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January 12, 2018 8:10am CST
As I was checking my FB newsfeed, a friend posted something which caught my attention. She’s looking for a lawyer or maybe someone who knows a lawyer who can give her advice on what to do about the father of her baby who has stopped giving monthly support. This got me into thinking. A man who really wants to be a father to his child, regardless of what happened between him and his partner, doesn’t need forceful legal action to do his responsibility. He would man up and do his obligation because that’s what he’s supposed to do. My sister is a single mom who used to beg and plead monetary help from her ex. It was downright degrading, begging that is, for something that your child rightfully owns. I remember lambasting the spineless good-for-nothing a hate mail when my nephew was hospitalized and he didn’t even pay a visit. But that was the past and my sister has moved on, worked doubly hard for her and her son. I just wonder if her ex could sleep fitfully at night. PS. It’s my first time to commit an error in posting a discussion. I got this error: cannot post. Fix bad words. And I’m still seething. Lol
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13 Jan 18
When did this happened? She should have consulted the Tulfo brothers for that, I've seen some of his shows about single moms asking for that kind of help. It's better off if the kid would learn to live his life and wouldn't think about his Father anymore. Honestly, She doesn't need that man, she can do it as long as the child is with her that is even more important. PS: I remember my mom doing similar thing, now she's happy and free because we have a business to run.
13 Jan 18
lots of man like that, they wouldnt bother giving money support anymroe because its likely they have another family. and filling a case is risky, the other party will fight as well right., we dont know whats on their mind. its an option for a girl to be strong and look for any sort of income she can get to supply her childs needs
Some males are like that, they like to punish the mother of their children in whatever way they thought fit. Not helping with child support is just one way. Good men don't do that, but then good men stick to their wives and children to the end, caring for them, protecting them. (unless it was the women who walked away from the marriage due to selfishness, we see that every now and then!)
• Aurora, Missouri
The only advice an attorney can give your friend is to take the deadbeat father back to court. Your friend could also contact her state's version of Family and Child Services. Family and Child Services will (sometimes) file against the father for the mother and kids, which keeps the mother from having to pay some of the attorney fees. Did you know that a man who is awarded child support is less likely to receive it than a woman who is awarded child support?
19 Jan 18
This really is unfortunate.Here too we come across men like that.Some go to court,which is a very time consuming process.Some just stop asking/begging.They find some jobs and try to survive.And the father of the child just marries again and lives happily.
• United States
13 Jan 18
How sad the father never helped with the child. In cases like this it is the fathers loss. My boyfriends sons ex does not pay support for her son and rarely ever bothers to try to see him. She just keeps having kids and losing custody of them it's horrible!