Retirement, Not What I Pictured

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@HazySue (22594)
United States
January 29, 2018 12:58pm CST
Years ago when I stitched this little piece I had an entirely different idea about retirement. I thought this little saying was funny but inaccurate. In my mind retirement was days of leisure each person doing their own thing. In my case it just isn't so. I find myself joined at the hips at times with my husband. I thought we would each have our own hobbies and would be able to do things separately and together that we had always wanted to do. Again, not so. We have not had the leisure time to enjoy hobbies and find that we are busier now than we were when we both worked full time. Go figure. Who ever said that retirement was boring was wrong, at least i
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@LeaPea2417 (21622)
• Toccoa, Georgia
29 Jan
What are the things that you two do that keep you busy?
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@HazySue (22594)
• United States
6 Mar
I took care of my mother, she passed away, we are getting ready to sell one of our homes. I have been in and out of the hospital with an operation, heart attack, and stroke. Hurricane Irma hit us so we did a lot of clean up, well the hubby actually did. My youngest an oldest daughter each had a baby. My youngest daughter had a heart attack after giving birth.
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@vandana7 (66871)
• India
6 Mar
@HazySue How come you did not think of all those possibilities..
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@HazySue (22594)
• United States
6 Mar
@vandana7 I never expected everything to happen so closely.
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@just4him (124348)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
29 Jan
That's what I found too. I'm much busier than when I was working. The good thing about it is it's on my time, not someone else's. Though I don't have a husband, the rest is certainly true.
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@HazySue (22594)
• United States
6 Mar
The best part of retirement is getting to do things on your own time. You know what I mean about retirement not being as laid back as imagined. It seems that everything all of the sudden needs your attention.
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@just4him (124348)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
6 Mar
@HazySue Yes, I do know what you mean. I was never so busy as when I retired. But it's a good busy because I'm doing what I want to do, not what someone is telling me I need to do. Lot more fun that way. And you can take a day off if you want.
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@HazySue (22594)
• United States
6 Mar
@just4him I am getting into the swing of retirement now. It is wonderful to do pretty much what you want to do instead of what you have to do.
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@rebelann (42511)
• El Paso, Texas
29 Jan
No, retirement is not boring unless you make it so. Don't the two of you enjoy at least a few hobbies together?
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@HazySue (22594)
• United States
6 Mar
We do. We have been finally settling down to retirement. It is getting easier and more peaceful. Right now wwe are planning a design for a mosaic table to put in our gazebo.
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@rebelann (42511)
• El Paso, Texas
7 Mar
I never gave it any thought before I actually retired @HazySue I sure didn't expect to retire to take care of mom, that was 8 years ago. Now I'm happy as a lark to be free from bosses and work schedules
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@HazySue (22594)
• United States
7 Mar
@rebelann I was taken by surprise by all the things that happened after I retired. They seemed to take over my life.
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@Corbin5 (113412)
• United States
29 Jan
I forgot to figure in the care of my elderly Dad into our retirement. For 6 years, we have been stuck and cannot go anywhere. We tried once, but were called back to handle another medical emergency regarding Dad. We planned to stay a month in FL, but nope, only 4 days and back to our Chicago suburb we had to come. Many retirees are in the same position we are, so we will continue to care for Dad and stay put.
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@HazySue (22594)
• United States
6 Mar
We no longer have parents to take care of. When we did it did keep us stuck in one spot and super busy. I can understand what you are going through.
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@Corbin5 (113412)
• United States
6 Mar
@HazySue First Mom and now Dad. sis and I have been doing this for 18 years.
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@HazySue (22594)
• United States
6 Mar
@Corbin5 I was my father's caregiver for a while because my mother couldn't cope with it. Then I got a break for a few years then I was my mother's caregiver. It is hard, my heart goes out to you and your sister.
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@sprite1950 (14498)
• Corsham, England
19 Mar
I love that picture. Retirement wasn't what I expected either. I looked forward to having complete freedom to do what I wanted but instead I was asked to take on custody of my granddaughter, I love her and wouldn't have it any other way but I sometimes envy people who can do as they wish and are not tied down at all.
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@HazySue (22594)
• United States
21 Mar
I stitched that saying almost 20 years ago when a friend was retiring. I have a friend who is now taking care of two of her grandchildren now that she is retired. I am pretty sure I don't have the energy to raise kids these days.
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@sprite1950 (14498)
• Corsham, England
21 Mar
@HazySue well luckily my health is good but she's 11 now and l'm not looking forward to the teenage years. How clever of you to stitch that yourself
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@HazySue (22594)
• United States
22 Mar
@sprite1950 teenage years are tough. She is lucky she has you.
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@moffittjc (44697)
• Gainesville, Florida
31 Jan
There are just so many exciting things retirees can do these days, that it's almost impossible to not be able to find something to keep you busy. We live in exciting times, with many exciting things going on!
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@HazySue (22594)
• United States
6 Mar
I agree. It is the time to do all the things you always wanted to do. Now that life is settling down around us we are finding the time to spend doing a little of this and a little of that.
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@moffittjc (44697)
• Gainesville, Florida
7 Mar
@HazySue I already have quite a bucket list going with all the things I want to do when I retire.
