WOULD YOU WANT TO KNOW?

@Kandae11 (27152)
December 6, 2017 8:20am CST
If your spouse is cheating on you, would you want to know ? - After all, what you don't know won't hurt you - or so they say. I thought of asking this question after reading a report this morning which alerted me to the fact that one of my favorite actors - Dustin Hoffman is also in the limelight because of alleged sexual misconduct. I can't help wondering - who will be next. And do I really want to know of every bit of inappropriate behavior committed by my favorite stars many years ago ? I think I would want to know if my spouse or boyfriend is cheating on me - but where celebrities are concerned - their alleged bad behavior years ago won't leave me with sleepless nights. I have never idolised them anyway. Would you prefer to be left in the dark about some things - like your spouse cheating or what your fave actors might have done years ago? What are your thoughts?
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@Happy2BeMe (69867)
• Canada
6 Dec
If my spouse was cheating I would want to know. I have had that situation before with a x and I knew he was cheating even though he never admitted. You drive yourself crazy trying to figure it out. It got to the point where I left for my own sanity. Even though I never actually caught him I seen the emails and texts and other things that was proof enough for me.
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@Kandae11 (27152)
6 Dec
like @Sharon645 says - if you know him well enough you will know. They say "what you don't know can't hurt you" but in the case of cheating - it can. I know of several cases where an unsuspecting spouse has 'caught' illnesses from a cheating spouse because no protection was used.
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@Happy2BeMe (69867)
• Canada
6 Dec
@Kandae11 Exactly that is why the other spouse deserves to know.
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@just4him (92365)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
6 Dec
What celebrities do is their problem, not mine. I do agree with you that there is too much of it in the news these days. As for whether it were my spouse or boyfriend, of which I have neither, I would definitely want to know.
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@Kandae11 (27152)
6 Dec
How would you feel if your best friend knew and didn't tell you?
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@just4him (92365)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
7 Dec
@Kandae11 She wouldn't be a friend for long.
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@Kandae11 (27152)
7 Dec
@just4him Some people do not like to be the messenger - but a good friend would make sure that you are aware of what's going on.
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@JustBhem (22599)
• Davao, Philippines
6 Dec
I always ask the boyfriend if ever he will cheat, just let me know. I know it will hurt me pretty bad but at least I know from his mouth and not from others.
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@Kandae11 (27152)
6 Dec
But would he really tell you if he does ?
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@JustBhem (22599)
• Davao, Philippines
6 Dec
@Kandae11 All I know is he won't cheat.
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@Kandae11 (27152)
6 Dec
@JustBhem That's great.
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• Preston, England
6 Dec
@Kandae11 the truth needs to come out even where we find it uncomfortable
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@Kandae11 (27152)
6 Dec
The truth does hurt - but deep down we know that it is best to know.
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• Preston, England
6 Dec
@Kandae11 I'd rather know than not
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@marguicha (81820)
• Chile
6 Dec
I donĀ“t lnow. I think that my spouse did not cheat on me. But who knows? And actors and actresses have more opportunities to do so.
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@Kandae11 (27152)
6 Dec
I hope he never did - but like you say - who knows? And I guess your marriage was a happy one anyway.
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@marguicha (81820)
• Chile
6 Dec
@Kandae11 My marriage was a happy one. So I never wanted to ask myself that.
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@Kandae11 (27152)
6 Dec
@marguicha Wonderful!
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• Peoria, Arizona
6 Dec
If I am in a serious relationship, I am always upfront with them, if they ever decide to cheat, then I am pretty much done. Cheating is very dumb, very stupid, and selfish. So yeah, I would rather know, so I can move on from them because if they are willing to mess with me and another person just for their own selfish gain, they are not the right person to be with. I despise cheaters, there is a special form of hate I have for them.
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@Kandae11 (27152)
6 Dec
Has it ever happened to you? I always remember my first boyfriend and first New Year's Eve party. He took me to a house party - then kept disappearing. Later I found out that he had taken another girl to another house party just down the street.
• Peoria, Arizona
6 Dec
@Kandae11 Nahhh everyone just leaves me before the relationship gets serious, so if they like someone else, they just move on.
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@Kandae11 (27152)
6 Dec
@DesirousDreamer You will find Mr. Right soon.
