What if you...

@wildguy2 (1349)
Canada
November 27, 2006 11:53am CST
Do you think you could survive if tomorrow morning you woke up and everything was gone, your job, your house, vehicle, no money, the only thing you have left is your family...what would be the first thing you would do. This happened to me once..and I actually made it back better than what I was before.... Your thoughts about how you would handle this...
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@ossie16d (11827)
• Australia
21 Dec 06
It would certainly test the strength of character and many people just could not cope. For me, if my family was safe and healthy, then I could cope okay. We were in a similar situation many years ago when we had to sell our farm because of my husband's health. He had not been well for some time but we always hoped he would get better, so didn't sell and the farm detiorated and after a couple of years we felt that we had to sell. We had enough money to pay off our debts but not much left over but still it was a real struggle. The worst thing we did was delay selling because once the farm had been sold, although we had not much money, my husband's health improved. Not quite as bad as your situation but then again we were much older than you are now, and our chances of ever recovering financially were limited. However, it was a valuable lesson to us that we should never take anything for granted. With reasonable health, or at least heaps better than it was at the time we sold the farm, we are happily settled into a nomadic lifestyle without pressure or stress. How would I handle it if I were in your situation is to talk to my family, accept advice, support and assistance from them and special friends I could trust. Then work to a strict budget and get my life back on track, but not repeat the mistakes that put me in the situation in the first place. Congratulations on pulling yourself up and making a good life for yourself now. :)
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@wildguy2 (1349)
• Canada
22 Dec 06
It was a hard fought battle back up, and like you said, we really had to sit down and take a look at what happened, where we went wrong and how we were going to get back...we started by finding the culprit and that happened to be some past due bills that the collection got hold of....we then started powering down on them, we really had to go with out for a long time, but once we got those out of the way then it was time to restart building our lives, and we have been doing so ever since.
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@ossie16d (11827)
• Australia
23 Dec 06
Congratulations on sorting this out and I am sure that it made you more aware of just how important family are. At least you did get on top of things and I am sure learnt a valuable, if somewhat expensive, lesson from the experience. Good luck to you wildguy. I have given you a positive (+) rating for this discussion.
@BittyBiddy (2903)
• Ireland
19 Dec 06
I'd probably knock on my mother's door (again) and look for accommodation for a while. Then I'd try to get out and get another job and start all over again.
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@wildguy2 (1349)
• Canada
19 Dec 06
Thank goodness for family, that was about the only thing that kept me going in my time of trouble.
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• Ireland
19 Dec 06
It's great that your family were there for you. My parents have helped me out so many times that I'll never be able to repay them enough. They're the best!
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@wildguy2 (1349)
• Canada
20 Dec 06
My father and brothers are always there when I need them, and they are also there when I don't, they are forever, especially my father asking me if I need any money, even though I have come along way since that incident...I often see him going short on money all the time, and he won't let me help him, nor will he ask...he grew up in the time when pride was above all else.
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• Singapore
28 Nov 06
Wow! Good question!! i guess, i kinda take everything for granted that this never crossed my mind at all...i guess the first thing i will do is to bring my family to a relative or a close friend house for shelter first. Then try to find a new job so that i will have money. btw, what happened to you?
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@wildguy2 (1349)
• Canada
28 Nov 06
I lost my job and everthing just snowballed from there, bills got behind and tehy started taking everything I had...went into serious debt...took me 7 years but I am finally back on my feet and doing better than ever...but it was definately a life lesson..and that is never take anything for granted and be prepared for anything.
• Singapore
19 Dec 06
Thanks for the best response!
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• India
21 Dec 06
interesting... it has never happened to me before, and i hope it never does... i guess i would be thankful that i still have what is really valuable. i am sure to be depressed, and sore for a while, but that is something you can get over, losing your family or friends is something that you cant.
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@wildguy2 (1349)
• Canada
21 Dec 06
In my experience getting depressed was the hardest part of getting back on my feet, people were telling me to look at the bright side...I didn't see a bright side at all...once I sat down and told myself that if I don't snap outta this I am going to lose EVERYTHING including the family...that brought me around real quick...stress and derpession were definately my 2 worst enemies.
@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
21 Dec 06
Both my mum and dad have always said to me that there is always a home for me with them and if I ever needed them in any way I only have to call. That's love and compassion for you. It would actually work out positive for me, because it would be a clean start, a clean slate in life, to start again and put the past behind me, it would be the kick I needed to start something new, do something new and make big changes that I couldn't do previously, after all if I had nothing, I would have nothing to lose!
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@wildguy2 (1349)
• Canada
21 Dec 06
You know, sometimes that is exactly what you have to do...clean your slate and start over, find all the reasons that got you into trouble in the first place, if it is bad friends giving bad advice then find new better friends that have great advice to share. I have had to do this before, disconnect from people that I thought were my friends, once I realized that they were going down and taking me with them.
