I'm happiest single...

United States
January 31, 2018 11:57pm CST
"Knowing I can sleep well not worried about being cheated on." I see this meme a lot and it just makes me laugh because I have never lost sleep worrying about my boyfriend cheating on me. I have never had that issue. And if for a second I assumed he is cheating the relationship is over. I don't lose sleep over his mistake. I think we should all be happy regardless of our relationship status. When I was single I was never worried about finding someone, I was worried about having a good time. If you have been single for while and chose you be that way, great! If you are single and looking, relax, someone will come along :) just don't settle for someone you think you'll lose sleep over cuz you can't trust them
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@mydanods (6514)
• Nigeria
1 Feb 18
Good advice Tacia. I'm single and happy. I wouldn't allow myself to lose sleep over anyone. Cheaters will eventually be caught; that's my philosophy. I do my best to be faithful and loyal.
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@mydanods (6514)
• Nigeria
1 Feb 18
@nife2018 but I don't cheat! So you can find non-cheaters. You just have to look very well. They exist.
• United States
1 Feb 18
I agree cheaters, liars, or any other deceitful action will uncover itself eventually. Im glad to hear you are happy now. And if you do find someone, as long as you're honest and faithful and happy with yourself, you will have a good relationship.
• United States
1 Feb 18
@nife2018 Not everyone is a cheater. You can find faithful people. I can't explain why people cheat. It is a disgusting action indeed. The best you can do is not worry about finding someone enjoy your life, take your time when you do find someone, discuss everything before getting involved, and when you are ina relationship give it your all whole remaining happy with yourself.
@toniganzon (72317)
• Philippines
1 Feb 18
That's the right thinking. Never settle for anybody not worth wasting your time on. I have met people who were desperate to have a boyfriend and when they did they settled for a not so good one and ended up broken hearted. I think we have to be wise when entering into a relationship.
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@toniganzon (72317)
• Philippines
1 Feb 18
@nife2018 Right. People should learn how to be patient in all things. Everything will come into place at the right moment.
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@toniganzon (72317)
• Philippines
2 Feb 18
@taciaelisepeace Yeah but not all people do. I never have problems with my relationship.
• United States
1 Feb 18
I have a lot of friends who do this and are always unhappy. It doesn't hurt to give someone a chance but take it slow. Before every relationship I've had which is very few, I always had a trial period. We would spend 1-3 months getting to know each other, having fun, and really discussing what we both want in a relationship. I think if more people take their time they will end up happier.
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@zebra2222 (5269)
• United States
2 Feb 18
I've been married for 35 years. You shouldn't get married unless you really feel comfortable in your relationship and have great communications together.
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• United States
3 Feb 18
That is amazing! Congrats and I wish you several more. I completely agree with you communication is #1 but definitely followed by understanding and trust. I think, and correct me if I am wrong since you have more experience, but I think couples last because they don't continue to fight over the same things.
@mythociate (21438)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
3 Feb 18
Right. I'm single-and-... not "happy," but not "looking" either. Partly because I'm 'believing my wife-to-be will find me anyway' (I asked my godfather 'How he & my godmother got married,' he just replied, "She asked me, and I said 'Yes!'" Oh, maybe he took her out on lotsa dates and they spent time together until he 'wore her down'; but he didn't tell me any of that!) But mostly 'I'm not looking' because my Traumatic-Brain-Injury make me unable to hold a job, which I would need to have to be able to get anywhere (in this automobile-salesperson-designed town, where--rather than 'distributing the places you need to go evenly throughout the neighborhoods'--the locate 'all the stores' and 'all the shopping' and 'all the residences' etc. in different 'areas' ) Anyway; the way I see it, a married-couple is 'a team'---sometimes you're the star, but sometimes (probably more-often) you're supporting someone else as the star ... and not even "for your own good."
