have a sleep over at my house. I was happy to always know they were safe. Parents took a lot of advantage of that but I don't mind now.
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@ilocosboy (33267)
• Philippines
29 Nov
As much as they are under my roof I will give the say. But when they have their own family, its their words then.
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@thelme55 (11806)
• Germany
29 Nov
@ilocosboy that is a Filipino upbringing and I can understand you. I am also like you when I am in Pinas. Those nieces who live under my roof have to ask me permission to go out with their friends. They are my responsibility as they are living with me. You know their are lots of bad things going on in our country.
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@ilocosboy (33267)
• Philippines
29 Nov
These is the reason of my second thought, but because he was persistent so I let him.
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@jobelbojel (5052)
• Philippines
29 Nov
He is 18 and I know he can handle himself. It is our culture that parents won't allow their kids to go out or to be away.
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@ilocosboy (33267)
• Philippines
29 Nov
Thank you for understanding, yeah he is 18 but he is still under my protection.
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• Philippines
29 Nov
@ilocosboy that is how parents protect their kids.
• Rochester, New York
29 Nov
Hopefully he is responsible enough for you to gain his trust.
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@ilocosboy (33267)
• Philippines
29 Nov
That is what I told him
• Peoria, Arizona
29 Nov
If he was a child I would understand but 18, that is old enough that if he makes a mistake, that is on him, not on you. Like how my mamma raised me, I can do anything I want, I just have to suffer the consequences and she would not bail me out because it would be my own fault. Never done anything too crazy to get me into any kind of trouble with that kind of raising.
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@ilocosboy (33267)
• Philippines
29 Nov
Yeah I think this is a good reason. Maybe I did a good decision of letting him go.
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@m_audrey6788 (11601)
• Germany
29 Nov
I think your son will be fine and that`s a good one
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@ilocosboy (33267)
• Philippines
29 Nov
Thank you very much for comforting me
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@kepweng (6341)
8 Dec
18 is Already Adult! i guess he can do what ever he wants like having a wife and kids too
@ilocosboy (33267)
• Philippines
8 Dec
As much as possible I should not allow him still
@Shiva49 (9587)
• Singapore
30 Nov
I gave permission to my son when he was younger but told him to be responsible and warned him of bad influences. Nowadays due to peer pressure it is tough to rein in on children like in olden days - siva
@ilocosboy (33267)
• Philippines
30 Nov
Yeah, I think its harder to handle the younger generation.
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@nangayo (2301)
• Nairobi, Kenya
30 Nov
I also don't encourage my children sleeping overnight at friends i think its just out instincts as parents.