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@HazySue (22594)
• United States
8 Mar
@moffittjc so did we. Finally I will be able to get started on whittling that list down.
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@LadyDuck (171373)
• Switzerland
30 Jan
I agree that retirement is no boring at all.
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@HazySue (22594)
• United States
6 Mar
I believe that life is what you make of it. I am not the type to be bored. There are so many things to do.
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@LadyDuck (171373)
• Switzerland
6 Mar
@HazySue I think I have never been bored in all my life.
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@HazySue (22594)
• United States
6 Mar
@LadyDuck I don't remember ever being bored. I think when your mind is so full you don't have room for boredom.
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@dodo19 (33320)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
29 Jan
Sometimes, the way we imagine something isn't quite accurate. Things don't always go the way we expect them to go.
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@HazySue (22594)
• United States
6 Mar
Isn't that the truth. We are starting to adjust things for more me time.
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@dodo19 (33320)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
6 Mar
@HazySue That's good to hear. Glad that you guys are starting to adjust.
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@HazySue (22594)
• United States
6 Mar
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@Hannihar (40243)
30 Jan
I am still working and who knows if I will ever be able to retire.
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@HazySue (22594)
• United States
6 Mar
Some day you will be able to join the ranks of the retired. I find myself so glad that I have been able to reach retirement. I am now starting to look forward to doing what I would like to do.
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@Hannihar (40243)
7 Mar
@HazySue I am glad for you Susan, but, I do not see that happening to me. I would love to but I really need to make extra money for us.
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@Courtlynn (55714)
• United States
30 Jan
Aw. Sorry its not how you thought it would be.
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@HazySue (22594)
• United States
6 Mar
Believe it or not, about a week after I wrote this post I finally started relaxing. I am starting to learn how to say no and do for myself.
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@Courtlynn (55714)
• United States
6 Mar
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@toniganzon (53259)
• Philippines
29 Jan
This changed my mind about retirement. I'm afraid that someday, when that comes, I won't be busy. I like being busy and I think my brain's gonna stop working when I'm not doing anything.
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@HazySue (22594)
• United States
6 Mar
I have always been a busy person. I think that retirement is what you make of it. It can be busy or it can be boring.
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@toniganzon (53259)
• Philippines
6 Mar
@HazySue True but I can't be busy with household work or those things. but I don't think I'll ever retire anyway.
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@JudyEv (130701)
• Bunbury, Australia
29 Jan
Certainly we are really busy at times but we also have days when there is not much on. And I guess we do do most things together.
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@HazySue (22594)
• United States
6 Mar
So do we. Right now we are planning a mosaic design for a table top for our gazebo.
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@JudyEv (130701)
• Bunbury, Australia
7 Mar
@HazySue I'm sure you'll enjoy doing that.
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@BabeSays (4517)
• Mauritius
29 Jan
Retirement is when you have those kids days. Government gives you pocket money and you live your dreams.
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@HazySue (22594)
• United States
6 Mar
We are starting to do all the things that we have wanted to do but never could. As soon as we finish fixing the house we will be selling we will be free and easy.
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@BabeSays (4517)
• Mauritius
8 Mar
@HazySue Glad to hear that my dear.
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@id_peace (7629)
• Singapore
20 Mar
At least you have a meaningful retirement
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@HazySue (22594)
• United States
21 Mar
I have a busy retirement for sure.
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@UncleJoe (10644)
• Virginia Beach, Virginia
10 Mar
Although I'm retired, I'm mostly just tired.
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@HazySue (22594)
• United States
15 Mar
By the time we do retire the only thing we have energy to do is be tired.
@renicemae (3470)
• Philippines
5 Mar
Hmmm. Maybe you're both busy taking care of your grand childrens? Or animals? or gardening?
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@HazySue (22594)
• United States
6 Mar
Not taking care of grandchildren but we are still busy. We have been running back and forth between here and Inverness getting our other house ready to sell, among other things.
@mom210 (6779)
• Atlanta, Georgia
30 Jan
I think it must depend on the person. I used to picture myself as being bored, but since my life just never slows down, I am going to assume it will be that way when all the kids are gone and I am retired.
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@HazySue (22594)
• United States
6 Mar
My life has always been filled with obligations and work. I am finally starting to get the hang of retirement and relaxing. We are both starting to enjoy doing the things we have talked about and been unable to do.
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@marlina (76765)
• Canada
29 Jan
You should consider rethinking your new life.
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@HazySue (22594)
• United States
6 Mar
I am learning to say no. I am trying to do more for myself. We are adjusting now to a more peaceful time.
@sugartoes (42026)
• Greencastle, Indiana
29 Jan
ha ha ha well it's not too late to flip that around if you really thought about it how is it said you can do a lot if your willing to change your thoughts about it. We're both retired & do JUST that, though the $ isn't right but we seem to manage we each have our own place we're not stuck at the hips & we have our own things we do.
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@HazySue (22594)
• United States
6 Mar
We do things together and apart fro m each other. It has been life around us that has been so chaotic. We have learned a lot in the last month about doing for ourselves.
@Kandae11 (40406)
29 Jan
Retirement means you can now do all the things you put off doing or did less of during your working years.
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@HazySue (22594)
• United States
6 Mar
I am so looking forward to being free to do those things. Just a little more time and I believe we will be.
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