The words "I love you"
By The Horse
Walnut Creek, California
January 24, 2018 6:38pm CST
I love hearing those words. There's a kid at the preschool who I "get" better than most for some reason. She's 3 1/2 and just a tad OCD. Things have to be "a certain way" for her and I've figured out those ways. Today, she dropped an "I love you, Horse" on me, and my heart melted just a bit. I think it was when I tucked her in for nap time (in just the right way, of course). I said "I love you too." That got me to thinking about who else I use those words with. There's my brother, two buddies, my 94-year-old Auntie, and a small handful of others. They are words that are wonderful to hear, and wonderful to say, but shouldn't be used too casually, in my opinion. Do you get to hear/use those words often? Are there times when you've heard or said those words, and were not sure whether it was the right thing?
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• East Tawas, Michigan
My daughter and son are very loving adults. They always remember to reassure me, with these words I so desperately need to hear. Of course, I confirm my love for them, in return. Aubrey our six year old granddaughter is very verbal, she never forgets to tell us how much she loves us. As you said, it melts my heart!
• Winston Salem, North Carolina
@TheHorse He really doesn't look like the type. If it's any consolation Emmett has never told me he loves me either (he is currently only allowed to interact on discussions that he starts himself--I don't trust him).
• Bunbury, Australia
@TheHorse No, not straight out like that. I think they'd look at me very strangely if I did. However, I could easily say something like 'how lovely to see you' but that's about it. And I might end letters or emails with 'love, Judy'.
• United States
We use those three words within the family all the time . . . Hubby, kids, and I. Other than that, I don't really ever say that . . . my own family never says that to each other (maybe it's an old-style Japanese thing). Like you said, it shouldn't be used casually . . . sometimes a not-close friend might say that just to say it, but it's weird and I can't get myself to say it back . . . I just say "oh that's so sweet". I couldn't tell a person I love them unless I really love them!
The only human being I tell those words as often as I can is my son. And I mean it with all of my heart and soul. I have never ever done that to anybody at all not even my parents when they were still alive. But among my parents' children, I was the only one who would write them notes out of the blue and tell them I love them.
We have two different way in Italian to say "I love you", one is for your husband/boyfriend/lover, the other is for all those you love, friends, brothers, sisters, family. I say "I love you" to my husband every day and I hear the same from him.
@TheHorse In French is like in English, they also have the phrase "Je t'aime" in Italy we say "ti amo" to your husband/lover/partner and "ti voglio bene" to all the others. Our English teacher used to say that only in Italy we have this subtle difference.
@TheHorse Because she doesn't say what's in her heart. People make her hate me. She has been chatting to everyone and people advice her bad about me. I know this because one night I was staying at her place and I overheard her conversation with her friend. Since it was on loud speaker I was able to hear everything. Her friend was telling her. You don't need your daughter. You have to be selfish now. She is married. You need to live your life and stop talking and thinking about her. She has her husband to love her. Ever since my mother kept getting away from me by emotions. Once I called my mom and told her I was sick and I wanted to see her. She said your tears has no effects on me anymore. And why should I come to see you. You have your husband to look after you. I am not coming. :'(