@gabs8513 (48712)
• United Kingdom
20 Dec 06
Yes I would and I have, fortunatly I still had my House just and it has been a long and hard fight to keep it but yes I would carry on as I still have my Family and I did carry on It is still very tough now but I have got this far so will get further lol
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@wildguy2 (1349)
• Canada
21 Dec 06
Very nice to hear that you cannot be brought down easily, I commend your fight, and hope you will keep your chin up and continue to step forward.
@pvleroux (607)
20 Dec 06
I belief it is possible and there is always a reason why things happen to you. As you said, you most probably did not go and cry about it but stood up and carried on with life and that is why you succeeded.
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@wildguy2 (1349)
• Canada
21 Dec 06
In my life I have had so many bad things thrown at me that a lot of people I know cannot figure why I even get up in the morning...but I just tell them, that these things only make you stronger in mind and heart..gives you a new look on life and makes you value every person an possesion you have a lot more.
@stailgate (2363)
• United States
20 Dec 06
I think that as long as I had my family, I would be okay. That is all that really matters, all else is just possecions. Things that you can replace. Family is all that matters.
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@wildguy2 (1349)
• Canada
21 Dec 06
Yes that is all that matters...and sometimes you don't even realize how much until you are faced with a problem you cannot conquer yourself.
@gbabee (133)
• United States
20 Dec 06
That was a good question. It really gave me something to think about. All you need in life really is God and to pray. I believe that if you believe in him and if you do what you are supposed to do, then everything will work out for you. I'm glad that you made it back to better than before. Maybe that was just some kind of wake up call from God for you to straighten your life out and to do better. We all go through similiar things like that but its not the end of the world. Good Luck!!!
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@wildguy2 (1349)
• Canada
21 Dec 06
This was definately a wake up call...it told me to be prepared for anything, cause you just never know what life will throw at you. Life is just full of obstacles and you really never think about them until one gets so big that you really have to stop, take a step back and have a look at your life and say OK I will definately not let that happen again.
@ladyhawke (118)
• Macau
28 Nov 06
waking up and discovered you are totally alone without your family but you still have your job, house, etc. is scarier. family comes first, right? when something bad happened, isn't it the first people we call is our family? no matter how hard life hit you but when you know that you still have a family around, you can still survive and somehow relieve...but being alone..it's really sucks!
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@wildguy2 (1349)
• Canada
28 Nov 06
That is very true....That is definately one of the things I fear as well...the thoughts of being alone.
@birthlady (5613)
• United States
7 Jan 07
This actually happened to me, add that I lost my physical health (accident on the job) and my family became divided.
@wildguy2 (1349)
• Canada
7 Jan 07
That is sad to hear, has everything gotten back to normal again?
@Asylum (48152)
• Manchester, England
23 Dec 06
I doubt if this is ever likely to happen to me now because I have a steady income and I can budget well enough to avoid major problems occurring. Nevertheless, it is a good question to consider. I do believe that I have sufficient presence of mind to be able to cope with such a situation. The main target would be to find somewhere to live and employment, in which case any level of employment would be acceptable in order to generate an income to make some financial headway. I have seen friends in this situation before, and I am always impressed with someone who can cope well enough to accept life as it really is rather than just give up and blame society.
@wildguy2 (1349)
• Canada
23 Dec 06
When this situation happened to me I had fulltime employment as well, went to work one morning and it was gone...but unlike you I unfortunately didn't have much in savings and a lot of bills, so before I got back to another job, everything just went all to pieces, I got so far behind that I lost everything... but I did manage to get back to a good life again, with a lot of good friends and my family to help along the way.
@pumpkinjam (6123)
• United Kingdom
23 Dec 06
Yes I think I could. I have no job, no vehicle and no money anyway so I wouldn't be losing a lot! And I have lost my home before. I had my family to go to and plenty of people to help out. I think as long as you have people who care about you whether they are family or friends, you can cope with any situation.
@wildguy2 (1349)
• Canada
23 Dec 06
Family and friends are a definate need when you have times like that, it is good to know someone has your back when times get rough.
@oldboy46 (2132)
• Australia
9 Feb 07
A good point and one I hadn't thought about much in recent years ..... something similar happened to me several years ago when the ex-wife and I split up. Suddenly homeless ..... but luckily away truck driving all week but weekends spend on sofa with mother who lived in retirement village. Could only be there for 6 weeks at a time .... those were the rules .... so after the 6 weeks, would drive the truck to Queensland with a load spend the weekend there or pick up load and detour to brother's place for 2 days then deliver load when place opened on Mondays ...... after a few weeks of doing this, back to mother's place for another 6 weekends. Wife booked up all these bills ...... paying that plus half all house payments etc meant things very tight .... I managed but it was hard ..... took on extra trips just for the money. Then met my current partner who started to sort it all out ..... only maintenance for girls to ex-wife ...... got solicitor to put house on market and just held out on settlement ...... hard time because partner and I had bought our small farm. Now quite the same as ended up with something ..... after about 3 years but struggled financially through those times ..... thankfully had partner, brother and sister-in-law to help out when needed.