MAY AND DECEMBER

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@Kandae11 (26861)
December 4, 2017 3:55pm CST
Suppose you were in a situation where your daughter is planning to marry a man who is a couple years older than her father - what would be your reaction? You know she has always been a bit stubborn - and trying to change her mind might be impossible - so what do you do? or what can you do? Probably nothing - except acceptance . And looking on the bright side, you could invite him to Wednesday night bridge with your friends . How do you feel about May/ December relationships?
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@Happy2BeMe (70120)
• Canada
4 Dec
My future son in law is only seven years younger then me. My daughter has always been very mature. They are prefect for each other. I am happy for them. My niece married a man who was a few years older then her Dad.
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@Kandae11 (26861)
4 Dec
Those relationships do work when true love is involved. Those who marry for various other reasons invariable end up unhappy.
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@Happy2BeMe (70120)
• Canada
4 Dec
@Kandae11 yes that is true
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5 Dec
@Kandae11 ???? 27/5000 I certainly agree with this view
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@Corbin5 (81412)
• United States
4 Dec
I am fine with a May/December romance if it makes for a happy couple.
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@Kandae11 (26861)
4 Dec
Some marry for money and position and some for love. And depending on how committed that person is - either to the money or love - it could work.
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@Asylum (47194)
• Manchester, England
4 Dec
It is impossible to have an opinion on such relationships because every one is different.
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@Kandae11 (26861)
4 Dec
Love is not the main reason why some people get married - agreed. I love your avatar.
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@Asylum (47194)
• Manchester, England
4 Dec
@Kandae11 The guitar playing Santa is one of two temporary avatars that I am using for the next week.
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@Kandae11 (26861)
4 Dec
@Asylum It puts a smile on my face.
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@JudyEv (100494)
• Bunbury, Australia
4 Dec
There is no accounting for what attracts one person to another. Sometimes such age difference have no impact on the relationship. I guess it just takes a bit of getting used to.
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@Kandae11 (26861)
4 Dec
If the couple really wants to make it work, it should. However interference from family and friends would definitely make it harder.
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@tzwrites (3806)
• Romania
5 Dec
@Kandae11 I think dealing with the interference would be hard but if they love each other then that love is enough
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@JohnRoberts (40978)
• Los Angeles, California
4 Dec
I would be the December end of such a relationship and while it would easy to fall for a May, the concept is absurd to me. Too many generational differences.
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@Kandae11 (26861)
4 Dec
@JohnRoberts . Yes, the generation gap - clothes , music ,food , friends etc.
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@Kandae11 (26861)
5 Dec
@Hatley It doesn't always work out.
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@UncleJoe (8513)
• Virginia Beach, Virginia
4 Dec
Sometimes it hurts to watch our grown children make serious mistakes, but it's all i can do to live my own life.
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@Kandae11 (26861)
4 Dec
We can be happy for them if it works out - but initially there will be worry.
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@UncleJoe (8513)
• Virginia Beach, Virginia
4 Dec
@Kandae11 That's because we don't want them to make the same mistakes we did. LOL
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@antonbunot (9493)
• Calgary, Alberta
4 Dec
I believe young women falling in love with old geezers are yearning for a father figure. Most likely, the young woman and her father are not close. My only daughter (got 3 sons) and I are very close with each other. We are so close with each other that she turned into man . . . she married her lady friend. And now they have a one-year-old son thru artificial insemination . . . . .She is gay.
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@Kandae11 (26861)
4 Dec
So, do you think it would have been different if she was closer to her mother?
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• Calgary, Alberta
4 Dec
@Kandae11 She is our baby (youngest child) . .so, she is close to her mom, too. . . Here is their wedding photo . .
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@Kandae11 (26861)
4 Dec
@antonbunot Which one is your daughter?
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@allknowing (55700)
• India
5 Dec
Atleast it is not the other way around (lol)
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@Kandae11 (26861)
5 Dec
The other way around would raise every eye brow.
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@allknowing (55700)
• India
5 Dec
@Kandae11 Have you read 'Thorn Birds" ?
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@Kandae11 (26861)
5 Dec
@allknowing l saw the series starring Richard Chamberlain on television years ago.
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5 Dec
I'm okay with those months.
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@Kandae11 (26861)
5 Dec
You are open minded.
