Are you a SINGLE MOM?

mom - mom
@leanette (3004)
India
November 27, 2006 11:38am CST
My mom is! Do you think you can raise your child any better without a DAD? Do you have problems raising them?
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18 responses
@sahira (1072)
• Philippines
8 Apr 07
well,i don't know if i'll be considered a single mom!my husband is working abroad and ofcourse i raise our son alone,but the financial support is there ofcourse the only lacking is the peresnce of the father and the care he can provide to our son.
@leanette (3004)
• India
9 Apr 07
Has he like left you guys, or jsut working there? Am really sorry for you, working husbands hardly find time for their kids, wife. I know how it'd feel. Its almost as if you were a single mom.
• Philippines
7 Apr 07
Im not a single mom, but when I and my husband have a serious argument i would think of wishing that im a single mom. For me you don't have to marry to the sake of baby.
@leanette (3004)
• India
7 Apr 07
I necessarily wouldn't mind being a single mom either, if the guy doesn't deserve to be a husband and father. But I hope to marry a deserving guy. thanks for the response!
• United States
20 Feb 07
I am a single mom and it's quite hard to raise kids on your own. Even if your kids see you 24/7 and know you are the one taking care of all their needs, when the father shows up once in a blue moon, they get all excited and will trade you for him. Even if he doesn't give child support! And I think emotionally it does something to them.
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@leanette (3004)
• India
5 Apr 07
Yes, that might eventually sooner or later come up in a single mom's life and its really hard to detain the children from their 'dads' and equally frustrating to see the child call someone 'daddy' who is one jerk who didn't bother about their existence a while ago. Thankfully, my mom gave us the choice of goin to my dad or live with her, all the siblings chose the best choice! :D Thanks for the response, I hope your children never trade you for a loser! :)
• United States
10 Jan 07
im a single mom...of a 4 month old baby boy...i think that i will do a better job of raising him without his father...seeing as how im going to have to anyhow...the guy doesnt really care...hasnt even seen my little guy...but im going to do this to the best of my abilities...but im not going to dwell on it either...im not the one missing out here, his father is...:P
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@leanette (3004)
• India
10 Jan 07
The best thing you could have was your son... am sure you would make a great mom to your kid..all moms do! :D it is good you are without him, that loser of a guy! And am sure all Moms are really proud of you! Thank you for your response!
• United States
29 Nov 06
I'm not a single mother, but I have a lot of respect for those that are. It's hard enough raising a baby with my husband, so I know those single mothers are working hard.
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@leanette (3004)
• India
29 Nov 06
Yes, earnin and takin care of kids alone is real hard work. I know what my mom had to go through.
@mydiego (310)
• Philippines
29 Nov 06
was a single mum of 2 children, it was hard, and no I cannot say I did it better without their Dad, children especially boy's need their fathers!
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@leanette (3004)
• India
29 Nov 06
I know its hard especially with a boy kid..but am sure you would have done your best :)
@Artsimba (1335)
• United States
29 Nov 06
No, I'm not a single Mom, I think it's hard to do it alone, but there are wonderful single parents out there doing a fantastic job. So, it is possible to raise good kids these days when they have a loving relationship with whoever is bringing them up.
@leanette (3004)
• India
29 Nov 06
PArents in conflict have a bad effect of the kid. It is better to be with a loving single parent than with troubled parents.
• United States
29 Nov 06
My mom is. I was raised without my real dad, but I do not care, I did not need him, my mom told me that he was a jerk for leaving us.
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@leanette (3004)
• India
29 Nov 06
Well we certainly do not need dads who are jerks. its a good thing you are not with him.
• Philippines
29 Nov 06
i'm not a single mom, cause i'm a guy and i don't have a son nor a daughter yet.
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@leanette (3004)
• India
29 Nov 06
Thank you for the response though i would have wanted a response from a single mom :P
• Singapore
29 Nov 06
i only think that single mom are strong and i respect them in their determination
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@leanette (3004)
• India
29 Nov 06
Thank you! Single parenting is a lotta hardwork and determination! Thanks for your response!
@scottology (1213)
28 Nov 06
no i am not a mom i am a man
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@leanette (3004)
• India
28 Nov 06
oh thank you for clearing that for us :P
@caramello (4382)
• Australia
28 Nov 06
I was a single mum of 2 children, it was hard, and no I cannot say I did it better without their Dad, children especially boy's need their fathers!
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@leanette (3004)
• India
28 Nov 06
Yes boys cannot do better without their thats probably the reason why my mom gives him more attention. We sisters feel more comfortable with our mom.
@jhawithu (1070)
• India
28 Nov 06
ya
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@leanette (3004)
• India
28 Nov 06
i's appreciate if you could gimme more... thanks for the response
@aweins (4203)
• India
20 Feb 07
no , i m not a mom yet.
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• United States
28 Nov 06
My mom was for many years with me, and then remarried my awesome step-dad and they had a kid, my sister! anyways, my mom was a great single mom... luckily for her, she had family around to help her out and watch me while she worked. Myfather left when i was a baby and my mom did a great job raising me and making sure i had everything i needed. we were MUCH better off without my father... he was a horrible man. But, i know my mom is much happier married to my s-dad and really likes the help in raising my little sister. I allways say that I know i would be the worst single-mom ever... jokingly, because im always forgetting stuff when we leave to go out and my hubby has to help me. but mad props to single parents!!! you are awesome!!
@leanette (3004)
• India
29 Nov 06
It is better to break up with the husband you have trouble all times than living an unpeaceful life. Yes, our family is also better off without dad..we are in peace now.! :) I am glad your mom is happy with your s-dad! My mother isn't remarried (though we ask her to find a bf :P) but she is certainly happy living her life with her kids :)... Hats off to single parents! :)
• United States
29 Nov 06
I think I can beat you on the forgetting thing. We left the house and I realized I forgot the babies bottles. So we go back. After we left the second time I had forgotten the nipples to the bottles!
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@leanette (3004)
• India
29 Nov 06
Lol. am sure your husband is there to remind you :)
• Romania
29 Nov 06
no
@leanette (3004)
• India
30 Nov 06
one worders don't make me happy [-( thank you for the response anyways!
@sunup13 (420)
• Canada
16 Apr 07
I think that being a single parent is the hardest job in the world and we always get dumped on! I am a newly single mom. I have a five and a half month old daughter. She does see him a couple of days a week which is great. Sometimes I do find it easier to raise her without a father around. I get to make all the decisions about what she wears, eats, does and it's tough but on the other hand it's great too. The problem will be when she gets older and he raises her one way over at his place and I raise her my way. I hope that we can agree on somethings so that she has at least a little bit of consistency. My mom was also a single parent and I think she did a great job, we had most of the things we wanted and did not complain. I think it made us realize that we can't be greedy. She was always there when we needed her and still is. She gives me hope to be a good parent to my baby, I hope I can provide for her like I was provided for.
• United States
28 Nov 06
My mom was for many years with me, and then remarried my awesome step-dad and they had a kid, my sister! anyways, my mom was a great single mom... luckily for her, she had family around to help her out and watch me while she worked. Myfather left when i was a baby and my mom did a great job raising me and making sure i had everything i needed. we were MUCH better off without my father... he was a horrible man. But, i know my mom is much happier married to my s-dad and really likes the help in raising my little sister. I allways say that I know i would be the worst single-mom ever... jokingly, because im always forgetting stuff when we leave to go out and my hubby has to help me. but mad props to single parents!!! you are awesome!!