Voracious Brother!

By Bhem
@JustBhem (22370)
Davao, Philippines
December 6, 2017 9:03am CST
I feel very mad about my 5th Brother at the moment. Because we have pork steak for dinner, siblings are happy. We seldom cook meat this time because I and Mother are sick, so we cook simple dishes like fried fish, chicken and sometimes if lazy eggs to the rescue. This time, we have leftover pork steak. So the mother told us not to touch it anymore because we will have it for breakfast, she wants to pair it with fried rice in the morning. This voracious 5th Brother cook rice at this moment though he already ate 3 times for dinner earlier. I told him, not to cook rice because we are saving but he did it anyway. And ate the remaining leftover pork steak. To think he is not helping us with paying the bills and only eat and go. Never helping us here. But so greedy! Now my heart is in pain again. What should I do with this kind of Brother? No work, only rely on others fortune, always drink liquor, eat and go, not helping us at all.
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@hereandthere (24042)
• Philippines
7 Dec
maybe your father can talk to him?
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@JustBhem (22370)
• Davao, Philippines
7 Dec
I hope so, I thought about it. Hopefully, they will listen.
• Philippines
8 Dec
@JustBhem if you don't tell him what's been happening and how they have been behaving, he will never know about them, and it will get even worse. besides, it's easier to call now with cellphones. he should talk seriously with his sons.
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@JustBhem (22370)
• Davao, Philippines
8 Dec
@hereandthere Nah, they still won't listen. It would be better if Father will talk to them personally. I like the anger my Father shows them.
@rina110383 (23079)
6 Dec
If I'm in your situation, I'll kick him out of the house. Won't tolerate such kind of sh*t. I have no patience for lazy, inconsiderate, free loader relatives/siblings. My brother who lives with my parents does the same thing. When I visit my parents (Holidays), I always throw his clothes outside of my parents' place, exclude his clothes from the laundry, and place the plates/utensils he used in eating on top of his bed. It's my way of teaching him to clean his mess and not to depend on the helper. Sometimes, corporal punishment works.
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@JustBhem (22370)
• Davao, Philippines
6 Dec
I already did this one time. When Mother was confined. He supposed to be the person to take care of the house since some of us are busy doing the rounds for Mother. I was very upset and mad as well when he always beat my nephew when they are alone in the house. I throw his clothes and I even targeted him with a knife, gladly he ran away too fast. Now, since I am not feeling well I cannot scold him hard because I am afraid my heart will collapse. I will have my 3rd or 4th Brother handle this mess he is creating again. So greedy!
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@Happy2BeMe (70157)
• Canada
6 Dec
He should not be living there if he is not helping out. He needs to follow the rules or get out.
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@JustBhem (22370)
• Davao, Philippines
6 Dec
And to think he is old enough to look for a job. Still, he is doing those things as if he is coming from a wealthy Family.
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@Happy2BeMe (70157)
• Canada
6 Dec
@JustBhem that is a sin. Mom needs to put her foot down!!
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@JustBhem (22370)
• Davao, Philippines
7 Dec
@Happy2BeMe Nah, Mother doesn't care about that. She always yells most of the time and that's it.
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@Ithink (6760)
• United States
6 Dec
I kick his lazy butt out and not feed him, time for him to grow up!
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@JustBhem (22370)
• Davao, Philippines
7 Dec
Yeah, he always relies on people and to us. I hate this kind of attitude to think he is stronger than us.
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@Ithink (6760)
• United States
8 Dec
@JustBhem Well from experience as long as he is supported, he will never grow up and nothing will change. You need to cut him off and let him hit bottom for him to grow.
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@JustBhem (22370)
• Davao, Philippines
8 Dec
@Ithink Nah, I don't think he will learn. I always keep reminding them most of the time.
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@SIMPLYD (75303)
• Philippines
7 Dec
I think it should be your mother who should tell him already to better be sharing or find his own place. Your brother is so unshameful. Maybe because it was you who told him not to eat the left-over pork steak and not cook rice anymore, that is why he played a deaf ear. I can feel your anger over this inconsiderate brother of yours.
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@SIMPLYD (75303)
• Philippines
7 Dec
@JustBhem I think, you should already find a place of your own. Let them survive on their own if your mother is also a selfish one like your brother. Don't stress yourself by being there and seeing and hearing their bad habits and selfishness.
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@JustBhem (22370)
• Davao, Philippines
7 Dec
@SIMPLYD I already told the boyfriend about that issue but we need more time to save. We still have bills to pay.
@amadeo (47812)
• United States
6 Dec
you need a meeting with the family there.for advice and what to do.
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@JustBhem (22370)
• Davao, Philippines
6 Dec
We already did this, and he never listens.
@amadeo (47812)
• United States
6 Dec
@JustBhem well then he need an old fashioned spanking there.
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@JustBhem (22370)
• Davao, Philippines
7 Dec
@amadeo Hahaha. How I wish I can do that.
@Kandae11 (26872)
6 Dec
Someone needs to take a stand - let your other brothers deal with him.
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@JustBhem (22370)
• Davao, Philippines
6 Dec
That is what I have in mind. I will let my Brother deal with him again.
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@Diamond55 (124)
6 Dec
You need to speak to your brother and tell him to help out. what he is doing is unfair.
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@JustBhem (22370)
• Davao, Philippines
6 Dec
I always told him about that but looks like he has a thick face not to understand them.
@lady1993 (15543)
• Philippines
7 Dec
that sounds like such a burden indeed, does he listen to anyone at all?
@ridingbet (37892)
• Philippines
7 Dec
these brothers of yours, you are blood siblings, right? why does he do that to you? he should find himself a job.
@JudyEv (100541)
• Bunbury, Australia
6 Dec
That is very unfair. Someone needs to put their foot down with him and make him pull his weight in the household.