To A Pig Farm!?

I have followed my husband all the time, even if I was not very happy about some decisions. Of course when I fully disagreed we discussed and we have always found a middle solution so to be both happy. Pigs really smell bad, this would be a NO.

I bred rabbits in the countryside during 3 years when I was a student, I guess it is why I got all my diplomas, I was the only "farmer" inscribed and they probably needed one for their stats. Then I have had an interesting professional mutation : I was the only rabbit breeder in this country wanting to become a lawyer (it would be too long to explain). If you ask me, breeding pigs is a big "No, no", they will have to work 12 hours a day for a low income. The only advantage is that all diseases are known and under control for pigs. There are a few animals more interesting to breed and needing less work time : wild boars and deers in a fenced open area. All you have to do is to be sure that they have always water available, and to feed them is there is not enough food in the place. Snails : a good niche here, I do not know in your country, but the weather seems to be ideal for them. It needs more investment (closed building, humidifiers and control of the hygrometry...), but quite everything can be automatized, including the distribution of food. Quails, partridges : as many time needed than for pigs, but a lot more interesting for the income. I would ask to think twice before buying a pig farm...

We don't have divorce here and you are lucky you have that option there. I have a friend in her 60s now whose husband also killed her zest. She loves dancing and still do. She was a beautiful woman. They're rich but her husband had other women and would even tell her about that. She allowed herself to be emotionally abused. Now, the husband is sick and could no longer move on his own. She is still with him, taking care of him and never leaving his side.

If she loves them, she will support his choices. She doesn't know till she gets out there if she will like it or not. As for what you should do, this isn't your choice. It's hers.

They sound like two opposites. Wasn't she aware of what he was like before they got married?

Sounds like the noose is tightened more and more with time. In the end, the lady will either lose herself & her ID, or lose this second husband. Only she can make the decision.

I think it is not fair on the part of your friend's husband to pressurize your friend to live in a farm house and ask her to curtail her hobbies and interests. It is a kind of bullying.

I think it would be wonderful for me. I love animals but they can be a lot of care! Hopefully he has some experience with this if he thinks he will do well with the farm he needs to have looks into all there is to know about it. I can understand your friends upset. You are happily single if I remember correctly so you can be her rock during this and show her she can be happy without him.

I could live in either setting, and over time I would adapt to whatever surroundings I'm in. But would I love it if it wasn't a place I loved? Probably not. It's interesting how people change over time, and seem to drift in different directions and become almost someone completely different. It sounds like this guy used to like dancing and such, but over time has lost that zeal for fun. Or maybe he was never into it, but did it for his wife. Whatever the reason, it sounds like your friend has some tough choices to make soon.

What work does he do at the moment? What about her? If neither of them knows anything about farming then they will certainly find it much harder than they think, it isn't a relaxing life leaning over gates in the sunshine watching the animals! It could all end in disaster and financial ruin. Not only that but their shared life should be a shared decision, marriage is meant to be a partnership. If they can't negotiate over things like this then they are not right for each other.

For me, I wouldn't divorce just because he wants to buy a pig farm. She won't either if love is involved. They need to sit down and talk about what they plan to do.

maybe she should have the taste of living in rural area, or a community. maybe she will learn to live simple life.

Does the husband have any prior farming experience? Reminds of the quote be careful what you ask for... Photo and quote- quotefancy

Wow ...tough when you care about someone but you grow apart in different directions .... Maybe the Husband's pig farm thing is a passing fad?...if not , she has a tough decision to make indeed

Sorry to hear about your friend. I hope they can still find a middle ground, though. It would be so sad if she has to give up the things she likes because of that.

I have moved every time my husband wanted to for a better job, I actually enjoyed the moves. I refused just once and it was because of our children and their education, and now we are in our forever house. I have never lived on a farm but I have lived in the country and loved that too, with a car she might still love the farm...

Oh dear. I'm sorry to be a cynic and do hope your friend can work it out, however it sounds like trouble to me. If her husband wanted a non edm-listening , pig farmer girl.... then he should have met and married a non-edm listening pig farmer type instead of trying to mold your friend into what he wants.