Life Must Go On

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@LadyDuck (156900)
Switzerland
January 2, 2018 11:25am CST
I was undecided about writing this depressing post when everyone is celebrating the New Year, but I want you to know why I will not be online often the next few days. Early this morning, my dear mother has stopped to suffer, she has closed her eyes forever. She is now free of pain and she surely already reached her dear husband. I thought to be prepared, as she has been very sick for almost two months, well I am not. No matter the age, losing someone you love is an incredible pain. She has gone, but she always will be in my heart. May be I will be online tomorrow, but not sure Thursday and Friday. Thanks to all those who kept her in their prayers.
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@Asylum (48281)
• Manchester, England
2 Jan
As you say, no matter how expected the loss may be we are still never totally prepared. It may be hard to accept, but if she was suffering it may be for the best.
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@LadyDuck (156900)
• Switzerland
2 Jan
She was sick during the night, the doctor called my brother and we had to decide if to go for an invasive therapy or let her go. Since the day she had the stroke she was paralyzed and in pain. I hope we took the best decision. Now she can rest in peace.
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@Asylum (48281)
• Manchester, England
2 Jan
@LadyDuck That was most likely the sensible decision because invasive treatment would surely increase her discomfort. There is no benefit in elongating life if it amounts to greater discomfort for a longer period.
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@LadyDuck (156900)
• Switzerland
2 Jan
@Asylum We knew she would have never recovered and she would have never been able again to eat, drink, speak, walk and use her hands. This is not life.
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• United States
2 Jan
So sorry to hear about your mom Anna. It's never easy even if you think you're prepared. Sending you condolences and hugs
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@LadyDuck (156900)
• Switzerland
2 Jan
Thank you Marilyn, I had seen her the 31st, I have been with her all the afternoon, she was able only to say a couple of words, I know she was in pain an unhappy. I hope she is better where she is now.
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@Ganma7 (2829)
4 Jan
@LadyDuck Anna she is pain free and at peace
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@LadyDuck (156900)
• Switzerland
5 Jan
@Ganma7 I could not stand to see her suffer so much.
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@jaboUK (53919)
• United Kingdom
2 Jan
I don't think we can ever be prepared for a life shattering event such as the loss of your mother. I've been thinking about your situation all over Christmas Anna, and hoping that she would have a peaceful end. Condolences, but at least she is not suffering now.
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@LadyDuck (156900)
• Switzerland
3 Jan
Thank you Janet, I was not sure she would have seen the end of the year, when I saw her the 31st I knew that it would have been our last time together. She was very unwell that day, I am sure she is better now.
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@jaboUK (53919)
• United Kingdom
3 Jan
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@LadyDuck (156900)
• Switzerland
3 Jan
@jaboUK My brother just called to let me know that we can place her in the family crypt, where my father and his parents already rest. I know how much he wanted to stay near my father. I am glad they gave the authorisation.
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@Corbin5 (105990)
• United States
2 Jan
I am so sorry regarding the passing of your dear mother. My prayers of comfort are coming your way.
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@LadyDuck (156900)
• Switzerland
2 Jan
Thank you Deborah, I surely need a few days to realize that now I am alone.
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@Corbin5 (105990)
• United States
2 Jan
@LadyDuck It will be a hard few days, but thankfully we all love and support you here, and you have your wonderful husband.
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@LadyDuck (156900)
• Switzerland
3 Jan
@Corbin5 You are so right, I am not alone.
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@DianneN (77860)
• United States
2 Jan
I am soooo very very sorry to hear this, Anna. My deepest condolences. One is never prepared enough to lose one's dear mother. My prayers to you and your family who knew and loved her.
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@DianneN (77860)
• United States
2 Jan
@LadyDuck I know it's so sad. I hope your brother is helping you with the arrangements. I said a prayer for your mother. Know that she is at peace now and watching you from heaven. You are in my thoughts at this difficult time.
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@DianneN (77860)
• United States
3 Jan
@LadyDuck My husband and brother took care of everything for both my parents. I'm so like your husband. I'm glad your brother was with you at this dreadfully sad time.
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@DianneN (77860)
• United States
3 Jan
@LadyDuck I will be thinking of you. It's nice when people come to pay their respects to show their thoughtfulness and love for your mother.
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@Kandae11 (36837)
2 Jan
I am sorry that your mother is gone, but she is now free of pain and at peace. I know how painful losing a loved one can be.
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@LadyDuck (156900)
• Switzerland
2 Jan
I only feel better thinking that she is no more in pain and she is now free. The last two months she was not living, she was vegetating.
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@Ganma7 (2829)
4 Jan
@LadyDuck Exactly
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@nanette64 (17610)
• Fairfield, Texas
2 Jan
This is horrible news @LadyDuck . I am so sorry to hear this. @gnatsmom just lost her Dad last night. Good grief. My heart goes out to you Sweetheart.
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@LadyDuck (156900)
• Switzerland
2 Jan
Thank you Nanette, I knew her days were coming to end, but you are never prepared enough.
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@nanette64 (17610)
• Fairfield, Texas
3 Jan
@LadyDuck No we're not.
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@amadeo (65640)
• United States
2 Jan
so sorry Anna.Yes the pain is gone from her.she had a great live there.No more suffering. My sympathy to you and your family.
