She loves me, She loves me not
By Darcy Nemo
@YrNemo (20261)
December 26, 2017 3:28am CST
Have you ever been in a situation when suddenly you received gifts from a cyber fan? Then while you were still trying to figure out why that person sending gifts to you, they promptly attacked you publicly for some faults which they believed you had done.
If you had experienced that, what did you do to the gifts which that person had sent you? (Sending back is not an option since you don't know the sender's address. Give them to charity?)
I asked some of my other cyber friends why that specific person did so to me, the friends shrugged, 'She is a complicated person. Don't try to understand her. She seems to have problems with everyone even her own parents!'
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A few months ago I was stalked by a member here for a fair while. I was puzzled why she read my discussions and responses and gave me lots of 'cents' by liking them. Then one day, she suddenly blocked me 
. I was relieved in a sense since she has absolved me of the duty which demands me to return the favor.
Have you ever done that to anyone? (That is, stalking people, supporting them, then blocking them soon after!)
It is not easy isn't it, being loved and then promptly rejected. 
. I was relieved in a sense since she has absolved me of the duty which demands me to return the favor.
Have you ever done that to anyone? (That is, stalking people, supporting them, then blocking them soon after!)
It is not easy isn't it, being loved and then promptly rejected. 16 people like this
20 responses
@LadyDuck (457249)
• Switzerland
26 Dec 17
@1creekgirl I know that my husband would not appreciate to know that I publish our full address online.
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@1creekgirl (40396)
• United States
26 Dec 17
I feel the same way. Ther are many myLotters I would love to correspond with, but it just doesn't seem like a good idea to make my full name and address public on the internet.
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@YrNemo (20261)
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27 Dec 17
I didn't know that girl seriously (the young lady in the first case), and I didn't give my address out publicly. Unfortunately she got it out from some of my former classmates' younger siblings. Let say that when I got the parcel, I was very surprised. When I got attacked by her a year or so later, I got more surprised.
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@YrNemo (20261)
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26 Dec 17
Thanks for your advice re those strange gifts. I can't block that member who has blocked me I think, but I can continue liking their comments and discussions if I want to (which I have decided NOT to 
).
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
27 Dec 17
I have never done this, I have made friends here that I thought I had really connected with, then they unfollowed me and stopped chatting to me, they still chat to my other friends here, it is just like I stopped existing, don't know why they did that but I won't go ask either. I don't give out my email without first really "knowing" a person, well as best as you can "know" someone online. But yes, being "loved" and then all of a sudden rejected is very puzzling.
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@PainsOnSlate (21854)
• Canada
26 Dec 17
I like @MALUSE response. If anyone treated me that way they would be blocked. Thankfully I haven't met anyone here like that...Thinking of it... it did happen to me when I first joined, it was a man who was nasty, I was one of dozens who blocked him and he left...thankfully.
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@PainsOnSlate (21854)
• Canada
26 Dec 17
@YrNemo I do know if you are blocked you can't comment, I accidentally blocked someone and had no idea I did it, her sister asked me why....I was so surprised i had no idea so I went to her page and unblocked her... Good riddance to bad rubbish, I agree with you.
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@YrNemo (20261)
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26 Dec 17
We the ones who got blocked here, do not have that ability to block that person back (I think). In my case, I don't have any fight with that member ever but for the fact that I could be very inactive at times due to real life commitments (like everyone else here). The lady does me a favor in saving me the time interacting with her. I was tempted to send her a thank you note but for the fact that I can never send her a message due to her blocking me.
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@creativeaashish (2609)
• Kathmandu, Nepal
26 Dec 17
Oh! I haven't come to this situation yet! But I think it can come up with anyone!
And I think I would forget everything! And keep the present in my box with the label, "My great supporters and Haters too"
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@YrNemo (20261)
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26 Dec 17
It killed the value of the gifts somehow. I got so upset that I haven't touched those for a long time.