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5 Dec
@Kandae11 I try my best.
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@Ganma7 (1985)
5 Dec
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• Peoria, Arizona
5 Dec
As long as she is an adult, has had other experiences and knows what she is getting into, then I don't see why not. My mom had a relationship like that and there was nothing but happiness between them, it didn't last because of distance, but it was still a wonderful relationship.
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@Kandae11 (26861)
5 Dec
That is nice to know.
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@Kandae11 (26861)
6 Dec
@antonbunot Oh no! - a twenty year old ? - very bad idea.
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@sjvg1976 (14548)
• Delhi, India
5 Dec
Ideally I won't accept the relationship and will persuade my daughter . But if she still doesn't agree I will let her go ahead as I know once children grow up they don t listen to their parents also.
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@Kandae11 (26861)
5 Dec
Most parents would prefer the perfect marriage for their children, but it is really up to them to choose who they want.
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@maezee (27764)
• United States
5 Dec
It would be hard to accept but if they are in love...what else can you do?
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@Kandae11 (26861)
5 Dec
Exactly.lf it turns out to be a mistake, hopefully she will learn from it.
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• United States
5 Dec
I wouldn't be happy about it, but since they are adults, I would have to accept it and hope for the best.
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@Kandae11 (26861)
5 Dec
If her mind is made up, that's it.
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@amadeo (47795)
• United States
4 Dec
Thank you.Do not have any comment on this.
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@Kandae11 (26861)
4 Dec
Nice of you to visit still.
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@valmnz (13136)
• New Zealand
4 Dec
I think you're showing a lot of wisdom in the way you're handling it. I have no problem with such relationships, everyone is unique.
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@Kandae11 (26861)
4 Dec
That is probably the way I would handle it if I found myself in that situation - but I have one child - a son. If he decided to bring home a woman my age, I don't know.....
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@valmnz (13136)
• New Zealand
4 Dec
@Kandae11 isn't it funny, reverse the roles and I also have my doubts. It shouldn't matter to anyone but the couple. It's their lives.
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@ridingbet (37892)
• Philippines
5 Dec
my parents are both May and December affair. what i mean is: my mother was born on May 10, 1922 while my father was born on December 24, 1922. but no, they were of the same age and not that proverbial May-December affair
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@Kandae11 (26861)
5 Dec
You almost had me there okay.
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@rina110383 (23068)
5 Dec
As long as there's no existing legal impediment between the consenting parties, then it's fine with me.
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@Kandae11 (26861)
5 Dec
No legal impediments - then It is their lives to do what suits them best.
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@Hatley (159277)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Dec
do m ot do it tats waytoo bgig an age difference yoarnets should havenever married momwas21ye qwas 51taht is a recipefor disasterforsgar gigts isery y oiu name it do nt arry someone old enough to beyour father you wlll gegrett
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@Kandae11 (26861)
4 Dec
I have seen quite a few disastrous May/ December marriages - one ended in murder. However, there are others that work.
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@nanette64 (13692)
• Fairfield, Texas
5 Dec
I'd ask her if she was just nuts or looking for a Sugar Daddy @Kandae11 .
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@Kandae11 (26861)
5 Dec
From what I heard - he has a lot of money - old money. But then, she is also financially well of - so it must be love, or close enough.
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@Kandae11 (26861)
5 Dec
@nanette64 There are some older men who can handle themselves better than some younger guys - or so I have been told.
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@nanette64 (13692)
• Fairfield, Texas
5 Dec
@Kandae11 More experience; longer lasting.
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@JustBhem (22370)
• Davao, Philippines
5 Dec
Oh, at one time during our mini gathering. A friend said that her husband is 10 years older than her. And I was shocked. Because she is pretty. She said she was in love and now she is beginning to feel disappointed. I think your daughter made a right decision. I mean, we cannot hold their heart and we need to accept it.
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@Kandae11 (26861)
5 Dec
The story isn't about me - I don't have a daughter. I have a son - and I honestly do not think I would be happy if he decided to marry a much older woman.
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@JustBhem (22370)
• Davao, Philippines
5 Dec
@Kandae11 Ah okay. And are you okay with that?
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@Kandae11 (26861)
5 Dec
@JustBhem It would depend, I would have to first see how the two interact.
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