Bench Hogs
@arthurchappell (45002)
Preston, England
February 4, 2018 5:14am CST
There are many incredibly selfish and inconsiderate people in the world. I seem doomed to meet each and every one of them personally.
It is bad enough that some people won’t vacate a seat for a pregnant lady, a one legged individual, or an elderly person carrying a lot of heavy shopping.
I have seen people eople who take a seat on a bench built for three and expect to keep it just to themselves really annoy me. You see a man or woman sit on a bench and fill the remaining space with shopping bags, expecting anyone else to stand up. Many people in fact do stand around them reluctant to ask them to let someone else sit down as well.
I often walk up and ask politely but insistently for bags to be moved aside to enable me to sit down. This is usually done with a begrudging stare, and sometimes the bench-hog will get up and move off with said baggage as if deeply offended to seek another place to let their bags sit down.
Such people also take over a bus seat for two by sitting as close to the outer edge of the seat as possible in the hope that no other passenger will dare ask them to move in and enable others to sit down too. I have seen people stand up right through a journey rather than ask them to move aside. I always stride right up and insist that they do move in. They glare at me as if it is the end of the World, but do reluctantly move aside, tutting and glaring at me as they do so.
Arthur Chappell
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19 responses
@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
4 Feb 18
@jaboUK that i good - if they are happy to move their things, no problem. I sometimes put my bag next to me on benches and train seats but I move them as soon as other passengers embark and approach
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
4 Feb 18
cintol if other seats are free I'll take those but if I need to I will get them to move their things away
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@asfarasiknow (3341)
• Bournemouth, England
19 Feb 18
We'd all love a double seat (like in the Ben Elton stand up routine from the 80s) but it's not always possible (well, not unless they introduce quadruple-decker buses and change all the routes involving bridges).
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
19 Feb 18
@asfarasiknow yes it is nice when there are fewer passengers and therefore seats to spare
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@asfarasiknow (3341)
• Bournemouth, England
19 Feb 18
@arthurchappell My local council recently put metal bars down the middle of benches in public parks to deter homeless people from sleeping on them. They changed their minds after a public outcry.
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
19 Feb 18
@asfarasiknow nice that the public raised objections - I am happy for homeless people to take the benches
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@teamfreak16 (43421)
• Denver, Colorado
7 Feb 18
I always offer my seat to the very people you describe at the bus stop and such.
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
9 Feb 18
@kavinitu yes there are rude people everywhere
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@scarlet_woman (23465)
• United States
5 Feb 18
i usually don't bother.in this town,somebody's probably pissed on it.i'd rather stand..
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
5 Feb 18
@scarlet_woman I see a few bus seats ruined by stains, dumped food, and tears etc
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@snowy22315 (169965)
• United States
4 Feb 18
There are many people who think the world revolves around them..I will admit I am not perfect but I do try to have some awareness of the needs of other people especially if it is crowded and bench space, or seating space is at a premium. I ran into more than my fair share of Aholes with this whole room renting thing.
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
4 Feb 18
@snowy22315 it is frighteing how many a-holes there are - rather draws Darwin's theory of survival of the fittest into doubt
@crossbones27 (48417)
• Mojave, California
4 Feb 18
Just the times we live in and not sure how people ended up being so inconsiderate.
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
4 Feb 18
@crossbones27 hard to tell what i going through their minds
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
4 Feb 18
@mydanods sadly all too true
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@JohnRoberts (109857)
• Los Angeles, California
4 Feb 18
It's mainly the homeless who occupy benches here.
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
4 Feb 18
@JohnRoberts I don't mind the genuinely homeless using the benches - they clearly have a greater need than I would require
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@redurnet (1799)
• United Kingdom
5 Feb 18
This is something that really irks me when I get on public transport. Many people seem to do it and they do it even though they know the bus will fill to capacity. I think it's completely ridiculous. I am not afraid to ask them to move but they are almost always surly as a response.
I was once on a bus which was running late and it pulled into the side of the bus station entrance and was letting people off before it could pull into the official place. I was catching a connecting train so I needed to get off and when I said 'excuse me, I need to get off' to the man beside me he turned and actually said "I'm not moving" and I had to literally push by his legs with my big bag and squeeze out. It was horrible and humiliating and put me off wanting to use public transport ever again. If I'm honest I would like a seat by myself rather than sit with a horrible stranger like this but I would still never do that thing putting my bag up on the seat.
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
5 Feb 18
that was pretty nasty of him @redurnet amazing how people like that are loose in society
@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
4 Feb 18
@Kandae11 yes, sometimes it is safer not to confron them
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@m_audrey6788 (58485)
• Germany
4 Feb 18
Yes, There are a lot of that kind around here who don`t really care about others I hope there`s a subject about good ethics and right manners to help kids be aware about it
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@Poppylicious (11133)
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4 Feb 18
On the bus I do make a beeline for the seat with a bag on, just to spite the bag ... it didn't pay for a ticket!
Bench hogging is not good, nor is not giving up your seat on the bus {or at least offering} when someone who obviously needs it more gets on, but some people may have good reason for not giving up their seat - not all things are as blatantly obvious as pregnancy, old age and only having one leg!
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