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• United States
5 Feb 18
Well I hope you find what makes you happy. I think that is more important. I can see how career can be of more importance too. If its not I can see why that may make someone not want to look for someone at the moment. Some married couples operate that way. Some don't. My grandparents have been married 60+ years and have both been stars. Both worked for what they wanted and both make each others lives important. I can say the same for my relationship too. Neither of us are living in the others shadow.
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• Philippines
1 Feb 18
Yeah I've been single most of the time now. Though sometimes I feel the need of having a companion but then people change. It's rare people get to have a happily ever after. Though it's normal couples fight but its the hard times that test the relationship. When I see couples get cheated on and stripped of their hard earned money and their custody of their children, makes me think twice about marriage.
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• Philippines
1 Feb 18
@taciaelisepeace well, the guys mostly ends up loosing everything. I'm just not optimistic these days.
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• United States
1 Feb 18
There is nothing wrong with wanting a companion, that can be beneficial too. I think you should just make sure you are happy with yourself too. I agree with you. Divorce is such a popular thing they days. One disagreement and its a huge messy battle over kids, money, and other things I have seen too many times where one person ends up with nothing while the other gets everything. That is what scares me about marriage too.
• United States
3 Feb 18
@Letranknight2015 I've seen it both ways.
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• Canada
1 Feb 18
People definitely will come into your life when you least expect it! I've learned that. I used to think the same way. I had to deal with a lot of cheaters, and figured being alone can help me not have to worry about that. Which it did..but I at times got lonely. I waited for love though, if it was meant to be than it would come. For me it did. Anyone who cheats is not worth anyones sadness. NEXT!!
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• United States
1 Feb 18
They really do! Literally every long term relationship I had was very unexpected, and we took our time. And I agree, why waste your time being unhappy over someone who couldn't appreciate you? Same goes with friendships in general. If they screwed you over, their loss, I'm out!
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• Canada
1 Feb 18
@taciaelisepeace I have the same mind set as you. Not gonna waste my time there! Good way of thinking!!
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
1 Feb 18
Glad to know that you are strong enough to forget the bad things in life. It is not easy to forgive a person who cheats after getting high trust. I have seen the ordeals in a friend who was happy married and later realized the cheating story. It is really horrible to get cheated with a person to whom give love and trust the most.
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• United States
1 Feb 18
Although I have never been cheated on I agree that is a really hurtful thing for someone to do. I think it it ever did happen it would be hard to move on but it is important to forgive and know that it is not your fault, it is theirs.
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
1 Feb 18
I am 63 and have a history of choosing the wrong men. I'm now happily single with no plans to get involved ever again. It would probably take a million dollars worth of therapy to find out why I make the choices I do so rather than throw good money away I'll be happy by myself. My older sister is the same way. I have always thought that if you need someone to complete you, you have a lot of work to do. At this point in my life I am complete by myself and I consider that a great accomplishment!
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• United States
1 Feb 18
That is really good to hear that you complete yourself. I don't think you should waste money you figure out what's wrong or right. As long as you know that you should be fine. I think you should know yourself and make sure you can take care of yourself before getting involved with someone else. Relying on someone else to any of those things is dangerous because once they're gone, you will be miserable.
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@1hopefulman (45125)
• Canada
1 Feb 18
Right now, I am also single and pretty happy. Being alone does also have it's advantages as I can go to sleep when I want and get up when I want.
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• United States
1 Feb 18
That is good to hear that you are happy single. I can sleep and wake up when I want you some extent. My daughter is usually the reason I have to wake up earlier than I want haha.
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@yanzalong (18988)
• Indonesia
1 Feb 18
I am married. Sometimes my mind travels back to the period when I was still single. I am very sorry I should have done something then. Now , I just feel if I could go back to fix it up.
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• United States
1 Feb 18
It would be nice to go back and change the past. But we just have to learn from it to better our future. Look at how you can be happy now :)
• China
1 Feb 18
Sometimes, I really enjoy the single life.
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• United States
1 Feb 18
I think there are enjoyable aspects of relationship statuses :) when I was single, I always looked for ways to have fun.