@Raelove (15561)
• Saco, Maine
7 Dec
Too much importance is placed on celebrities' private lives. Beyond their ability to entertain me, which is their job, I don't care what they do. As for your question, that's a tough one. Having "been there," I can vouch for the incredible sadness of finding out that your mate is cheating. There is no worse feeling in the world as far as relationships are concerned. So that's a tough one, to which I really don't have an answer.
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@Kandae11 (27152)
7 Dec
Knowing may not be the best for one's mental health, but it might be best for one's physical health.
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@Raelove (15561)
• Saco, Maine
7 Dec
@Kandae11 In some cases, it might be.
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@amadeo (48109)
• United States
6 Dec
I will let you know when this happen.I have no comment on this incident there.
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@Kandae11 (27152)
6 Dec
Sure.
@amadeo (48109)
• United States
6 Dec
@Kandae11 Enjoy the afternoon
@JudyEv (101135)
• Bunbury, Australia
6 Dec
I don't really want to know about the private lives of celebrities. I don't envy their lifestyles one bit.
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@Kandae11 (27152)
6 Dec
Same here. And that is the price they must pay for fame anyway.
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@bluesa (12836)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
8 Dec
I would want to know if someone I was involved with was cheating on me, but, no I don't need to know everything a celebrity does. Just sorry if they really hurt someone.
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@Kandae11 (27152)
8 Dec
Celebrities are people like everyone else - and I don't like getting involved in people's private lives. The difference is that celebrities are in the limelight , and some are idolised and some are role models. If they sneeze, it makes the news.
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@bluesa (12836)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
9 Dec
@Kandae11 I agree that they are just people like everyone else, it is their fans that build them up to be more. But I am also not interested in their lives away from the screen.
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@BelleStarr (32085)
• Portland, Connecticut
7 Dec
I am not quite sure, it is not something I think about but I know I would be devastated to find out if it had happened.
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@Kandae11 (27152)
7 Dec
So, would you want to know?
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@BelleStarr (32085)
• Portland, Connecticut
8 Dec
@Kandae11 No probably not, I would rather not ruin my life.
@shaggin (26964)
• United States
8 Dec
Yes I would want to know for sure!
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@Kandae11 (27152)
8 Dec
Me too.
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@Freelanzer (6459)
• Canada
7 Dec
Celebrities are all pampered and spoiled as far as I am concerned so I really don't care about their private lives. If my spouse was cheating I would want to know but then I am sure anyone who has a cheating spouse knows - they just turn a blind eye
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@Kandae11 (27152)
7 Dec
You are right. It would be difficult - not to know.
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@tzwrites (3821)
• Romania
7 Dec
I would want to know because I would dump him ...
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@Kandae11 (27152)
7 Dec
No second chances?
@fly802 (1246)
7 Dec
If our dear one cheated on us, what can we do?I would like to avoid to know it as it will hurt me.
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@Kandae11 (27152)
7 Dec
It might be best for your physical health if you did know.
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@maezee (27857)
• United States
7 Dec
I would definitely want to know if it wad my spouse. Celebrities lives I am not interested in
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@Kandae11 (27152)
7 Dec
Same here. I have never been interested in the lives of celebrities.
@kiran8 (15256)
• Mangalore, India
7 Dec
What the stars do hardly matters ...but when it comes to your own spouse it would be different . I am not sure how things would be if I were to discover my husband cheating on me , will not be able to take it . I know of many women who don't care either way as long as the husband is looking after and providing for them ..
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@Kandae11 (27152)
7 Dec
I know there are women who appear not to care.
@hostessman (7219)
• Tucson, Arizona
7 Dec
i don't care about the celebs, but i would want to know if my spouse was
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@Kandae11 (27152)
7 Dec
I would too.
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• United States
6 Dec
When this started with Bill Cosby, I was so shocked, but I don't think any allegations would shock me anymore. Yes, I would want to know, so I get away from him as soon as possible.
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@Kandae11 (27152)
6 Dec
How would you feel if your best friend knew of it and didn't tell you?
@Madshadi (4890)
• Brussels, Belgium
6 Dec
I think if people would report every case, statistics would be terrifying
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@Kandae11 (27152)
6 Dec
Not just celebrities, but bosses, managers , those who employ household helpers - and the list could go on.
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