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@LadyDuck (156900)
• Switzerland
2 Jan
Thank you Alfredo, I refused an invasive therapy, I did not want to see her suffer more. I know she is happy now.
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@rebelann (41193)
• El Paso, Texas
2 Jan
My deepest condolences to you and your family
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@LadyDuck (156900)
• Switzerland
2 Jan
Thank you, when I have seen her the 31st I knew that I would have never seen her alive again. This is something you feel.
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@rebelann (41193)
• El Paso, Texas
2 Jan
You are welcome @LadyDuck and yes, I know what you mean, I lost my mom in Nov 2015
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@LadyDuck (156900)
• Switzerland
2 Jan
@rebelann You are never prepared enough.
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@GardenGerty (99168)
• United States
2 Jan
I am so sorry for your loss. I will pray for you for comfort. I know that you will miss her.
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@LadyDuck (156900)
• Switzerland
3 Jan
At least now she does not suffer anymore, I knew she would have not recovered.
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@marlina (73885)
• Canada
2 Jan
Dear Anna, I am so, so sorry to read the departure of your dear Mama. It is never easy to see a loved one go, I know. My sincere condolences. Thinking of you!
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@LadyDuck (156900)
• Switzerland
2 Jan
Thank you Marlina. I knew since the day she had the stroke that her days were coming to end, but it's hard anyway.
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@PainsOnSlate (20254)
• Canada
3 Jan
I know what its like to lose a parent. No matter how ill, it is still difficult to say Good By. I'm sorry for your loss but like you, glad her pain is over. Big hugs to you during this time of mourning and celebration of life.
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• Canada
3 Jan
@LadyDuck No one is prepared, grieving is healthy and necessary. It doesn't just go away, it makes you live through it. Big hugs during this sad time.
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@LadyDuck (156900)
• Switzerland
3 Jan
@PainsOnSlate This is surely true, you learn to live with your grieve, it takes a bit of time.
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@Ganma7 (2829)
4 Jan
@LadyDuck Of course not. Your heart hurts xxoo
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@hereandthere (30979)
• Philippines
2 Jan
i'm so sorry. we do understand. how is her brother/your uncle?
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• Philippines
2 Jan
@LadyDuck oh, i didn't know. he was younger by 2 years, right? no, i wouldn't tell your mother, either. so the only sibling who is still alive, has he or she been informed already?
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@LadyDuck (156900)
• Switzerland
2 Jan
@hereandthere Yes, her brother was two years younger, the only one who is still alive has been informed, she is 14 years younger, she is the youngest.
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@Tampa_girl7 (25677)
• United States
2 Jan
I am so sorry to hear of your loss dear lady. Hugs and prayers to you
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@LadyDuck (156900)
• Switzerland
2 Jan
Thank you Marie, no matter what we think, we are never prepared to lose our Mom.
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@Tampa_girl7 (25677)
• United States
2 Jan
@LadyDuck very true. I am trying to prepare myself , but I know the pain will be terrible. I will be thinking of you.
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@LeaPea2417 (20346)
• Toccoa, Georgia
2 Jan
I am very sorry , hugs
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@LadyDuck (156900)
• Switzerland
2 Jan
Thank you so much, I still cannot believe she is no more.
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@xFiacre (4415)
• Ireland
2 Jan
@ladyduck I'm so sorry to hear that Anna. You had her for so long that you will surely miss her. Thinking about you.
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@andriaperry (50558)
• United States
2 Jan
I am so sorry for your loss. Hugs
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@LadyDuck (156900)
• Switzerland
3 Jan
Thank you Andria, she had a long and happy life, there was no reason to stay and suffer.
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@thelme55 (14552)
• Germany
2 Jan
My heartfelt condolence to you and your family Anna for your loss. No matter how prepared you are, it is still painful losing someone very dear to your heart. Take care.
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@thelme55 (14552)
• Germany
3 Jan
@LadyDuck be strong Anna. I still hear my father in my sleep. Our loveones are gone but they live in us.
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@LadyDuck (156900)
• Switzerland
4 Jan
@thelme55 I know, my father came to me a few nights ago and put his hand on my head, I was not dreaming, I have felt the pressure of his hand.
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@thelme55 (14552)
• Germany
4 Jan
@LadyDuck it sounds weird but I believe you.
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@Happy2BeMe (74744)
• Canada
2 Jan
I am so sorry for you loss. I will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers and you deal with this great loss. Moms are so special. Take all the time you need but remember we are hear for you if you ever need to talk. Sending lots of love and hugs your way.
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@LadyDuck (156900)
• Switzerland
3 Jan
Thank you so much, talking with all of you is of a great comfort. I would feel alone without my friend here.
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@Happy2BeMe (74744)
• Canada
3 Jan
@LadyDuck When I lost my mom I found talking to others helped.
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@LadyDuck (156900)
• Switzerland
3 Jan
@Happy2BeMe It helps, remembering the nice moments also helps a lot.
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@bluesa (13421)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
3 Jan
Oh no, Anna, I am so very very sorry. May your Mom Rest In Peace. And I wish you strength and comfort @LadyDuck.
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@bluesa (13421)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
3 Jan
@LadyDuck you're in my thoughts and prayers
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@LadyDuck (156900)
• Switzerland
3 Jan
@bluesa Thank you, you are so kind.
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@bluesa (13421)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
6 Jan
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