@YrNemo (20261)
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26 Dec 17
@creativeaashish They were music CD, the problem is, if I see them, or even hear of those singers' names, I remember the occasion and got a bit upset. 
@creativeaashish (2609)
• Kathmandu, Nepal
26 Dec 17
@YrNemo You can take those gifts and use them. Is there any problem on doing that? I don't think there should be any problem. You can take as present and use them!
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
27 Dec 17
I have not received any gift from any cyber friend.
I do not believe in stalking people. If I support a mylotter, I support it whole heartedly, there is no question of blocking him/her.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
27 Dec 17
@YrNemo It would have been only her perception to think so.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
26 Dec 17
Seems like pretty strange behavior to me. I probably don't have any cyber fans, and I think my followers here are pretty sensible people who don't act in strange ways. But I guess sometimes a person can turn on another if they don't get a response they hoped for or expected. I wouldn't worry about being blocked. You can't please all the people all the time.
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@moffittjc (118365)
• Gainesville, Florida
26 Dec 17
Fortunately, I've never had that situation happen to me. But that does sound weird that someone would act that way toward you.
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@moffittjc (118365)
• Gainesville, Florida
26 Dec 17
@YrNemo Well, you have all the angles covered then! haha
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@DianneN (246334)
• United States
28 Dec 17
So sorry that's happened to you. I won't give out personal information unless I truly feel comfortable with the person. Even then, I'm wary. I have blocked a few petty, jealous, ignorant people here or unfollow them. It was very freeing, until I see their nasty faces here and there.
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@YrNemo (20261)
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28 Dec 17
Now I know some of your secrets . (I swear I never thought you would block anyone since you seem to be always very tolerant and easy going to everyone here. I often thought to myself, that if you had been a Roman Catholic member, the church might even have sanctified you as a 'Saint Dianne!' 
, patroness of 'Diplomacy', not joking! )
. (I swear I never thought you would block anyone since you seem to be always very tolerant and easy going to everyone here. I often thought to myself, that if you had been a Roman Catholic member, the church might even have sanctified you as a 'Saint Dianne!' , patroness of 'Diplomacy', not joking! )
@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
26 Dec 17
really? maybe you did not return a favor to her that is why she blocked you.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
29 Dec 17
@YrNemo oh, so it is good riddance therefore, and thanks for the heads-up.
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@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
26 Dec 17
Life is indeed ironic and so does people!
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
26 Dec 17
How did this person have your address to send you gifts? That is very odd.
@sabtraversa (12832)
• Italy
26 Dec 17
I don't know if I have fans, maybe I do, but that has never happened to me.
Nobody knows where to send the stuff to, I bet.
I thought what @bagarad said, some people act in a way because they expect a certain reaction, in most cases they end up being disappointed. You know, fan/celebrity relationships tend to be unbalanced.
Idolization is such a plague, it causes expectations and disappointments in fans and a lot of anxiety in the idols themselves. I hate that. 
I would keep the gift, and forget who sent it. 
Nobody knows where to send the stuff to, I bet.
I thought what @bagarad said, some people act in a way because they expect a certain reaction, in most cases they end up being disappointed. You know, fan/celebrity relationships tend to be unbalanced.
Idolization is such a plague, it causes expectations and disappointments in fans and a lot of anxiety in the idols themselves. I hate that.
I would keep the gift, and forget who sent it. 1 person likes this
@responsiveme (22926)
• India
27 Dec 17
Nope, not really.
Don't have any cyber fans.
It would throw me off balance
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@misunderstood_zombie (8142)
• United States
26 Dec 17
No, I would never do that to anyone. It's better to just ignore the people I don't get along with, and there's always going to be that person that for everyone, who is just a pain.
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@YrNemo (20261)
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27 Dec 17
Thanks. I have been a bit worried in case that might be the normal norm here, as in 'I lke you today, I will bock you tomorrow' etc
