Do you go for reverse psychology?

@dpk262006 (58675)
Delhi, India
December 14, 2017 11:37pm CST
Reverse psychology is a technique involving the advocacy of a belief or behavior that is opposite to the one desired, with the expectation that this approach will encourage the subject of the persuasion to do what actually is desired: the opposite of what is suggested. Do you go for reverse psychology, when you feel that you job may not be got done by the other person in a normal manner? For example - if I assign a task to my subordinate and ask him to complete the task at his own convenience, he might do it immediately. On the other hand, if I ask him that the task is to be completed immediately, he may delay the task due to one reason or the other. Therefore, when I have to get a task completely quickly, sometimes I would say - "Do it at your own convenience, and the job gets completed sooner than later" Do you adopt this technique on your kids/friends/relatives? Picture courtesy - Google
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@noni1959 (9886)
• United States
15 Dec 17
It depends on the person you use it on. I have a co-worker that if I said at his convenience or when he gets time, it will never get done and he is not busy. We are always doing his work. If I tell him twice I finally get the boss involved and he'll do it. On the other hand; if I tell one of my granddaughters I she probably is too young to do something she will immediately do it to prove me wrong. It's a good way to get the kitty litter cleaned, dogs taken out to potty etc.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
15 Dec 17
Yes, you have given very good examples. Reverse psychology may not work for all the people at all places. There may be some people for whom we are required to use normal ways to get our work done. In case of your grand daughter, you use reverse psychology and it brings you desired results.
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@LadyDuck (458006)
• Switzerland
15 Dec 17
If I would do this with my niece "at your own convenience" would be "never". It depends on the person. My husband knew he could trust me, if he said I need it done by tomorrow, he asked and I did.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
15 Dec 17
You mean to say that you have not observed that reverse psychology technique work for you. You and your husband has good level of understanding and you both do not need to use reverse psychology for each other, this is what I understand.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
18 Dec 17
@LadyDuck If reverse psychology technique does not work on your niece, then you should try some other method, you could bribe her to get a task done.
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@LadyDuck (458006)
• Switzerland
15 Dec 17
@dpk262006 I also said that reverse psychology technique does not work with my niece.
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@much2say (53959)
• Los Angeles, California
26 Dec 17
I would say I am more direct with my approach . . . tell them exactly what I need done and when. I find that sometimes the reverse things works - sometimes it doesn't - so if I tell them exactly what I need done, the communication is clear (well in most cases but that doesn't mean they will do it ).
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
27 Dec 17
It means that you do not believe in applying reverse psychology for getting a work done. You believe in direct approach because according to you, you find it more workable.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
28 Dec 17
@much2say Ha ha ha ha......you are applying reverse psychology on me. For me you need not apply reverse psychology, I would respond otherwise also. Yes, you are right that it depends on the person on the other side, whether he is fit to be applied reverse psychology tricks or not.
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@much2say (53959)
• Los Angeles, California
27 Dec 17
@dpk262006 It's a hard call - sometimes it depends on the person's personality - as I said, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. No need to respond to my comment if you really don't want to !
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• Philippines
16 Dec 17
It takes a great strategy and timing to make that to some one who is in the situation. I still don't know how does work.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
18 Dec 17
It means that you have not tried getting a work done through reverse psychology?
@cahaya1983 (11121)
• Malaysia
19 Dec 17
I would say it has different outcomes depending on the person. I'm pretty sure I have used it a few times.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
20 Dec 17
You are right that reverse psychology may not work all the time. One needs to evaluate under what circumstances and on whom it could work. On occasions when you used reverse psychology, hopefully you got the desired results?
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@cahaya1983 (11121)
• Malaysia
20 Dec 17
@dpk262006 I guess they were 50-50. I'm not really an expert at using whatever psychology.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
20 Dec 17
@cahaya1983 It means you were successful to some extent. We do not need to be an expert in using psychology. We know about human behavior and we know about those who are around us, our minds tells us how to get the work done from them. I am sure you know how to get your work done from others.
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@JESSY3236 (18923)
• United States
15 Dec 17
My mother, I think, has done this to me many times.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
20 Dec 17
@JESSY3236 When did you start realizing that she had been using reverse psychology technique on you to get the work done?
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
18 Dec 17
Did she succeed every time she used reverse psychology on you?
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@JESSY3236 (18923)
• United States
19 Dec 17
@dpk262006 most of the time yes.
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@Madshadi (8849)
• Brussels, Belgium
15 Dec 17
It depends on the situation. If I’m paying someone for every hour of work then I would like it done fast, if I am asking for a favour then then I would use the “at your own convenience” thing
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
18 Dec 17
You have given a relevant analogy that if you are paying for a task, you would like the other party to finish it at the earliest and if you are asking someone for favor, you may ask him to do at his own convenience.
@jstory07 (134458)
• Roseburg, Oregon
15 Dec 17
The psychology you used is very good.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
15 Dec 17
Would you use reverse psychology techniques to get the work done from someone else?
@garymarsh6 (23393)
• United Kingdom
15 Dec 17
I use it all the time especially to change someones opinion about someone! If they tell me they do not like someone even though they have only just met them I continue to say how nice they were by auto suggestion eventually you find they change their opinion!
@sol_cee (38223)
• Philippines
15 Dec 17
It works for others. But you can just tell me what you want. No need to do reverse psychology. :)
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
18 Dec 17
Yes, this technique is required to be used for others not for us. It is good to know that you are very obedient and whatever task is given to you, you would complete it quickly.
@shivamani10 (11038)
• Hyderabad, India
15 Dec 17
Yeh. sometimes, it gives a good result. One must be quite shrewd to use it.
@stapllotik (1933)
• India
15 Dec 17
You can apply it only when you know the nature of the person. But it will not work everytime.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
18 Dec 17
Yes, you are right that we could apply reverse psychology technique with a known person, we cannot use this technique with a stranger.
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@Rashnag (30598)
• Surat, India
19 May 21
It may backfire too. I don't use it much