Close to giving up but what would that accomplish?

United States
January 6, 2018 8:53pm CST
So, today my mom was sending weird messages. They probably wouldn't seem weird to other people but if you read one of my previous posts, you would know that my mom left and married a guy that hates me and has since had very little to do with me, as her husband hates my guts. Anyways, she sent me a text today asking if I was okay and asked if I was working tonight. I'm always working on saturdays. They are my one night shift a week. Then I asked her why she was sending me weird questions and she replied that she's thinking about going to see a counselor because she has no one that can be objective about the things she needs to talk about. She says she can't talk to me about her husband because I'm never on his side. Um, I thought being her child meant that I was always on her side even if she was in the wrong. (she hasn't been. she just married a guy that acts like a child.) Then she said that she knows she did all of us wrong by leaving and getting married so soon after leaving. I told her there is still time to change how strained things are between us. We've been reaching out to both of them, her and her husband, about getting together and doing stuff but he refuses. Mostly because I'm involved so I told her that I will step away. If he is okay coming to visit my sister and her kids then I will remove myself from the picture to make it easier for everyone. She tells me that would make it worse. So, now what do I do? Do I give up and say whatever happens, happens? I'm just so tired of being the one to try and be the better person. My life is the same as it's been since before she moved out except that I dont see her as often as I did when she lived with me. Anyways, thank you for letting me vent lol. And thank you in advance to anyone that comments on this post.
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@Plethos (10975)
• United States
7 Jan
What? She cant just see you by herself? There is a similar problem in my gf's family with a niece of hers.
• United States
7 Jan
Her husband hates me. Says it's because I know his parole officer and if he does something he's not supposed to, I could possibly turn him in. I told them both if I was going to do something like that, I would've done it already cuz he's constantly driving my mom's car (which was stolen twice by his family members) and he doesn't have a driver's license due to have multiple DUIs
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@Plethos (10975)
• United States
7 Jan
@CountryGirl31 - hes a jackass.
@Plethos (10975)
• United States
7 Jan
@CountryGirl31 - sounds like those two deserve each other. Ask her what her favorite flower is, when she says why, tell her its so youll know what to place at her grave. Just keep inviting her to family events, up to her if she chooses to attend, she cant say you didnt invite.
@andriaperry (59003)
• Anniston, Alabama
7 Jan
I wuld wait and let her do whatever she intends to do. I do not see why you cannot have a daughter mom day.
• United States
7 Jan
Honestly, I've tried to schedule stuff but it's like she has to ask for his permission to even see me. Next Saturday, I'm going and getting my nails done with my daughter, a friend and her daughter. I'm thinking about asking her if she wants to go but she will probably say no.
@snowy22315 (52927)
• United States
7 Jan
I guess I would just take a wait and see attitude.
• United States
7 Jan
I know it probably sounds bad but I'm not going to change my life as it is. It's winter so I'm always home if i'm not at work. People know where to find me if they need me lol. Should I have anything fun come up that I think my mom might like, I may possibly invite her to it but I dont know. I mean, how many times can you invite someone to do something with you for them to shoot you down? How many times until you give up?